[I always think the worst of people] How to be positive?

Sorry to hear about your trust issues. I am glad your professor said something to you, especially if they were concerned. Have you thought about going to talk to a professional? I know it might not sound fun, but there could be group sessions that would make you feel more comfortable.

Please don't think you are worthless, I dont know exactly what you are going through, but there are people that care about you.

 

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1.Telling people to "STFU" right off the bat because they suggest help isn't going to help you make any friends.

2. Don't take things personally, especially if it's someone online correcting you.

3. There has to be others just like you as well. Are you Asian? Hispanic? You're not the only one out there that can't speak perfect english. Find friends you can identify with. You dont have to trust anyone initially, but you do have to learn to be open to trusting them later if they earn your trust.

 

I'll try to put it succinctly -- the problem here isn't how you think of other people, it's how you think of yourself. Your views of others are a reflection of your low self-esteem. Death and life are in the power of the tongue. Stop saying negative things about yourself and start making an effort to build yourself up. You are not trash - you are a unique, amazing creature with the capability to accomplish anything you set your mind to. When negative thoughts invade your mind, overcome them with spoken positive words - open your mouth and speak positivity. As you do that you'll find your own self image will improve, and naturally you'll begin to see other people in a positive light too.

 

try drugs. it makes you happy.

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i'm just joking

 

I don't think there is anything wrong with be cautious of people. Also preparing for the worst can be helpful knowing how to handle the worst if it comes.

I do agree fat chicks or any kind of love can help too. Not all people are the same and bad.Surely and you need to be prepared for the cruel world but also be able to love and have a few friends. It's easy to find sh***y in someone but also there are good things. For example I tend to notice the crappy people on this forum and harp on some of that negative. At the same time a forum like this can be a good thing especially things like this.

tried getting laid more for starters, and she doesn't have to be a goddess.

 

I'm 25 and have like 5 close friends.

Just be yourself, **** everyone else.

P.S. Don't listen to Linkin Park

 

Some of the best therapies involve in vivo exposure, or confronting your fears/phobias with the idea of discovering that things aren't quite so bad as you fantasize. However, it can also be pretty frightening to challenge yourself in this way. Don't expect to find a solution to your problems immediately. It's going to take time to transform and restructure your cognitive appraisals; yet you will make progress daily, and I hope you can find the value in that.

It is important to get to the root of what is ailing you. Don't be ashamed. There is nothing wrong with you. More people than not deal with seemingly impossible situations in life. If you feel like people will judge based on your lack of English, how can you change that feeling? For example, you could refine your English skills until you feel confident enough in yourself to speak freely to others. As the previous poster said, reminding yourself verbally of positive aspects of yourself is a great help. I use it myself. Of course, there are also meds to help stabilize you meanwhile if you deem it necessary to visit a professional. Best of luck.

 

I saw nothing majorly wrong with your OP. I think you write better than most people here.

Dude, if you speak the way you write, the people who stay away from you because of the way you speak are certainly losers. You're not.

You have to help yourself. Talk to people, share your ideas, hang out with people who support you, engage in wholesome and sane conversations with your family. Regain that trust back and allow people to be trusted again.

I agree with you, I don't think a doctor can help you. Don't start drinking or doing drugs.

 

odd, i always thought the OP came across as a very likable poster

 

Follow rhadamanthus on twitter. He's the most upbeat person out there.

 

17 and and youre already feeling this way?

All I can say is that it gets worse, a lot worse.

 

LOL :grin:

 

I just meant life ln general. It's all a constant struggle after college(or after college age 18-22) it pretty much goes downhill after that. enjoy that ****.

Btw, if you're pulling some nice ass in highschool you need to get your fill cuz that doesn't last forever either.

Hope I helped.

 

People have choices to make. It's doesn't all "go downhill" after that. That's the problem with a lot of people nowadays. They think life can't be better as you get older. That may be true somewhat as you get older and can do less physically, but if that's the case at barely 30 years of age, then they need to change their lifestyle.