If you had to pick one over the other, what would you pick (for a serious relationship)? If you are going for the short term then obviously you wouldn't worry about personality *cough cough one night stand cough cough* But I'm not that kind of guy. There's AIDS and all kinds of other diseases out to nab those who aren't careful. The benefits of personality: You develop chemistry. You can get along with the person better. The benefits of looks: Well, ahem... Can I help you put that suntan lotion on? Hubba hubba. I pick personality because looks fade with time (although modern technology may slow it down further in the years to come). I think if I am going to stick with someone they have to have it together inside (priority). Looks are an added bonus. I hope to find someone that reflects a happy medium. What do you all think?
I have to admit...I cannot pick one over the other. I need a cosmic combination of both. ------------------ "Blues is a Healer" --John Lee Hooker
Tex said it. I'll take an average-looking girl with personality over a knockout that's superficial. ------------------ "I had mine chewed off by a boss one time." -- Behad leaves us wondering if he gets hazard pay... [This message has been edited by Dr of Dunk (edited June 26, 2001).]
I think some good examples might be Carmen Electra. Not the brightest women, but you wouldn't mind looking at her from behind. I'd probably do her. Chemistry just kicks in. I'm not saying I'd stay with her for long, but she's the type of woman that would give you a lot of happiness for a short period of time. In my opinion most people have good qualities deep down. Even Carmen. she just hasn't matured yet, but when she does, you've got the best of both worlds. So I think picking beauty gives you a greater chance at happiness. I'm not saying a regular looking woman isn't or can't be sexy, they can, I'm just saying I'd get together with Carmen Electra rather than Rosie O'Donnell if I had the choice. ------------------ humble, but hungry.
Agreed... Actually I'm currently dating a girl who is totally amazing personality-wise, but honestly, pretty average in the looks department. On the other hand, this other girl I know WANTS to date me that is downright gorgeous, but she's a total flake, so I won't let myself go there... But I do keep hoping for nice combination of the two.... Decent looking and good personality is hard to beat... ------------------ "There are three kinds of lies: Lies, Damned Lies, and STATISTICS..." - Mark Twain -
Darkhorse: I've had to face that situation in the past. I've never succumbed to the temptation... but a little voice keeps saying "what if a woman this attractive never wants me again? Wouldn't it be nice to date a bombshell for a while?" Very frustrating. But it's something that you know beforehand you'll regret later... ------------------ Newbiehad... coming to a bbs near you, October 31st.
When we are younger, it seems we date to impress our peers. We like to have the fine babe (or guy) to make ourselves feel better, instead of dating someone we get along with and have fun. I couldn't date an extremely ugly person with a great personality, but I would definately hit up on an ok looking girl for a great personality. PsiSlamma - Personality covers a lot. What I might find good, you might find bad. As far as Carmen, she wants lots of attention, could you provide that? Its not so much that she is "immature" or "bad". But for Rosie ... I definately couldn't see myself with her ... she is a bit too much of a b**** for me. Does she have any positives? ------------------ "Bada Bing!"
I agree 100%. I think I'm suffering from that right now. I want someone that's really stunning so I can impress my friends when I already have someone that will stick by me. She may not strike us stunning, but we get along great. ------------------ [This message has been edited by rock (edited June 26, 2001).]
This is how I feel. Plus, I tend to have different tastes than many. I prefer a girl-next-door look to what would be widely considered to be a "beautiful" look (not an altogether unusual preference, but not what seems to be the norm). But even though I am an ugly fat guy, I don't like those qualities in women. ------------------
I think that, for me, I couldn't BEGIN a relationship with someone I didn't find attractive. That doesn't mean they have to fit the rest of the world's concept of beauty or be a supermodel, but I would have to be attracted to them for there to be chemistry. Once I was in the relationship, I don't think my feelings could change. Knowing myself, no matter how the person's looks changed, I would still picture her as beautiful because of how I feel about her. Of course, it's easy for me to say because my wife is even better looking today then when we met, but I honestly believe it wouldn't matter now even if she wasn't. ------------------ Things do not change; we change. - Henry David Thoreau
For me... it's all about the looks when I first meet the girl. The thing is though, I find so many ranges of looks to be beautiful. To me good looking is also more about the looks. It's how they carry themselves. First impressions (and second and third, etc.) matter a lot. However, when it comes down to it, what truly gets me is how the girl acts day to day. The way she treats me and other people in everyday situations is what is truly important. I'm a relationship kind of guy, not a one night stand person. So how she acts day to day is what is most important to me. I look for someone who makes me happy and can make me smile. I also look for someone who can relate to me and can see my inner feelings. I'm madly in love with this girl I haven't even known two months. We're just nuts for each other. A big part of the reason why this is true is simply because we feel so comfortable around each other. She easily sees into my "soul" and immediately knows how to make me feel at ease. She knows how to make my worries and pain go away. We can emphathize with each other so much it's almost like we're the same person at times. Being able to connect with someone on that level is the greatest thing. Oh, wait, seems I've strayed off the subject. Well, I'm going with personality. It is above and beyond the most important... But looks are important, too. Lord Tree ------------------ Who is Lain?
I agree that when you are younger that you date to impress your friends. As the old saying goes: "Beauty is in the eyes of your friends." ------------------ Don't think....just throw. Don't think....just throw.
Average looking with a good personality sounds fine. But, she can't be chubbier then me. ------------------ "norm, would you like to buy an indian scalp ? This deal isn't gonna make or break me Norm, so don't jerk me around." Harry Carey "Norm, if I had a mohawk scalp, I wouldn't be sitting here talking to you."
I don't know about ya'll, but I think confidence and personality can make a big difference in a women's attractiveness. I hate to use a Hollywood example to hit home, but think of the transformation of the nutty Alley Shedy (sp?) character in the Breakfast Club. I would degenerate to talking about bags and such (e.g., you can't bag a bad personality), but decided I should not go there.
C'mon gr8-1, why don't you put some restrictions on yourself... You can't go dating every girl that comes along... j/k ------------------ "There are three kinds of lies: Lies, Damned Lies, and STATISTICS..." - Mark Twain -
LOL. . Actually, I have lost 6 pounds. I work out 6 days a week, though I may have to skip today becuz I have a sore throat. ------------------ "norm, would you like to buy an indian scalp ? This deal isn't gonna make or break me Norm, so don't jerk me around." Harry Carey "Norm, if I had a mohawk scalp, I wouldn't be sitting here talking to you."
Looks first ALWAYS! Thats what catches your eye in the first place isn't it? Love at first SIGHT and all that good stuff? I believe you can find both. Then of course if they turn out to be psycho-beyatch, their looks tend to dissapear quick! ------------------ mr0ily's Shot in the Dark:Mock Draft 2001
What if you've got neither, like Finn* ------------------ "The things I enjoy most, I suck at: 1) Sex: everything's fine until she makes noises." - Achebe Smegs Mock Draft
