...f*** it all? Let me be Holden for a minute or two. Through all of the stupid, really stupid things I've done, all of the crazy, insane, wild moments, all of the heartbreaks, all of the let downs and everything else in between that I have fought through, I can not think of a time where I have had more things go so completely wrong in my life. No one here(well actually maybe one, two max) knows, but recently my girlfriend(Kelly) and I were going to have a baby. At first I was not ready for this change in life. I wanted her to have an abortion, but I made it clear if she wanted to have the baby, I would stand with her 110%. After a couple weeks, many discussions between us, family and friends, she decided she could not go through. While I was somewhat disappointed, I was also excited about becoming a dad....a father. Weeks and weeks went by. We moved into a new apartment with a study we were going to make into the baby's room. Things were coming together nicely. Then came last week. Kelly had some complications one Friday evening and we had to go to the ER. We were told that there was a 90% chance she would miscarry. She was devastated and I was......in shock and unsure what I felt. Anyway, the weekend passed and nothing happened. My birthday was a few weeks back as some of you might remember and Kelly got tickets to go see Audioslave that upcoming Tuesday. We were hyped about the concert and had a blast. After the concert we went home and around 12am she started feeling sick. 3:30am came and I have never felt so helpless in my life. She was in such excruciating pain, passing fleshy tissue that would have been our baby. There was nothing I could do except take her to the ER. What makes this whole situation worse is that I was laid off that same day. Can life get any worse than this?? If so, please let me die now. This is for you Holden.
Oh God, man...I am so sorry. I've met Kelly, and she's a great girl. All our sympathies and prayers, buddy.
My love and condolences to you and Kelly Stay Strong, things will turn around, I know you will get another job and one day will make a sensational father. No matter how bad things are right now, they will get better and you Must believe this. Love Smeg
Pimp, I am so sorry. Be there for Kelly, and just listen to her, that is the best thing you can do. Trust me. DD
I am so sorry for You and Kelly, she is such a sweet lady I hate to hear of this misfortune. Everything is done for a reason, and whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger... I pray for your strength and if there is anything I can do, don't hesitate.
Rocketspimp, I feel for you so much. My wife has miscarried 3 times, with the latest one just this past November. All you can do is support her. There are alot of support groups available for stuff like this. There is a BBS out there for men who have wives that have miscarried. If you are interested, email me and Ill send you the link. This site helped me alot and I received some great support advice.
I wish I could say more, or shape this into something eloquent, but you and Kelly have my deepest sympathies. Here's to a horizon of pleasantness.
Very sorry to hear that RP. Lots of women miscarry, don't take it too hard...you'll have plenty of more opportunities to be a father. It will happen, don't let a little set back like this get you down.
I'm so sorry Pimp You are in my prayers, friend. I wish you and Kelly all the best. You'll get through this, we'll be here for you and you have to be there for her. Good luck and stay strong.
Sorry to hear about the woes you're going through. I hope things start to pick up for you soon. It can only get better from here.
Pimp, I am proud that I know you and consider you a friend. I feel the best way to handle this is that you support Kelly as she struggles through these unfortunate complications, and she supports you as you try to find work. I'll pray for you bud.
Pimp- Knowing you and how you handle things, I know that you will persevere through these tough times. Im not a very religous person and am not trying to preach, but I TRULY believe that God puts us in these traumatic situations so that we can be stronger individuals. I have experienced some VERY low times in my life, especially a few months ago. Keep your head up, be strong and supportive, NEVER GIVE UP, and stay positive. Give me a call anytime man. Im a pretty good listener.... Im praying for you amigo. Drew
pimp, I have no idea what to say. I am glad that you and yours collectively made the decision to keep the baby, but that only complicates the matter moreso. I know my condolences go out for you and your girlfriend. Jobs come and go but I have no idea how I would deal with the loss of a baby. Stay strong and be there for your girl, god only knows how hard this is for her
RP, my wife had a miscarriage between our first and second child. It's nature's way of ending a pregnancy that would not have come to term properly. It sounds like an all too simplistic explanation, but it was a way of looking at the miscarriage that helped us get thru it. Things may seem bleak now, but be strong and supportive of her and everything will be alright. I've been there. And don't be scared to try again. During my wife's third pregnancy, she began the same patterns that occurred just before the miscarriage (pain, spotting, etc.) The doctor ordered her off work and complete rest for the duration of the pregnancy (about 7 months to go). She carried that one to term, and he is almost 11 years old now. We went on to having a third child later. A miscarriage is not the end of the world, just a need to start over.
