Hey guys, I needed some advice and didn't really know where to turn. You guys always seem to be helpful for the most part. Here's my situation. I'm in training for a new job right now. The instructor assigned seats after a week and a day because of disruptions being caused. I was seated next to someone that seems to be my perfect match. I hadn't talked to this girl before we were seated next to each other, however after we were seated side-by-side I started talking with her and we hit it off real well. Anyhow, the lunch break came. I was walking around the lunch room when I notice something very familiar, Dungeons and Dragons handbooks. I take a look up to see who is reading it, and it is the girl that was seated beside me in training. I walk over and mention that I am a gamer as well, and we spent the whole lunch break and the final break talking about D&D, MMORPG's, Weird Al, webcomics, and a slew of other things that we have in common. I feel she is a great match for me. Here is the problem. I have never a girl out. I don't know when to ask her out, or exactly how I should ask her out. I fear if I ask her out tomorrow it will be way too soon and blow any shot, and I fear that if I wait too long and we keep talking I may be put on "just friends" status. I get the vibe that she doesn't have a boyfriend at all, but I am not sure. How do I approach that when I ask her? Also, when is too soon, and when is the right time? This is the first girl I've felt so strongly about, and I just met her yesterday.
Have confidence and try to act smooth. The biggest weakness a guy could show is a lack of confidence.
just act natural and go for it...you dont wanna end up like me today...i found out this girl i adore dearly was asked out by some other guy to the prom and she said yes...the worst feeling is the thoughts of "if only"...
Bingo, just be confident and ask. You wait too long and you'll become "friends" which is pretty much a guarantee that nothing will ever happen.
Sounds like you've already done the hard part, which is breaking the ice and getting on open speaking terms with her. Now next time you get caught up in a conversation about D&D, Star Wars, or Warcraft or whatever it may be, just wait until a moment when you're both laughing or you really agree on something strongly and after a second just say something like "can I put it in your butt?". If that doesn't work, say something more like this..."You know, if you've got some time this week maybe you'd like to go get dinner somewhere with me? I'd really like it if you could." If she says "no" then you're screwed but if she says "yes" then follow it up with "Great. When's a good time for you? Maybe (insert day here)?". Once you have a day picked out, ask her if there's any kind of food she dislikes. After that say "Alright, I'll keep that in mind". Women like a decisive man, so take the info about her food preferences, store it in memory and return to your Magic: The Gathering duel, but don't tell her where you are taking her to eat. Keep that a secret until the day of the date. If the first date is going well, tell her "you pick next time". If she laughs uncomfortably you're in trouble but if she smiles and agrees, that's your sign that she's having a good time and you should probably ask her out again. You see, the key here is to avoid being stuck in the friend zone, from which few men ever recover. The way I see it, you want to show that you're interested as early as possible (to let her know that you want to be more than friends) but at the same time be laid back about it. Don't act like it's some huge undertaking of yours just to ask her out, because then she'll think you're a desperate loser. You have to give her the vibe that you're interested, but at the same time you could also do without her. I wish women didn't work that way but most of them definitely do. Good luck.
you wouldn't believe how my buddy hooked up with a chick tonight....he used those boodog coasters where you give them to a chick and try to get hem back with their info etc. Funny ****....although he is the only one that got a girl tonight.
What ClutchCityReturns said, except leave her butt out of it You've done the hard part already, so it's OK to move on to asking her out. Do dinner, not lunch.. and make sure she knows it's a date When out with her: Be charming, yet sincere and honest. Depending on the type of girl she is, a little nervousness may actually appeal to her.. but be confident when it counts. Keep it as friendly and comfortable as possible, and don't forget to flirt at the right moments so your intentions are clear. Do your research before the date, but be spontaneous when the opportunity arises The key to success is a balanced approach. Good luck
What would suck is if she said no, and then the rest of the training would be awkward. So thus, I tend to hit on women who I rarely would have the chance of running into again in everyday situations.
This is also a good point to consider, but in this particular case I think he has to take that chance. I don't have the concrete statistics with me right now, but if I'm not mistaken, the possibility of him finding another cute chick that likes "talking about D&D, MMORPG's, Weird Al, and webcomics" is .00034%
At dinner... Her: "I don't know about this meat...it looks like they might have overcooked it a little bit" Him: "Your table manners are some cryin' shame. You're playin' with your food, this ain't some kind of game. Now, if you starve to death you'll just have yourself to blame. So eat it, just eat it." Result: Guaranteed end of night sex and a next day trip to the cleaners for his Lord of the Rings comforter.
Alternatively.. he can just throw her petite Lvl 7 elven paladin body over his broad Lvl 10 half-orc barbarian shoulders and drag her back to his cave lair for some hot role-playin' action..
<a href=http://charismaarts.com/>Juggler Method</a> Vibe elicit a commitment reward her statement of intent escalate close
You: Wanna go out sometime? (hint: it helps if you are making eye contact while asking) Girl: OK You: How about the movies on Friday night? Girl: OK after this point, the girl will take over the date arrangements if you do not Also bring a 12 sided dice
before work is over, say "i grabbing a bite to eat, you should join me." do it confidently as if you're saying, it doesn't matter whether you say yes or no, i'm still going. i would just like your company. asking "would you like to go have dinner?" opens you up to rejection. then, asking "what time is good for you?" says you're too spineless to make your own decisions. i've done the former a couple of times, and haven't gotten "rejected". you don't really want to take a girl you barely know to a nice dinner on the first date. if things don't go well, you're likely $40 broker and going home feeling like ****. when you just ask her to join to you nonchalantly, there isn't any pressure for her to feel like she owes you something.
