What's the longest you've gone in one? Did it work out? How far apart were you? I am faced with the prospect of one in the coming months. I know that each situation is different, and it all depends on how much we want it, but I'd just like to hear some stories. I am preparing for the worst, but hoping for the best...
longest distance in a relationship for me was about a 30 minute drive across Houston. A wise man once told me, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder... ... ... of someone else."
i've done it...bad idea. here are some questions you wanna ask yourself and her: is there light at the end of the tunnel? meaning is the distance a short or long term deal? how long have ya'll been dating? what stage are you at in your lifes? any of you the jealous type? good luck!
I live in austin, had a boyfriend in houston, he cheated on me once after 4 months, we broke up, 8 months after that, we got back together, and 11 months after that, he cheated on me again. I highly advise against long distance relationships.
I think this has alot to do with AGE, if you're young dont get tied down...but if you are older, why not try and make it work if you really like her??
My high school went to college about 4 hours away, and I stayed at home and commuted to Pitt. She was there 1 semester, and then transferred to Duquesne, which is 5 minutes from Pitt. 4 years later...we got married
My wife and I lived in different cities for over a year before we were married. I didn't even own a phone. I called her from a pay phone on Sunday nights, and we would see each other about once a month. We actually wrote letters (the time before email). We never really did like to talk on the phone to each other, still don't. But now were are married and see each other every freaking day.
We'll have been together 9 months when she leaves. Both are at an age where we are not rovers & partiers anymore. She's moving to the northeast for grad school for 2 years - very intensive study. I'm willing to relocate. Would have to wait one year minimum to do so for a multitude of reasons. I fear the prospect of losing someone I feel may be 'that' one, and of starting over from scratch, back into the pool so to speak... Fear is no reason to do anything - I know this, but I am willing to do whatever I can to make it work because of who she is and because of how I feel about her. I believe she is too. But I wonder what weeks alone, and being in an intense environment with new people will do to her. I guess I have to just play it by ear & hope for the best.
2 hours difference. It lasted maye 3 months after the seperation completing the 2 year relationship, but distance was not the problem, it was all on the girl. She had and probably still does have some issues. I don't think it is that hard. What is hard is if either of you are jealous. Because they call. You are not there. They call again. You are not there. And then the drama begins with jealous people.
Rarely do long distance relationships work, if ever. Long distance hookups work much better. I was in a long distance relationship about 5 or 6 years ago with a woman who lived on the east coast. We were at it hot & heavy. Then she moved to Houston and moved right into the 600 sqft apartment I lived in at the time. We were broken up in a month and a half. Going from living 1500 miles away from each other to living together in a tiny apartment was too much too fast for the both of us. She still lives in Houston, and I'd get back together with her in a heartbeat, but I think she is way over me.
Yup. Or insecure (same thing) Actually it made it fun for us. Seeing each other was something we had to look forward to. Good times.
Rocket G, If there's an ending in sight to the long distance aspect, it's worth it, IMO. I had a long distance relationship before my current one. It got hard at times, but knowing that we would live together soon enough made it much easier.
I just got out of one and it didn't last long. When I was out in NYC a few months ago I hooked up with an old friend and we kept up a long distance relationship for a couple of months. The problem was once we had our first fight it fell apart because it was hard reconciling when we weren't physically together. So that's pretty much soured me on long distance relationships.
What's the longest you've gone in one? Three years Did it work out? nope How far apart were you? Norway/America Is your situation going to be temporary? Cause in order for this to work, one of you should move to where the other is... otherwise, it may fail. I wish you the best....
Thanks again for the responses guys. I am at an age and point in my life where I'm pretty much willing to move mountains to make a worth-it relationship work. Two years - then she'll have a good selection of places to pick to live. Given her career path it would probably entail NYC - which I would be cool with. I could even move closer to her - DC - next summer. DC woukd actually probably be a good career move for me, regardless. I'm willing to move. It's a risk - I just need to know that she'll fight for it too and that moves, and all the things I would give up here, would not be in vain.
That's the key. In my relationship, it wasn't as two-sided as I thought it was and it led to heartbreak. Of course, it led me back to Houston and to my wonderful amazing fiancee'!
