It's Official - I Will Be Single for the Rest of my Life

Maybe you should move to a bigger city. I am also single, but I do not plan for it to be that way the rest of my life .

 

Dude, you like Cold Play, S Club 7, and the Denver Broncos... and you can't date a woman without analyzing every second of what goes down. Just Relax

Maybe the grass is greener on the purple side of the fence?

 

Florida...nice. Miami...hot chicks!

 

Manny, you just haven't met someone you "connect" with. When you do, you'll look back and wonder about how goofy it was to think the way you are now. Someday you'll run into some chick at the grocery store, a record store, going for a walk... any number of unlooked-for ways, and you'll just connect.

Trust me.




I never had these problems "finding" girls to go out with, but my wife literally moved into the house in front of my garage apartment... I wasn't "on the prowl"... not at that moment, anyway. The first time she saw me, I was sitting under a big bush digging worms for a baby owl a friend had found fallen from a nest. I ended up with it and it was sitting on my shoulder. She was carrying in groceries with a roommate and I said, "Hi!". She looked around, and there I was. Pretty funny, don't you think? She saw me digging worms under a bush and was hooked.

 

It sounds like you've gotta lot on your mind, Manny. You're probably being too hard on yourself -- you're obviously an intelligent, fun-going person. Maybe you just put too much pressure on yourself (and the relationship). Relaxing is easier said than done (especially on early dates), but just focusing on having a good time would probably give a better indication of how the chemistry is.

And, that date: sounds like the chemistry was just off. It happens. Once you find a woman you "connect" with, you'll know. Good luck, dude!

 

Manny-

Im trying to be nice here so bear with me. What you lack is something chicks dig and look for in a guy - confidence. You have the stones to ask out these chicks, but its obvious to me that you feel like you have lost before you even give yourself a chance. Go up to the chicks, be yourself, see what happens. I used to obsess on why a girl wouldnt call me back, if I should email after 2 days, should I call her, blah, blah, blah, blah. You are young cool cat so dont sweat it. If she calls great. If she doesnt - F#ck her.... there are so many girls out there dude. No need to sweat a few ho's - especially in Hotlanta...... When you find the right one, you will just know it beacuse everything is easy and you can be yourself 24/7. Keep hitting it and for God's sake dont give up. Relish all of the advantages of being single. When I get down on myself with chicks I watch "Swingers" to cheer me up and keep me going.....

"She's like a bunny" - Trent

 

That blows, Manny.

I'm the same way, I guess. I don't do well with women when I'm the one that constantly has to drive the conversation. I tend to take on the same mood as the person I'm with. If I'm with a shy quiet girl, I tend to clam up too and that can make for a long night. On the other hand, if I'm with a very outgoing and peppy girl, I usually have more fun and let my real self come out.

As far as the ol' "you'll meet the one when you least expect it" theory goes, well I'm still waiting.

 

Manny, you are so money and you don't even know it.


hate to say it, but the Dawg said it. Unless you are madly in love with a woman and have to have her, worrying about matters of the heart are unnecessary.

If you have confidence, you will attract women. Whether they are women you will want to marry I cannot say, but you don't have to marry every woman you have a relationship with.


Manny, don't go on blind dates. They suck. Don't do the talk on the phone thing for an hour, either. Get a number, invite them out for drinks, find out if it's worth going further. If it's not, be glad you didn't invest more time and money, and forget about it. Move on and don't beat yourself up.







and who's Jake?

 

It happened to me over and over again.

I think part of Manny's problem (correct me if I'm wrong, Manny) is that he's on the look-out for a soulmate, a lifetime companion, a woman who fits his inner picture of who he should marry.

I never had that outlook. Never. And all my best and longest relationships were from chance meetings on streetcars, at parks, at parties, in clubs, at the lake, a gathering at a friend's place where someone showed up I never knew was coming and didn't know, under a bush at the front of my garage apartment.

I wasn't looking and didn't care if I met someone or not. Just living life and having a smile on my face most of the time. Mind open and taking things in, the things I didn't know about being the most interesting to me. The relationships just came.

 

I thought you were cutting down on your CD buying to save money?

Just giving you a hard time.

Go to church
Take a class
Get out there

You're so money

 

Manny, as much as I love reading your posts about women, I feel obligated to enlighten you on a few things.

1) Don't ask for woman advice from an internet BBS (yes I know this is hypocritical). We don't know this girl, we don't know the situation, talk to the person that set you up. Every girl is different

2) DO NOT READ INTO EVERYTHING. I honestly get the impression you would be afraid a girl will dump you because she had pancakes for breakfast instead of Cheerios.

3) Girls can smell fear or non-confidence. Maybe talk to a psychologist, improve your self esteem or what not.

4) Stop buying girly CDs, unless you're an NFL star, it's kinda odd.

5) Do not " plan" to call them until you're further along in a relationship, it's kinda stalkerish

6) DO NOT READ INTO EVERYTHING.


If it makes you feel better, moe's still obsessed with this "Crystal" girl.

This is the word of Chuck. Amen

 

There's your answer, Manny. Work on your relationship with your dog. Take that dog out and show it all the love you can give it. Go to dog parks.

You will have fawning women sniffing YOUR azz, while your dog sniffs their dog's azz.

Be Mr. Confident Sensitive Guy Who Loves His Beautiful Dog.


Then sit back and let the ladies come to you. They will.

 

moe ain't never love no ho.

 

the curse of the navy blue and black continues

in all honesty you are a great guy Manny and without a doubt you will find the right girl for you... be patient

 

If you don't mind hearing some nonsense from somebody whose age has passed you by ever since the Rockets were on a championship run, then I will write on. If you do, then I will write on just to satisfy my ego...


I've heard about your relationships for the last year now. To be brutally honest with you (since you've always been totally honest with the BBS in general, I feel like I can maybe pull this off), you're never gonna find the perfect woman. You know this already, and you've probably known it since 8 years ago when you were my age. All I can maybe/kinda/sorta/perhaps offer you is that I have the innocence that you've since lost. I think (maybe) if you were to revert to your 22 year old self, you could and would come up with these same answers...


Manny, you are a staple here amongst people that agreee with most of what you're saying ("The Rockets are Kewl"..."Women are confusing"..."These top ten songs ROCK"..."Women Screw those with Penii over..."). But that comes as a result of the fact we all can relate. 8 years ago; and still today, you know/knew that women can't really relate to us on a primal level. What does that mean? Before I write on, I just want to say that you can predict every word of wisdom that I throw your way. You already know better than this...


There is no way that you will ever find the perfect woman that understands you and, more importantly, that you can understand. Odds are, you will marry a woman that makes no sense to your general perception in life right now. That woman will make no sense if you look back on your personal perspective at this very moment in time. But she will be the love of your life. What's the difference in this whole equation; algebraically speaking? YOU.


She isn't your problem. You are. You've known this answer for quite awhile now. Just come to accept it. Move elsewhere, date other chicks; but ultimately, you will encounter the same problem because the only constant variable in this equation is you.

 

Go to Russia and pick yourself out a hot bride. Or if you're too cheap for that, mail order.

bam.

problem solved.

 

Manny,

As an adult, I had lived in Lubbock, Houston, Austin, Newport Beach, Huntington Beach, then met my wife (who was living in Albuquerque) when I lived in Alamosa, Colorado, population 15,000. Oddly, she almost went to UT when I was there, but decided to go to Tech instead. She was still there went I went to Grad school, at Tech of course, but we still didn't meet till several years later (even though we knew some of the same folks at Tech)...when we lived in different States and I lived in a tiny backwoods town at 8000 feet in the Rockies.

My opinion: there's someone out there for each of us. Don't sweat it. Keep looking, but don't worry about 'messing up'. If you have confidence that your match is out there, you will understand and accept that one of the women that you meet is looking for you too, then you'll be relaxed and yourself. It'll make it easier for her to recognize you. All IMHO.