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Is This Weird/Wrong?

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by Lil Pun, Dec 13, 2006.

  1. Lil Pun

    Lil Pun Member

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    OK, my girlfriend lives with her roommate and her child. I would call this girl a mutual friend. This girl is an RN and works at one of the local hospitals and she works with an older man, in the 60-70 age range, who is also an RN and married with children and grandchildren. The roommate is not in any sort of stable relationship.

    This man buys her (roommate) and her child all sorts of stuff all time. He has bought them shoes, clothes, food, paid for traffic tickets, a vacation to Branson, Missouri for her, her child, and a friend, cooks food for her, furniture, car repairs, a pool, and today he bought her a 2G iPod. That's just some of the stuff, there is probably more. Whenever she mentions something she likes or wants he usually has it for her within a week. He even makes comments about her, like when she works out at their company gym he tells her that she looks good in her workout gear and told her she was a 10 in her bathing suit at a company function.

    Now, this seems sort of wrong to me. I realize that there are generous people out there but isn't this a little too generous? I mean it's not like he is doing it for the entire hospital staff, just her. I know, if my girlfriend was buying things like this for a male she worked with I would have a problem it and I assume if the shoe was on the other foot she would have a problem with me doing it for somebody else. The roommate has acknowledged that she needs to ask him whether or not his wife knows about this but still has failed to do so. I think she has gotten spoiled and actually enjoys it.

    So is this wrong or am I being whatever?
     
  2. No Worries

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    It is two consenting adults.
     
  3. Mr. Brightside

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    I see no problem. He is just acting as an older mentor or grandparent to the roommate.
     
  4. Hayesfan

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    He sounds like a perv making his move to me.

    So yeah I think it sounds wrong. Unless there is a good reason (which it doesn't sound like he does have a reason at all) for him to be giving her all that stuff, he's crossing a line.

    But if she keeps taking it, she's just as bad. She obviously talks about stuff in front of the guy so he "will" buy it for her.

    She also sounds a lot like my loser ex-roommate who still owes me over 400 bucks. Tell your girlfriend to watch her money.
     
  5. JuanValdez

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    Not to alarm you, but the behavior is similar to that of a pedophile I convicted last summer. I think it sounds likely, anyway, that his motives are not strictly friendly.
     
  6. Saint Louis

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    I agree, it has the "hey little girl, want a piece of candy" written all over it.
     
  7. Lil Pun

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    WOW! My girlfriend is constantly having to give her money. Just the other day she showed up at my house to get my girlfriend's debit card for some gas.
     
  8. jiggadi

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    The guy has money and he is looking for some action with this chic. How is that wrong? The part that is wrong is the fact that he is married.
    I know when I get old and wrinkled I won't expect to have young women find me attractive (or act as if they find me attractive) without shellin out some cash.
     
  9. SwoLy-D

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    It's wrong when SHE accepts it. :( If one of my relatives ever does that, I am going to the geezer and letting him know he ain't her DAD. :mad: Man, WTF kind of example is that to her kid? "Honey? The nice man is going to give you an iPod... yes I work with him and he's married... but... don't you love your iPod?" :rolleyes:

    AND She should learn to say NO. I am talking about your girlfriend, of course, Pun.
     
  10. Hayesfan

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    Classic mooch. I cut ties while the timing was good. She borrowed money from everyone and did the same sort of "money game" with her parents and a married ex-boyfriend. Saying, but the baby needs this, and they gave it to her. At the end of our rooming together she didn't pay her part of the bills either.

    Just be careful, she could be a great person otherwise, but still have money issues.
     
  11. MadMax

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    I can not imagine thinking it's "OK" for me to give gifts to another woman without at least informing my wife. If you can't tell your wife about it, it probably means you should avoid it. Unless you're cool with breaking commitments.
     
  12. Blake

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    He obviously wants to get laid. If it was a paternal instinct, he wouldn't make comments about her body.

    Hopefully the fool is getting some young *ss
     
  13. Fatty FatBastard

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    She's accepting the gifts. He's already getting laid. Trust me. We've had a couple of girls we knew who did the same thing, just saying he was just a nice guy. And then the wives found out and they were busted.
     
  14. thadeus

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    There's nothing wrong with prostitution, as long as both parties are in agreement.
     
  15. A-Train

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    Branson??

    Anyways, I think that as long as he doesn't make her kids start calling him "Uncle _______", then I say she should milk it for all she can...
     
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  16. No Worries

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    Unless you aren't really think with your big head ... :)
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  17. dskillz

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    Outside of the fact he is married, I don't see much wrong with this picture. Maybe she is giving him some and he is buying her gifts. They are 2 adults and it probably is best to just stay out of their business.
     
  18. Rocketman95

    Rocketman95 Hangout Boy

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    Dude, resize pic. Can't even read thread.
     
  19. rezdawg

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    Her legs have been wrapped around him.
     
  20. Invisible Fan

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    Quid pro quo, Clarice.
     

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