last week. i went to a restaurant and applied for a job. as i was waiting to be interviewed some random girl started talking to me, asking me where i went to school, and the usual get to know you garbage. this happens about once every five years. well, with attractive girls. anyway, i near the end before she was interviewed i asked her for her freaking phone number and she gave it to me. two days later i called her. it was at 7 on last thursday. she answered and said something to the affect of "im cooking dinner, but i remember you. i can call you back i have your number on my caller id." i said "ok, thanks" which is a dumb thing to say. anyway she hasnt called back. the number she allegedly has though, is the number on this internet connection. which means its busy quite a bit, and i rarely answer it when it rings. so im thinking maybe shes tried calling back but didnt get me. even if i knew she didnt even try to call me back, i still plan on calling her back today. (a week and a day later) and asking her to do something tomarrow. i was thinking a freaking movie at river oaks, nine queens. i cant freaking think of anything else. but anyway ill cross that bridge if i ever come to it. you think i should call her back? im going to anyway, but im not so sure if i should. any advice, peptalks, or whatever you want to say would be greatly appreciated. (im not really a midget, and no offense to anyone out there who is, i just felt like titling the thread that)
How politically incorrect. They are not midgets, they are little people. Geeeeze..... Anyway, heck yes you should call her back. Tell her the number she has is blah blah blah (what you typed above), and here is a number that you are easily reachable on. Then ask her to do something. If she says no, and/or doesn't call you back, then drop it and move on. Life is too short to fret over the silly things.
holden you're a dork. should you call her back? yes. should you ask her to a movie she will love and you will hate? yes. you will never win a race by never starting it.
Just call her back and see what happens. I'm not sure I see the dilemma other than she may have discovered your an internet geek who ties up the phone with the modem alot. If she's a biyatch, then she'll go off on you and say something like "I said I had your number off caller ID and I would call you back...why are you calling me back again?" in which case your clues are obvious. Most likely, she'll probably say something like "I tried to call you back but your phone was busy every time I called...you got a gf or something" in which case you can explain how your an internet geek. Then, she may not want to go out with you once she discovers that. Either way...calling her back is the right thing to do if you want to try and get a relationship going(or get laid...whichever your intentions are). I'm unclear how on any of this makes you a midget. I think Clutch needs to set up a new forum for dating and relationship questions because it's definitely been a hot topic around here and probably deserves its own forum.
CALL HER BACK!!!! you will regret not calling her. . more than you will regret calling her TRUST ME Rocket River "Stop being a punk and COME ON!!! " Debo from 'Friday'
I heard this once in a corny Time Management seminar or some similar crappy meeting at work, but I kind of like it: Do the things you will remember in 10 years. This qualifies, dude. Call her. BTW, which restaurant were you interviewing at?
If you are going to River Oaks, don't do Nine Queens. Take her to Y Tu Mama Tambien. LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The very first scene, you will know why I'm laughing.
Magic eight ball says.... "IT IS CERTAIN." you can't front on the magic eight ball! Call the girl back! It's fate! (Or some prism-like shape with words on it floating in goo tells me...)
Wow DM, 1006 posts and you finally have one that makes sense . Holden I agree with everyone else call her. Then make sure you let us know what she says.
I applied at pappadeax. all i wanted to do was wash some freaking dishes. youd think theyd hire me for that right? nope, no summer hirings, they need someone fulltime. i think im going to work downtown now. interning a stockbroking firm. its what i did last summer ive seen Y Tu Mama Tambien, i dont think thats a good first date movie. what ever a "date" is. maybe ill take her to "Fat Girl" at angelika. i havent seen that yet. although i think its even more f**ked up then Y mama. i dont think anyone in this world is not a dork, i just think some people hide it a little better. there is a certain comfort in living life in total silence and nothingness, as in never talking to anyone, never pursuing anyone, just letting things happen or not happen to you. its an unfufilling way to live, but its comfortable. certain things eventually make you happy sometimes, not the same things as a person who takes over the world, but certain small things. lots of lows, but occasional highs. ive called girls in high school and regretted it. i thought back and thought how it would have just been easier to have stayed mysterious to them. if i had never said anything to them, they would have wondered about me, but if you expose to much of yourself to them, maybe they become dissapointed. and so it goes and so it goes. you get nothing in the end but comfort. i think something should be said about loving yourself before you put yourself out there and expect to be loved by someone else. no one wants to deal with people like that, just like you really dont want to read about me b!tching. anyway, this is a disaster waiting to happen, but a disaster that needs to happen. did i overthink all of this? yes, of course. did i blow it out of proportion? yes, of course. is it really that big of a deal? no, probably not. should i just shut my face and just do it? im sure thats the best idea. i realize all these things. but i am the person i am. but ill call her, ill call her... and in the eyes of a jackyl i say ka...boom
I guess we won't be having any Clutch City BBS dwarf tossing gatherings then. I am just kidding unless you are into that kind of thing, then more power to you. BTW, some people find the term "dwarf" as equally offensive as "midget" or so says http://www.dwarfism.org/. Holden, man you really worry me bro. You sound like a very smart and interesting person. Don't let what you think other people are thinking about you get in the way of living your life on your terms(as long as you aren't doing anything to hurt anyone of course). Enjoy life for everything it has to offer...the good and the bad. If the fu*kers out there don't like it, let them worry about it. I know it's easier said than done sometimes, but you should try it once in awhile, if anything at least to have more of those occasional highs and fewer lows. Take care of yourself bro.
Holden doesn't worry me. He's just the most self-reflecting person on the bbs...especially considering the fact he aims his mirror at us more than anyone. I read everything he writes. Keep it up! And drop in some movie tips and book tips anywhere you want, will ya. You still need to go see some Infernal Bridegroom Productions, you dork!
Ah, to be young and socially inept yet think it is some kind of cool outsider thing again...or just to be a like heypartner again. What a nightmare. I could kick JD Salinger's ass, by the way. And Holden (not the bbs incarnate) was just a whiney b**** who thought he was cool. I could take him, too. Of course, I am just a no-legged homosexual black man who eats a lot of steak, so what do I know?
Women love confidence. Go fo it. What do you have to lose? One time I was rejected 3x in less than an hour. No kidding. By the end of the day we started a 1 1/2 year romance.