Getting more comfortable with talking on the phone?

Do you want to get more comfortable with talking on the phone, in general, or do you want to get better at talking on the phone with girls?

 

Im not much of a phone person either. I like talking more in person because on the phone for some reason I dont make good conversations. Its weird how one time I called this one girl while I was drunk and she wasnt home but her cousin picked up the phone. I started having a conversation with her and ending up lasting like 5 hours. I started talking to her like 12am and ended the conversation around almost 6am. Weird how the longest phone conversation I ever had was with someone I didnt know. Im still not much of a phone person though

 

I feel you on that. I think that probably the three phone situations that you need to become comfortable with are talking with women, conducting business, and getting **** done (things such as disputing bills, making reservations, requesting documents/information, etc, etc). They are definitely interrelated skills, but there is not a total overlap.

I'll stick with the topic of girls since that is what you are initially interested in. I'm not much of a phone person, as far as girls go, but I've learned to get good at it. Sometimes I can have one of those chemistry-laden, interesting phone conversations with a girl that effortlessly lasts for hours, but on the other hand, a lot of times you just gotta make the small-talk calls because it helps the woman form a connection with you. It lets her know that you are thinking of her, and she'll appreciate it.

One trick that can help you get more comfortable is to call whenever something funny or interesting happens in your daily life that you can tell her about. Just call her up, tell her your little story, then ask her what she has been up to. When she is talking, inquire further into anything that interests you to get some back-and-forth dialogue going. Feel free to be playful and joke around. Not all calls have to be this big, serious affair. Keep it to a relatively brief amount of time, then tell her it was nice talking to her, but you've got to go.

Try that out. It will help you get more comfortable and alleviate some of your anxiety. A friend once told me that guys primarily use the phone for logistical purposes (to set things up, to get info), while girls use the phone as a social tool for establishing friendships and connections. It's a generalization, but I think it puts it rather succinctly.

 

you need to get out more. practice makes perfect.

 

My fiance, moestavern19, has the same problem. If I were you, I'd do the calling stores thing. It's weird, but talking to anyone will make you more comfortable on the phone. Calling for pizza or takeout, asking stores to check on the availability of items...it will all help. Especially if you work on being friendly.

 

b****!

 

lmao...

 

Go all out.

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It is funny that she had to use your name . Finalsbound could just have said my fiance. My guess is she just wanted to brag that you are her fiance

 

I'm in the same boat as well. I really dislike talking on the phone. I'd much rather talk to someone in person. Its something I'm slowly trying to work on.

 

Nah, just wanted to be sure to embarrass him.

 

I was never very good on the phone until I had to do phone tech support, and sales. It worked great for me.

 

same situation with me, its amazing how good you get when your job depends on it.

 

The op has problems with talking to women. I've never had game, but a lot of women find my conversation good. I'm married now, but my wife is still amazed by my mouthpiece . If you just be yourself and say what's on your mind, but be respectful, its all good.

 

DAMN SON, YOU JUST GOT THROWN UNDER THE BUS!

 

This may be the saddest thread ever. So you think calling random places would be good practice for getting used to the phone?? Most guys do hate being on the phone alot but if its for a girl you should kinda want to talk to her (at first) and your anxiety/being tired will go away. Just get a wireless headset and it will help. Im just curious as to how old you are?

 

I think calling stores to practice talking to people is weird.

 

you can have all the ability in the world at speaking on the phone.... but you can't scrap up some topics to chat about... then what's the point right?

I'm guessing your problem is that there might be moments of silence when on the phone with this girl, and you need to speak better in order to fill the void... Do you have the same problem when speaking to girls in person?

unless that's not the problem? ;x