Just wondering if anyone here is in a fight with a close friend right now. My buddy, HoonaBan, is really mad at me right now, so I would just like to make a public apology to him. He has colon cancer and could be gone tomorrow for all I know. We shouldn't waste time being mad at our friends. Even if your friend doesn't have cancer like HoonaBan does, they could still be gone tomorrow. So I suggest everyone here to patch things up with loved ones. Hate makes waste. Just my .02 for the day.
That is great advice. I struggle everyday about making up with my dad. He is a real jack off most of the time and I have made up with him several times only to get bitten in the ass over and over. I just wonder if it is better to continually get bit in the ass and know that you have made an effort and then if something did happen I wouldnt have any regrets or if I should continue being hard headed and prolong our stalemate.
Agreed MB. Excellent advice. Even if there is the repeat "bite on the ass", we should still make up. Jesus keeps accepting us, despite our continual wrongdoings, and if we want to be like Jesus, we should forgive continuously. Thanks for the heads up Rocket Kid. In the spirit of Jesus' resurrection, I should make up with people I've been angry at.
RocketKid, I'm sorry about your friend... that's got to be a really tough situation. I learned a hard lesson in college. My friends and I were a tight but sometimes dysfunctional group, and I don't think we were very good at discussing the important things in life. (we were also a coed group, and interpersonal relationships could get kind of tangled) By the time we graduated, a bunch of us ended up mad at each other for various reasons, mostly stupid. These people were an important part of my life; sure, they hurt me first, but retaliating doesn't help. Holding onto a grudge doesn't help. I think all the time about those whom I did not part with on good terms. I could have taken the high road. I knew how to take the high road. And I didn't. Sure, it's easier to say this now that time has dulled the emotional intensity of things, but I'd just like to believe I could have done something to prevent what happened. The weird thing is, there was another person from this group I used to fight with a lot. We did manage to make up later and have mostly stayed friends since, because we don't live that far apart. I'm not sure where this stands after this past spring break, though. We were on a trip with a much larger group of people, and he and his friends did something stupid. I wasn't mad at them for what they did, but I don't condone it either. They all got off in their little clique and wouldn't talk to the rest of the group. I went with the other group, but told everybody it wasn't personal. I'm not sure if I'm in or out with him and his clique right now, since they've been ignoring me (probably for "breaking ranks" with them). Who knows what will happen. Most people want to know why I put up with friends like that in the first place. I guess I'm too nice and I'm always there for people if they want another chance - or maybe I'm just codependent. Part of me still hopes the whole thing will blow over after everybody has cooled off. Anyway, you're right; life is too short to hold a grudge. Anger feeds on itself and will turn you into something you never wanted to become. For example, Master Baiter, at least you're doing the right thing... you might end up getting hurt but the alternative is worse. Thanks for listening.
