Is it ok to have a crush on somone when you are already in a relationship?

No, it is not okay. If one of you has a crush on somebody else, there is a commitment problem with your relationship.

But if it's not a heavily committed relationship, then it's not out of the ordinary to be comparing people and trying to find the right fit.

 

dump her, bro

 

Did she tell you she had a crush on another guy?

 

Dump her ass.

 

Wtf so you found out by a myspace comment.

Yeah get rid of her.

 

It sounds like when she finds the right guy, she'll leave you. I think that it's okay to have a secret harmless crush on someone when we're in long term relationships. However, if you feel like she's acting on feelings (excessive flirting, ignoring you, constantly busy, etc), then you may be better off dumping her first and get another girl.

 

Depends on what you mean by crush.

- Find someone attractive. Maybe have a dream or two about them. That is probably okay.

- Starting to compare them to the person your actually with...um, you better start some serious thinking.

- anything more and it could be issue.

Acting an any of this is bad, even if you start hanging out with them more subconsciously because you have a crush on them (though if you don't realize it, you can probably get away with it until you do)

Though this also depends on whether this is person that you know in real-life and see semi-regularly to regularly, someone who you met one time or so, or a famous celebrity.

 

Haha, well there you go. Dump her unless you're p***y whipped.

 

Have you talked to her?

If not it is time for you to let her know how you feel.

 

Okay read your actual post now...

Um she sounds like she is dating you to date someone, and not necessarily because it is you. If your okay with that, then go with it. If not, then beware.

 

whatever the decision, you will look back on this in 10 years and think you were a complete idiot....and you probably are being so.

From the sound of your post, I'd suggest making some personal changes. It all comes back to knowing what you want and who you are. Have some self-confidence. And I don't mean walking into a room and swinging your dick around as the big man. Self-confidence really means what it says - confidence in who you are and what you are and being content and comfortable with that. Granted, you probably don't know who you are quite yet...but be confident in who you are now.

Look at the long-term view. You're only 17. Are you trying to get married next year or something? If so, great, is this girl the one. If not, great, so then what do you want out of a relationship? And is this relationship providing that?

 

Harmless crushes are ok.
Sex dreams involving other people are ok.
Having friends of the opposite sex is ok.

But flirting with/leading someone else on or cheating on your S.O. (which involves stuff like, kissing, or even having dinner alone with the other person) is crossing the line, IMO. Of course, I'm talking serious long-term relationships. You are 17 and will have many girlfriends before you settle down. Don't worry too much about it.

 

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