I finally have a good number of roommates to choose from, but I'm not sure if I want to have a male or a female roommate. I've gotten along well with all my roommates in the past (both male and female). Each has positive and negative sides and now that I actually get to choose I'm torn between the two. I know I should just try to pick the one that I think I could get along best with or have fun hanging out with, but I'm not sure. Here's what I've done in the past: Dorm 1 male roommate, 3 different times over 2 years House 1 male roommate, 1 summer 1 female, 1 male, 1 year 4 male roommates, 2 years Apartments 1 male roommate, 1 year 1 female roommate, 6 months (we just signed a 6 month lease) I'm out of college so I don't have to worry about the dorms being a choice, though sharing a dorm with a female doesn't seem like a bad option to me. My current options: Efficiency no roommate, very small Apartment 1 female roomate 1 male roommate Condo 1 female roommate Townhome 1 male roommate 1 female roommate House 1 male and 1 female roommate Any suggestions? I would normally want a female roommate, but the problem with a female roommate is that it's sometimes difficult to get into a serious relationship with someone else. (Maybe that is a plus) Anyway, I have about a week to think about it. Any ideas, or anything I should try to consider or look out for when choosing a roommate? Thanks, B
I`ve always found female roomies to be cleaner and more responsible although you have to deal with their jealous boyfriends. I would get a place by youself, you may not have the nicest place but you can call it your own. If you do go with the girl roomate, make sure to explain " Naked Thursday`s" {yes, that was a Friend`s reference }
I would say pick someone who you can get along with and who plans to stay for a long time... and who can pay the rent. Usually that means picking a guy who likes sports. Tho women make better roomates. They are cleaner and make friendly conversation. They also invite their friends over and you get even more of the same. If you pick a decent looking chick your girlfriend will likely have a major problem with it. That's just natural. Very few people I know wouldn't be somewhat suspicious or concerned that you might hook up at a weak moment.
sounds like you've had lots of experience, so I don't know what to add. Gender seems irrelevant to personality, compatible living preferences, unless you have parents, girlfriend who mind. Personally, I'm also the type of person who likes to clear things up/work things out from the start about personal preferences, etc. If you feel comfortable about living with each of these people, and have worked out how you'd divide things up, etc., I'd say you can't go wrong. Consider also, if you can tell, the social lives of your prospective roommates (whether they'll have friends over frequently, etc.) and how well that works for you. I also presume money's a wash. Good luck.
Well, I have no girlfriend right now, I just don't want to get myself in a position where I'm limiting myself. On one hand some women may be jealous of a female roommate, on the other hand, I could meet a lot more women with a female roommate (I don't run into to many females other than Rocket games, and even then most of them are with their boyfriends/husbands). My parents also live in Houston, and while I'm sure my mom wasn't happy about me sharing a place with another female, I can live with her being upset about that. I was able to have a serious relationship while roomming with another female, but it was long distance, so maybe that's why it never was an issue. I'm not exactly sure what you mean by money's a wash. There is just a small different in price in each of the locations, and they each vary in distance to work, but they are all within 35 miles. I currently am driving 50 miles one way to work so anything 35 and under is great (as long as it's against traffic). Thanks for the suggestions, and don't stop, I'll be checking this thread frequently. Any ideas for questions I should ask? Thanks, B
I think it all comes down to personality and making sure you have compatible traits: morning person or night owl, messy or neat, party goer or bookworm, etc... In a small living space things like that can make or break the roommate relationship. Personally, I'm a complete slob and that has driven some of my roommates (males) and family members to near insanity. Happily Mr. JB is just as piggish as me so we're quite compatible in that respect. Honestly, I'd probably pick the efficiency and have a small place that's all my own.
Mrs. JB said it for me. Specific questions that might be important to work out are more appropriate once you've decided to live together. The ones Mrs. JB mentioned, plus general tell-me-about-yourself data is really all worth going into before you make the decision.
She hit the nail on the head. If I was single and had to do it all over again, I would want my own pad. No rules, no one to worry about or answer to. If you feel like sitting around, watching T.V. in the nude.... No problem !
I had a 3 bedroom apartment to myself when I lived in Chicago, and it wasn't too bad, but my best times have been when I had other people living with me. I guess I'm just not a solitary person. Also, saving cash is a big deal to me, and I can save a couple hundred a month by having a roommate. B
