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Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by Ubiquitin, Jan 4, 2002.

  1. Ubiquitin

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    :confused: There's a girl at school I've liked for 2 years but she'd never be my girlfriend. Well for the past year we've been in her terms "super good friends" but whenever I mention me liking her as more then a friend she act's like we are barly friends (note: She calls me a lot and walks with me to get to different classes) I wonder why she always does that? I mean it's not like she doesn't date or anything but she just WON'T go out with me.

    If anyone could post their opinion on why she does please go and do so

    tips are welcomed
     
  2. Ninja Sauce X

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    a good friend of mine always told me

    "knock her out with a baseball bat then she'll have to like you"

    sure it doesnt make any sense but i thought it was funny.
     
  3. Manny Ramirez

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    Been there and done that.

    Sounds like to me that she is using you to make it look like she has a boyfriend, but she is waiting for something that she thinks is better. Are you doing favors for her like her homework or other things (keep the lewd thoughts to yourself, please)? If so, then she is definitely stringing you along, IMO, because I had it happen to me and so did everyone else, I would say.

    See what happens if you avoid her for a couple of days, i.e. don't walk her to class, etc. Don't be an ass, but politely tell her that you are tied up or busy and can't walk her to class, etc.

    I have been told that girls like it when they don't know much about the guy. Also, that old cliche "play hard to get" does apply in alot of cases. It may not work, but I would say a couple of days of avoiding her wouldn't hurt things. Look at it like this: if she is really your "friend" then she is not going to get upset if you don't see her for a couple of days. She will understand if you're busy with other things. If she decides to end your friendship because you avoided her for a couple of days, then I know you may not want to hear this, but she is probably not worth the trouble.
     
  4. DiSeAsEd MoNkEy

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    sometimes its just best to stay super good friends.
     
  5. AntiSonic

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    Don't waste your time. Some girls are idiots and don't realize that being friends and having loads in common makes for a perfect relationship. Leave her alone and then laugh at what jackasses she'll wind up with.

    Sorry if I'm coming off too bitter, but if she's too stuck up to realize how lucky she is, then she probably doesn't deserve you.
     
  6. outlaw

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    maybe she's just not physically attracted to you? i'm in a similar situation so I can relate.
     
  7. DiSeAsEd MoNkEy

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    so blunt you are.
     
  8. Ubiquitin

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    :rolleyes: Well I haven't done her any favors. And I've tried staying away from her for a few days but we're still friends:p. Also I don't really walk her to her classes cause we have 3 classes in a row together...
     
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    Maybe cause your fugly....:eek:
     
  10. Manny Ramirez

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    Well, how do you act around her? Can you answer that question, objectively? If you are always panting like a dog when you are around her, then I guarantee that she won't change the way she has been acting around you. Try being non-chalant when you are around her. If you come across as a star-struck, lovesick guy, then she will probably be turned off.

    Or you could try this: "the opposite theory of George Costanza". George, who was a character on Seinfeld, (if you didn't know that) decided to do the opposite of everything that he would normally do. For example, if he saw a beautiful woman, he would go and talk to her because normally he wouldn't have the nerve to do so.

    But it may be as simple as outlaw said: she is not attracted to you. If she considers you as a brother, then that is a sure sign that she will never have any romantic feelings for you.
     
  11. Ubiquitin

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    :cool: I act the same in front of her as I'd around anyone else. the looks could have somthing to do with it but shes dated some fugly people before
     
  12. Ubiquitin

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    :p Oh yeh she hates her brother
     
  13. DiSeAsEd MoNkEy

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    maybe she just likes girls.

    :eek:
     
  14. Ubiquitin

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    :) nah.. she's straight
     
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    I've gone through two incidents like urs before, and all i can say is that you gotta be straight up with her and let it out. "Define the relationship" so to speak.

    I dunno what her intentions are, but it's human nature to use others to feed our needs and desires,..especially the desire to feel wanted and desire to be accepted. Sometimes we want our ego stroked. As some have mentioned, perhaps she's looking and you're just what's in front of her...so she clings onto you all the more. Whatever her intentions may be, make sure you make your intentions clear. Find out where you two stand.

    I'm sure you've spent many hours contemplating what to do, but from my experience, you gotta be honest to her and yourself. I dated both girls...both were my friends..one of them was my best friend...I've broken up with them, but remain good friends with them.

    good luck bro
     
  16. DiSeAsEd MoNkEy

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    man, this is like jr high talk we got going on here.
     
  17. 3oClockRocket

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    LOL

    BTW cool moniker Diseased Monkey...

    :)
     
  18. Timing

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    Sounds like you're just getting strung along so start dating her friends and see if she gets jealous. If not, then there's no hope. ;)
     
  19. Johnny Rocket

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    Well seeing as how this thread was started by a 14 year old you shouldnt be suprised.

    Azadre: since you to have been "super good friends" has she dated anybody else? if so do/did you talk to her about him? maybe she just likes you as a friend but nothing more.

    or maybe she thinks you're gay?
     
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