I just signed up for eHarmony. Since I just moved, I figured this would give me another avenue on which to meet women. I've met some nice women but am trying to clear my head of any expectation since you really just don't know until you meet someone. Anyways, Why did you do it (if you have)? And what have your experiences with it been? If you haven't, would you ever consider it?
I have done it, mainly because I find it impossible to find someone the old-fashioned way (due to the small town I live in). I have had some mixed results - meaning I have gotten some dates, but the longest any of these have lasted has been 3 months (relationship I just got out of). I was on eHarmony as well but never had much luck with it, but I am going to try it again. I have also been on match several times and found it to be a little better for me. I understand that many people think that internet dating is weird and could never see themselves doing it. You also have to use good common sense when you talk to someone on-line (mainly to protect yourself). However, I like it because it has opened a whole world to me which is huge when you are a shy and introverted person to begin with. Besides I know at least one person here (RM95) who met his wife on-line and he seems to be very happy.
I did it and it worked out better than I could have ever imagined. The main reason I did it was because after my last relationship ended, I was living in Dallas and had already decided I was moving back to Houston. It also had to do with the fact that I've never been into the bar scene to pick up women. I'm more of a low-key, hang out at bars with my buddies and throw darts rather than go for the sole purpose to try and take a girl home. I met three women before I met my future wife. All three were great in their own ways and even though they didn't work out as far a relationships went, I always had a good time on the dates. No psychos nor were there anyone who had misrepresented themselves in their pictures. About two months after signing up, I met my future wife. I had sent her a message before I fell asleep and when I woke up she had responded. She wanted me to call her since she didn't like the e-mail thing and we ended up talking for about an hour. We were inseparable even before I moved down to Houston. We ended up living together three months later and we've now been married five wonderful months. I've never been happier. Everyone has their own way of meeting women. For someone who's just moved to a new city, especially one as large as Chicago, I think it's a great idea. Don't listen to those who try to make fun (of course, it's always funny to wonder why someone would even find you on there if they weren't looking for something themselves). Be patient as well. Good luck!
Getting married in May, we met on yahoo personals. I had been on around 40 E-dates before meeting her. I had a ton of fun doing it, some people looked like thier picture, some didn't. Usually just met them out for drinks somewhere and sat down and BS'd for a couple hours.
I've been om myspace for one month. I've been asked out twice, so far. I'm thinking I will go out with one of them, since she's a stripper. That one should be easy.
I filled out the personality profile on e-harmony and they said some pretty hard stuff about me. I don't think i'll find a girl
When I was 18-20 I used to meet chicks all the time via AOL chat rooms, and then have moved onto meeting people through various websites. My buddies and I would meet up with at malls and ask them what they were wearing and showed up late to sneak a peak... if they were ugly we left, if they were hot we stayed. I actually semi-dated a girl who was from Indiana and went to Notre Dame for two years after meeting her online... I eventually broke it off because she was in school for the next few years and I like being single (ie I hate talking on the phone an hour a night). In this day and age it is pretty tough meeting women the "normal" way because most of them are so tired of being hit on all day long that they brush off any and all attempts... but, I've found recently that when all else fails just head downtown on a Friday or Saturday night and drop a couple hundred bucks on shots, it's not too tough to get lucky then
I met the last girlfriend in a chat room, spent three years of my life with her, got engaged, and she decided to **** her best friend on the telephone. So, I think that is the quality of women you find out there. Curt
I've had the same experience, mostly, people not looking like their picture...I met my g/f on match and you have to go through the weeds first...I used match and it seemed to work for quantity as I had a lot of dates, but that was over a year ago...eharmony is for marriage, and match if for banging/dating, IMO...
Is it because you pis... Forget it. The more I resist online dating, the more my friends (mostly girls) try to convince me to do it. I don't know, it just seems weird to me. You don't know anything about that person except what she posts on the internet. Yikes. Not saying you can't meet someone cool like many have, I just don't want to mess with all the weirdos I meet before that. I'm going to stick with the 3rd party set up for a little while longer.
Don't let it seem weird to you. A good buddy of mine, who is quite normal, met a great, good looking woman using Match.com a couple of years ago. Now they are married. I'd be willing to be the women using on-line dating are more normal than the guys. This is much better than going through blind dates set up by friends.
I've tried match.com after several friends encouraged me to try it. Frankly I've found it pretty dissapointing. I've met a few women through there all who I haven't found interesting and most of them didn't seem to find me that interesting, although I did have a cyber stalker for awhile. Also about 90% of the women they keep sending to me on my matches I find unattractive. Since I've been on it I've met a few women at bars and other places and my chances of getting a date seem about the same in real life as compared to Match.com. As far as meeting people online A few years back when I was suffering from insomnia I would go onto MSN chat and would seem to have women interested in me to the point of them soliciting me unsolicited photos. Unfortunately they were either unattractive or lived in another part of the country. Also I just signed up for MySpace (Username: RocketsJudoka) not so much to meet women but to give me someplace online to hang out besides Clutchfans or news forums.
