Ever since when I was little, I always have dreams to become a successful person in life both financially and accomplishment wise. Now, I drop out of community college after three years, still live with my parent (not that it's bad, but it is because it means I can't support myself), have no jobs, have no friends here (they're in different city), no girlfriend, no money, no knowledge, no skill, no confident, no goals, no plans, and no directions in life. Every time when I wake up, I have no direction in where I'm heading toward, but to sit and wait for the day to ended empty. This is not me, this is not what I was born to be, this is not what I want to be, and this is not what I was taught to be. Thanks for listening to my story, this is the only place I know that I will have good people to listen to my story.
Why do you drop out of community college? If you do not like the major you had, you might consider switch areas. If it is the money issue, work at any job you can find and save some money. Since you are living at your parents' place, that should not be too hard. Once you get your degree, either consider get a BA or look for a job that can support yourself.
Ron Paul would tell you that you have to pull yourself up by your own bootstraps. But I think that is actually against the laws of physics. I'm not a psychologist. I'm just playing one on the BBS this morning....Sounds like your depression might be clinical and needs to be addressed medically. It's no disgrace, we are all just a bunch of chemical reactions and sometimes your chemicals aren't right.....like your body may not be producing enough serotonin. You need to put down the bong, put away the emo; start getting some exercise, even if it is just walking for a half an hour a day and go see your family doctor and tell him exactly what's going on. He will probably recommend a psychologist, he will probably recommend an anti-depressant, take'em and get on with the only life you are going to get. Look around, it's not that hard to be average and average is good enough. You go back to college , get you a two year degree, get a job that pays enough to live on your own, make some friends at school and work, ask a few girls for a date till one of them says yes....that's all there is to it really. But you have to take a little initiative, you can't just shut yourself off and ruminate on your problems.
You probably won't be rich and succesful. We all want to be, but in reality the chances are very slim. It's no secret that luck plays a huge part in becoming majorly succesful. You can't bank on that. You have to just do what you are ABLE to do and put as much effort into it as you can. Try and visualize the chain of events between going to college and becoming rich/succesful. If you can't visualize that line, it will be difficult to work for it. Don't give up. If you give up, no one will feel bad for you, and no one will want to help you. Trying and repeatedly running into obstacles is accepteable. Completely giving up is absolutely not. Find something you like to do. Visualize the chain to success. Take positive steps to climb the chain. InshaAllah you'll be alright.
go work hard and go back to college...not just some community college which is second grade education...go to a proper university and study hard...cos in this world...you dont get more out than you put in...take initiative...life isnt going to be delievered to you on a platter...i know that sounds so cliche but that's ultimately what you need...education is the prelude to any form of success...you sound like you're still young as well so grab life by the balls and shake as much goodies as you can out of it... "There is a tide in the affairs of men Which, taken at the flood, leads on to fortune; Omitted, all the voyage of their life Is bound in shallows and in miseries. On such a full sea are we now afloat; And we must take the current when it serves, Or lose the ventures before us." - William Shakespeare, Julius Caesar
1) Start by setting a tangible long term goal. What exactly do you want to do? What do you like to do? Don't focus on the financial so much at this point. Do something you like and you will never have to work a day in your life. 2) Set shorter term goals that will help you achieve #1. These goals should be anywhere from 1 month to 1 year. 3) Set ever shorter goals. What do I need to do today?
how old are you? have your parents coddled you all your life so you have no motivation on your own? or are you just lazy? if youre not willing to go to school, and you have no job... do a 2 year tour in the army. I think that may put things into perspective for you and light a fire under your butt. good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Life is a journey, its not the end of world and your life as just started. I take it that you are in your around 21 years old. Your adult life has just started. You have another sixty to eighty years to catch up. The most important thing is to keep moving foward and be productive while you figure it out. If you don't know what you want to do in life, keep on going to school and learning. It will teach you skills that will not only help you with your future endeavors, it may even teach you what you want to do. If you don't want to go back to school, get a job and save your money. The money will allow you to invest in what ever you want to do in the future such as going back to school or starting a business. It also helps to keep things in perspective. There are alot of people in this world that don't know where their next meal is coming from or if they will have water to drink next month. There are other people who have to start over much later in life because of war, divorce, or natural disasters. In the end it almost always works out. This may sound corny, but you may want to study budhism. Learn it as a philosophy and not a religion. It helps you gain perspective and figure out whats really important to you.
why don't you find a job in the city where your friends are at? See if they can hook you up. Then you'll have friends around you and you'll be out of your parents house.
How old are you? You kind of sound like me 10 years ago. I went to UH right out of high school. But I just messed around and didn't go to class or do anything really. So I was a dud for two semesters. I took a semester off. Then, in an effort to motivated myself, I drained my bank account to pay for a 3rd semester myself. Same result. I just squandered. $2,000. Thus ended my career at UH. 6 credit hours and a 0.50 GPA. So for the next year I did absolutely nothing. I still lived with my mother and I sat on my ass and did absolutely nothing but surf the net and watch TV. It took a year but I finally got bored of that routine everyday. I decided I was ready to try again. I took a mini session at San Jac and then 2 summer sessions and started back as a full time student. I left San Jac 2 years later with a 3.96 GPA. I transfered to Texas State and got my degree 3 years later, graduating Magna c*m Laude. It seems that once I actually got myself going in the right direction, it all worked out. But everybody was worried about me and my future when I was struggling. I believe that there are a ton of HS graduates that simply disciplined or ready to go to college right out of HS. A lot of them would be better served to simply take a year or two off. But it's expected that they go to college immediately. So they do, then they fail. You have to find some kind of motivation. For me, I simply needed time (and to get bored with a sedentary lifestyle). And I disagree with AussieJack, when you're ready, stick it out at community college, especially for core classes. There's no use wasting money at a university if you don't know if you're really ready to be a full time student. Get on track at a CC then transfer. Just make sure your GPA is up to par. Once you transfer to a university, they'll take whatever credits you earned but not the grades. But you have to get into the university first. It might be worth transferring to another community college in order to get a fresh GPA.
Actually, don't put down that bong. In fact, if you were hittin the bong, you wouldn't be feeling like that. Weed was put on this earth for times like this to help us get by. So I suggest before you let the doctor rob you, go burn some ganja and I bet you'll feel better & view your life in a different perspective. Why pop pills when you can smoke Nature's cure for depression & just about everything else. It'll change your state of mind, which you need.
First things first. You have an idea of where you want to go in life. You want to be successful. Define what you think successful is. If it's making $70,000 a year, then that's what it is for you. Figure out how to get there. What type of career or field will get you what you want? Figure out what you want to be. Choose a school that will get you to that goal. Apply for aid and student loans and go do the work.
yeah he's right...if you're only got motivation to go to community college at the moment...then stick to it...but i only wanted to point to you that you need to aim high...
I think the end goal should be to transfer to a university and finish a bachelors degree. But there is nothing wrong with taking core classes at a junior college. 1)It's the same thing. Algebra is Algebra. There are some really good teachers at JC's too. 2)It's MUCH cheaper than a university and the credit counts just the same. 3)If it's a subject you struggle with and you barely scrape by with a C, the credit transfers but the grade doesn't. So you get the same education for less money and it doesn't hurt as much if you bomb the course. IMHO, a great place to get yourself on track before you take advanced and specialized classes at a university.
Do not listen to this at all. You have to work it out for yourself. Do not ever depend on a magic genie. Many people are "successful" and unhappy. Do not depend on it for happiness. It might take you some time to figure out what you want to do, try not to agonize over it. Different emotions come and go like the clouds, don't get too attached to them, even the good ones. Do not let even your own expectations rule your life. Things will never be exactly as you want them to be. Relax, find what you love and go with the flow. Try to focus on what is good right now. http://news-service.stanford.edu/news/2005/june15/jobs-061505.html 'You've got to find what you love,' Jobs says
