It's that time of year again. The time of year where you are forced into a house for long periods of time with people that, if they weren't relatives, you wouldn't spend more than two minutes talking to. My little sister has turned into a royal b**** over the past few years. She moved to the Dallas area when she was 11 and grew up there, and it's starting to show. She's a spoiled, self-centered brat and I can't stand to be around her or her tennis pro boyfriend, but have to for the sake of my mother. How do you guys deal with relatives you can't stand?
I usually act nice for the 5 minutes I gobble down food, then leave to go to the other side of the family's dinner 50 miles away.
I don't visit with them. Seriously. I'm a grown man and I can choose who I want to see during the holidays and who I don't. My family (on both mom and dad's side) tends to have small gatherings for Christmas, so I just avoid the bigger holiday gatherings. The last time I had to deal with crappy relatives, I avoided speaking with them and when I did, it was contentious.
I like all my relatives. On the other hand, I can't stand my wifes mother. Since there are almost 50 people coming to my house during Thanksgiving, I have plenty of opportunity to avoid her.
You little sister isn't really a relative. She's family. Why don't you just announce to the family that you're ghey (not that there's anything wrong with that) and you'll probably be left alone. I LOVE my relatives. I guess I'm blessed with some of the greatest relatives anyone could ever ask for. I love all 500 of them (I'm from a huge family).
You know what, A lot of stuff annoys me, so I drink. Time spent with the relatives is the perfect occasion to drink a few bottles of wine and gorge yourself on food. At some point you won't care about their misgivings, or your stomach will feel horrible enough that you won't even listen. Happy Holidays. Cod
These things tend to be awkward. I dress well-am extremely polite, do not drink and leave quickly. I always bring something and leave the dish. Even if it is a storebought pie. I do not want anyone complaining I came just for their bad food. These things are dreadful in my family- I want to take the high ground and get out quick.
I don't talk serious matters with them and use humor and witty remarks as a way to distance myself from them. It's always been pretty effective.
It's only once or twice a year, suck it up. And getting a couple drinks in before everyone arrives can never hurt.
Just dont invite people you dont like over for the holidays. If neither of you want to be there, why even meet with eachother?
I second the wine suggestion. A couple glasses of vino will loosen you up so that you're annoying relatives don't seem all that bad.
Have the dog come and lick the plates clean... then, in your relatives view Make sure they can see you), place the plates in the cabinet... then say, "We're conserving water... goin' green, ya' know." They won't be back.
your sister is actually family, but in this case, she is no longer because she is a dallasastian. your relatives are cousins, uncles, aunts, nieces and nephews, that you don't really have to have to deal with.
This thread reminds me of when my cousin Catherine was "promoted" from the Kiddie Table to the adult table about 6 years ago. She didn't want to go because all my aunts and uncles do is have these childish arguments. I love the irony and that Catherine took the last seat at the adult table.
