If you had a relatively good break-up, meaning you still cared for the person and they still cared for you, did you ever feel better about having sex with other girls? This situation is different than in the past. In the past, one time I found out that one of my ex girlfriends was cheating on me and I broke up with her. Meeting many different women and having sex helped the recovery process although it did not make me feel as good as I thought it would. Now in this situation (the mutual break up where we both ended on good terms) I started doing it again, meeting women and getting physical with them thinking that it would help me move on and I realize that I actually feel worse. I feel almost guilty about it. WHY? Its important to note that with this girl, the sex was probably the best I have ever had and we had a very good physical connection. However realizing that, I understand that the worst thing I could do is sleep with her again because I would shatter all of the progress I am making trying to get over her. I don't know what will make me feel better. Going to the gym and staying in shape is one of the few things that lets me escape. I gues at this point no woman can make me feel better, neither her nor anyone else. [End Rant]
Eh, you'll get over all that stuff. Just be thankful you're not mazyar, i.e., you don't kiss chicks with d***s and follow the WNBA.
They were not ugly, however they were not as attractive as she is. I think that you might be right in that aspect.
For the record, I was just messing with you. In all seriousness, I think you're taking the wrong approach. While I'm sure sleeping with a bunch of different women has its benefits, it usually doesn't go a long way toward healing emotional wounds. I would try hanging out with your guy friends more, pick up a hobby, or otherwise turn your focus away from women for a little while. If someone comes along that you're interested in, that's great...but you might be looking a little too hard to fill that void right now (I know, I know..."fill that void"! ) Rockets season is right around the corner, so hopefully that can occupy some of your time.
Dude, what I am not understanding is if you both still cared about each other why the break-up? Distance? Married? Moving on... You really care about this chick so its obvious sex with anyone else isn't going to be as good because you are taking away the fact that when you had sex with this chick, you actually cared about her (possibly loved IDK) and the sex was passionate at the least. If you are having sex with, not necessarily random girls, but chicks with no chemistry between the two of you, it will definitely make it much more difficult. Have you tried contacting the girl, from the sound of it you really need to talk to her. But if you desperately need to get over her, I suggest you start by not mentioning her and comparing sexual relations you've had with her. I know its difficult, but that is a part of leaving someone, everyone is unique and it is difficult to find someone with the same qualities. That is why you find someone you are interested in. You won't be able to move forward if you use the chick you care about as a template for dating other chicks. Hope this helps. Good Luck Man!
The issue is that with your Ex that cheated on you it was easy because she wronged you and while you still carried there was no guilt as she screwed you first BUT with this one she seemed like a good girl but just didn't work out between you too so you have no anger toward her. You feel guilty because you still have feelings for her and she did nothing wrong so revenge is not a solution in this case. These are the hard ones to get over because no one is wrong it just not the time and place for you too. Keep working on it and just perservere, time heels all wounds that this might have left and maybe down the road the time and place will better for you too and you guys will rekindle what you had just in a better place.
Maybe it's better to just take a break on dating for a month or so and focus on other things besides girls.
1) She was the best you've had. 2) You guys seperated on good terms. If she was the best (or one of) that's hard to get over no matter what. But also you split on good terms: It is easier if you HATED her and she was a b**** or w****. She's not so there's a weird empty in the pit of your stomach. It'll take time. Time and sex.
