I'm sure alot of us have had to endure a bad break up. It seems like its even worse when the relationship was good and you thought it was going somewhere. I recently had a breakup with my girlfriend of almost 5 years (would have been 5 on oct.11) and i feel more anger. not really any sadness, its just frustration and anger. She basically said "I dont love you anymore." Whats ****ed up is that she had just told me she loved me a few hours before that. I dont know how to deal with it, she said she wants to be friends but I have never been down with that ****. once its over its over... but its so hard, cuz i really loved this girl and i feel horrible right now. But i cant even cry cuz im so pissed. should i drink?
You should celebrate the fact that you weren't married and don't have kids. Otherwise, you'd be paying through your nose. So, yes, you should drink! In fact, have a party! Invite all your friends, invite your ex, too.. .and most important of all, hire strippers.
just a few quick points -i've known friends that can stay close to their ex as "friends", but i've never understood how they do it, maybe i just can't separate myself from someone like they can and make it into just a friendship. -if you can't do the friends deal, then just cut her off altogether, it's just not worth it since anything related to her will just bring back the hurt. don't call her, don't leave her on facebook/myspace (had to include that since that's probably the case with a lot of relationships these days with each being on each others profile lol), say hi if you see her around sometime, but that's about it. i haven't had many relationships, but the few i have had, the whole friends angle never worked for me. nor could i ever imagine it working for me and these were just relationships of a few months, let alone more than a few years. - as far as drinking, i wouldn't that'd just lead to more problems. hell it's more than ok to let **** out, but just drinking the problems away just doesn't seem like a logical choice. force yourself more than anything to just get out of the house, go to the gym, go out with some friends, take up playing some pickup games a couple of times a week at the YMCA. i don't know if any of that helped, but hopefully some of my jumbled mess lol
yeah and like van gundier said too, be lucky you didn't have kids or any other unbreakable strings involved (like say... a kid on the way.. lol).
screw that. best way to get even is to call her up and say, "thank you for saving me the headache of spending any more wasted time with you....click." don't ever speak to her again.
it's terrible, because usually i include a disclaimer when i make a serious post, i should have on this one
yea i didnt think drinking would be a good idea. i dont drink actually but i thought maybe i'd take it up for a while. as for strip clubs, i might give them a whirl but how gay would it be to be getting a lapdance then i start crying cuz i remember my girl. the stripper is suppose to cry not me.
wow these threads pop up almost daily now and it they all seem to have the same pattern of the girl leaving the guy.
Who's going to start a thread about dumping a girl because when you went in for a kiss you noticed that her corner teeth were a different shade than her front? No one wants to look like a jerk, but they want sympathy when someone was is a jerk to them.
If your honest about the nature of your relationship with your ex (i.e. it's over), than friendships can certainly work. I'm still friends with almost every woman I've ever seriously dated... ...however... ...don't make the mistake of thinking you HAVE to be friends simply because you invested so much time in the relationship. Don't let her sucker you into becoming friends simply so she can alleviate the guilt on her head for not loving you anymore. If you genuinely like this girl as person, give yourself time to heal. Put some distance between yourself in the relationship. In a couple months, if you still feel like the potential for friendship is there, give her a buzz.
