I know...pictures needed. Will do later. But now I think I might say, what they hell, who cares if I said 2 days ago that maybe we shouldn't see each other this weekend. I give/do everything for this girl and love doing it...like it's the job I always wanted...sort of thing. Summer loving! But there is this stupid pride thing. I mean, we've freaking slept together (not sex every time) every night for a month (except when she was in Arizona). We need a break. And I feel like I made a statement that will seriously hurt me in the glorious battle of the sexes, if I don't follow through with it. I successfully held off calling her for day... but, couldn't resist when she called me, so She's meeting us/coworkers for happy hour downstairs from my office. Then to the park to walk the dogs and picnic with friends and watch the Indigo Girls. must kiss her goodbye, pat her on the butt, and tell her to go home, afterwards. It will pay big dividends if I can do it, but might cause another argument if I do it wrong. And she'll have "hand" on me if I don't do it and cave to her sexual powers. whipped! I need some moral support here.
Well you knew someone would say it, so let's get it over with... "It's summertime, people suppose to get horny!"
I don't understand what you actually argued about. Not wanting to see her for a weekend? Tell her you need space, but don't make it sound like she's smothering you (unless she is). If all you want to do is chill by yourself and/or with your friends I see no problem why you can't do that without having to argue for it. Its all in your presentation of the matter, I suppose. What the deal with the pride thing? Don't get that either.
Yeah, I don't see the argument either. And having pride in a relationship always ends up badly. You need to pick your battles...like how far you can take things in bed. Strike while the iron is hot!
I truly think he typed "it summertime, people suppose get horny." Everyone is editing YoYao to make it better grammatically. Sheesh.
didn't want to explain the argument because it's not that big of a deal, a first argument about nothing. But I said the next morning, "I don't think we should see each other this weekend." Followed by, "well I don't think so either." oh nevermind. just a silly "Sex in the City" type situation.
Just watch what you say. I found out the girl I've been seeing searched through my threads and found all sorts of stuff. Very embarrassing because I come on here to vent and wax idiotic quite often with ZERO intent of having a significant other view it.
if you don't want to explain the context of the argument, then why even make the thread? it sounds like you are asking for advice, but if we don't know the context of what's actually being discussed, we can't evaluate anything about your interactions. i mean you make a thread which sums up to 'fight with gf what do i do', but you can't tell us what you told her that is obviously the crux of the argument? just curious.
oh crap, she just called again now she's reneging on meeting me (to do my plans) and saying come over to her place, instead. this is a certain battle that I intend not to lose now. or maybe i'll just cave in. <font size=1>* help *</font>
it's not the argument. It's about me saying "I don't want to see you this weekend" and sticking to it. or caving in to her plans to p***y-whip me.
cave and enjoy it while it lasts. don't waste time on games. If it is going to work, it won't be because you stayed away for a day.
i guess what i meant to post was: what dynamic about your relationship makes you think not seeing her this weekend is something that has to happen? if its really that hard for you to resist calling her or receiving calls, then its likely that you have genuine feelings for her, even if it is infatuation and not love. i say why fight it? unless there is a true idealogical difference or emotional divide, i try to follow jeremiah's advice and 'pick and choose my fights'. in the long haul there are way too many things to fight about for your relationship to work if you are putting extra duress on the both of you, by creating synthetic problems. this is not mean to imply that you are 'picking a fight' with her. learning to go with the flow with the woman is critical, and commonly conflated with being whipped. whippage is, imo, more of a hopeless emotional devotion generally accompanied by symptomatic changes in behavior. like say, the guy who drops all his friends for a fresh chick or the girl who can't leave the guy who clearly doesn't love her. you would be wise to learn to let that which truly does not matter slide.
I'd say that by caving, he's wasting time on games. HeyP: How long y'all been together? Are you in love with her? Is she super freak-nasty in the sack? If the answer is no, then stick to what you've planned. Its not cool backing out on friends, even though they'll forgive you for it if they are, indeed, your friends. She shouldn't expect you to give into her whims and change plans on your friends. That isn't right. And you should not expect the same of her. I'm with Shipwreck though: We've really gotta know the context here. Perhaps, but this was said after your first argument, no? Are you justified in saying this? Or did you say something stupid after a silly argument? The answers affect the outcome of responses. We can't very well evaluate who is blowing what out of proportion is all I'm saying.
it's reassuring to know that your quarky social dysfunctionality is not just restricted to the internet/bbs
ftw did I say too much...don't worry Fatty, she doesn't do the internet much. oh, gotta head home now to meet my friends. if I don't explain more later, then that means I caved and will never be able to do what I want to do again this Summer.
"Your honor, I do not think that this is a battle we can win." <- name that movie (difficulty: easy) ^ Spoiler Give up. We NEVER win.
