screw em'. there's no good ones out there. after years of avoiding a serious relationship I finally got into one a few months back. what was I thinking? it all ends up like this and I don't have time for this. I'm f-ing sick of the bullsh!t that comes when people can't communicate. my story is a long one, but I'll tell it later. what is yours? how have women (or men) fuqued you over in the past or present, and is it worth it to keep leaving yourself exposed to being f-ed over?
I like mine. Been going out with her for 5.5 years and love her more then anything. Almost as much as the Rockets!
If you never leave yourself out there to get hurt, you'll never reap the benefits of having a close, intimate relationship with one special person. The type where she'll know when you've had a bad day and ill try to make you feel better...the kind where she'll see you at your worst moment and you'll see her at her's...and it won't matter. You'll still care for each other. That's what my marriage is. I have been hurt horribly by women before. But I kept on going and I found something irreplaceable. In time...so will you...if you risk it. Yep...it's worth it. No doubt.
hey if your good in bed they will always want you...its true. They always call you, you don't have to call either they will come to you watch. I'll show you some time.yeah right. For an honest answer. You need to talk more bfore hooking up cause you have to get to know them, and they annou you, or you think you annoy them. It a good idea to quit, but if you in it for a freind with benefits, make a move but don't be her boyfriend. Trust me ik now how its done.
Ref, Just picked up on this thread, and it is apropos to my life right now. I'm entering my 3rd year of law school, and the relationship I've been in for over a year just disintegrated a week ago. Man, I am reeling right now. I've been emotionally crushed by someone who I let in to my little, tightly guarded, inner circle. I guess the one solace I take from your post is, ultimately, things will have worked out for the best...even if I damn sure don't see it right now. Just sucks when you get leveled like this...feels like someone just kicked the ever-living *!#@ out of me. And what do I have to take my mind off of this? Reading for good ol' Agency and Partnership. I guess things will get better. I sincerely hope so.
Brother I know how you feel. It DOES suck. It WILL get better. I also know how bad it can be in law school. I was living with my love interest when I started law school. 6 weeks into my first semester of law school, she booted me out. Everything in my life changed. I had no money, no job...so I had to move back in with my parents in addition to dealing with my utter heartbreak. I was also trying to figure out what I was doing in regards to studying for law school. And all I had to give me comfort was Civil Procedure and Legal Research. What law school do you go to if you don't mind me asking? And have you joined Phi Alpha Delta yet? If not...shame on you.
I go to South Texas. I'm not PAD, although some of my good friends are. I'm Phi Delta Phi. It's wierd, but in a way I take some comfort knowing someone else has been through something similar. That you don't merely have corporate knowledge of the feeling....you probably felt alot of the things I'm feeling right now. That helps. Thank you. Ahhh, nothing better to ease one's heartache than a little Penoyer v. Neff analysis.
I am an alumni advisor for the PAD chapter at UH. Even though you're PDP I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. No sweat. You are not in an easy place right now. I figured it would help you to know a few of the details of what I went through. What I posted was merely the tip of the iceberg. In a time when you're searching for some sense of normalcy...mine was suddenly gone. I'd be more than happy to tell you more...all you have to do is ask. I preferred International Shoe.
DallasThomas, It is very possible to find a fantastic woman, so you either are finding the wrong ones for you (likely) and/or having some communication problems (we all do to some extent). Take an honest look at your experiences. How are you selecting your dates? Have you determined what type of woman you really want? One thing I found is that mistakes we make in life are repeated, and actually can become more serious each time...until we learn our lessons.
I don't know, the girl I'm dating right now is a pretty good one. Definitely at or near the top of my dating curve. Brunette. Great body. Has an actual career, isn't just bouncing aimlessly between jobs. Although, to your point, she's no longer "out there", so you might be right.
i've been hurt too many times to ever pursue a serious relationship again... i agree, screw women! and than there are stories like I heard on the radio while running this morning that validate my point... some women called the radio station during a weekly "confessional" segment... she stated, using a false name of course, that she does the finances for her and her fiance... well, she recently came across his PIN number, went into his account and <b>STOLE</b> over $40,000!!!!!!! are you freakin' kidding me???? 40 grand??? Since he doesn't do any financial stuff in the house, he doesn't know yet. Now she doesn't know how to explain, so she's planning on skipping town and never telling him anything... its stories like this that make me glad I will never get married... now before you all jump on me and say all women are not like that, let me state... I KNOW THIS!!!! but i'm not willing to take the chance to find out which women are and which aren't hurtful... if it means i'll be alone for the rest of my life, that's totally fine by me. i've been alone for a long portion of my life and quite happy that way as well!
Fine, don't date anyone. More for me. Seriously, it may well be a very healthy thing to take a nice long break from women, generally. It may come as a suprise to some, but there is more to life. Btw, are you going to tell us your story?
Jeese . . this guy is a moron . . . .not dealing with the finances!!! NEVER LET THE WOMAN NEAR YA MONEY . . .ESP IF YA NOT MARRIED!!! [always have some on the side too] Rocket River "Gotta let a hoe be a hoe . . " - Ghetto Boys "Treat her like a prostitute . . .. don't treat a girlie well until you sure of the truth . . . cause all they do is hurt and trample.. .. . listen up kids here comes my 1st example." - Slick Rick
I think the motto here is you get exactly what you think you're going to get. If you believe women are mean-spirited, after your money, looking to screw you over, whatever...then that's what you'll get. There are plenty of great people (male and female) out there, but they usually know enough to steer clear of potential mates with pre-conceived notions of how rotten their gender is.
Well, the first thing you should probably do is cross off of your list of potential mates any woman who would call in and brag about her personal life to a morning radio show.
Once you quit searching you just may find what you are looking for. What I mean is... Things as basic as love happen naturally. Sit back relax and make some female friends with out the pressure of a relationship and you never know what may happen. Worked for me.
The key is to have some backup. Someone who you can fall back on. When I don't have backup I usually find myself staying in a relationship way too long when I knew all along it was going nowhere. However, when I have backup It's really easy to let go and try the backup. So my philsophy has been to date one girl, but be preparing to date another. I honsetly think that dating maybe two or three women at thye same time is much more healthy than dating one. You just get locked in when dating one person and it's tough to step away and see the real picture.
BEST ADVICE: Never ever ever never ever wear your heart on your shirt sleeve. You are opening yourself up for a whole world of hurt. I have been burned many times before. I found it best to keep your guard up a good 2 months in to avoid heartbreak. There are plenty of good looking fishies out there, so keep your rod in tact!! One will grab on to it eventually and you will never be happier!
