And all this time I thought it was just my lousy technique... http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/nationworld/chi-0506080242jun08,1,1326777.story Study: Female orgasm ability partly genetic By Emma Ross Associated Press Published June 8, 2005 LONDON -- A woman's ability to have an orgasm is at least partly determined by her genes and can't be blamed entirely on cultural influences, new research suggests. Experts say that's likely to be interpreted as both good and bad news. "It'll be upsetting because some women will think, `Oh my God, maybe I just can't.' On the other hand it takes away a kind of guilt or pressure," said Dr. Virginia Sadock, director of the human sexuality program at New York University Medical Center. Either way, specialists say the findings don't mean women who inherit an unfortunate gene package are doomed. They just mean that more work, or patience, is required. The main benefit of discovering the genetic elements of sexual function, experts say, is to help scientists find treatments for sexual problems. The study was reported this week in the British journal Biology Letters. In the study, scientists from St. Thomas' Hospital in London sent questionnaires to 4,037 women who are part of the British twin registry. About half of them were identical twins and half were non-identical twins. One in three of the women reported never or hardly ever reaching orgasm during intercourse and 21 percent said they hardly, if ever, achieve climax during masturbation. Those figures are consistent with other surveys in recent decades. However, the questionnaires revealed a significant genetic influence on the ability to reach orgasm, said Dr.Tim Spector, /the lead researcher who is also a rheumatologist and genetic epidemiologist at St. Thomas' Hospital. The similarity in orgasm experience was greater in identical twins than it was in non-identical twins, Spector said. Because the only difference between the two groups was genetic, the researchers concluded that the gap between the groups was the genetic component. After taking into account other factors that could influence orgasm, the scientists estimated that 34 percent of the difficulty women face in reaching orgasm during intercourse is due to genes. Problems in sexual response during masturbation seemed to be more genetically influenced than orgasm ability during intercourse. The study found that 45 percent of the difficulty women have in climaxing during masturbation can be attributed to genetic makeup. The results were similar to those of a study on Australian twins published earlier this year. The idea that orgasm ability has a genetic component makes sense, said female orgasm expert Laura Berman, a professor at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University in Evanston, Ill. "A lot of the women that I treat will tell me that when they talk to their siblings or mothers they very often have similar challenges," said Berman, who was not involved with the study. "One could make the case that it's nurture, not nature because these twins were brought up together, but you can't rule out the genetic argument." But Spector said effects of the twins' shared environmental influences did not alter the study results significantly. Copyright © 2005, Chicago Tribune
JERRY: Tub is love. So there you are. You've got a nice girl and a clean apartment. GEORGE: Yep. There's one little problem. JERRY: Sexual? GEORGE: Yeeeaaah. Well..... I've never really feld confident in..... one particular aspect. JERRY: Below the equator? GEORGE: Yeah. JERRY: Nobody does. You know, nobody knows what to do. You just close your eyes and you hope for the best. I really think they're happy if you just make an effort. GEORGE: I don't know. Last time I got the tap. JERRY: You got the tap? GEORGE: You know, you're going along, you think everything's all right and all of a sudden you get that tap. (George taps his own shoulder). You know it's like pfffff (whistling sound), all right that's enough, you're through. JERRY: The tap is tough. GEORGE: It's like the manager coming out and asking you for the ball. JERRY: Well maybe she just wanted to move on to other business. GEORGE: No, no, this wasn't moving on. I got the hook. I wish I could get a lesson in that. JERRY: It's a very complicated area. GEORGE: You can go crazy trying to figure that place out. JERRY: It's a haaazy mystery. GEORGE: Anyway, I think everything else is okay. Unless of course she's faking. (Elaine joins them) ELAINE: Who's faking? GEORGE: Nothing. ELAINE: Faking what? GEORGE: Nobody's faking. ELAINE: Ah! Orgasm? GEORGE: She's not faking! ELAINE: How do you know? GEORGE: I know. I can tell. It's one of my powers. Why, did you ever fake? ELAINE: Of course. JERRY: Really? GEORGE: You faked? ELAINE: On occasion. JERRY: And the guy never knows? ELAINE: No. JERRY: How can he not know that? ELAINE: Because I was gooood. JERRY: I guess after that many beers he's probably a little groggy anyway. (Jerry and George laugh) ELAINE: You didn't know. JERRY: What? ELAINE: You didn't know. JERRY: Are you saying... (George calls a waitress) GEORGE: I think I'll have a piece of cake. JERRY: With me? ELAINE: Well... JERRY: You faked with me? ELAINE: Yeah. JERRY: You faked with me? ELAINE: Yeah. JERRY: No. ELAINE: Yeah. JERRY: You faked it? ELAINE: I faked it. JERRY: That whole thing, the whole production, it was all an act? ELAINE: Not bad huh? JERRY: What about the breathing, the panting, the moaning, the screaming? ELAINE: Fake, fake, fake, fake. JERRY: I'm stunned, I'm shocked! How many times did you do this? ELAINE: Uuuhm, all the time. JERRY: All the time?! GEORGE: We got a chocolate malt in here! JERRY: But I'm so good. GEORGE: I'm sure you are. ELAINE: Jerry, listen, it wasn't you. I just didn't have 'em back then. JERRY: She faked. (George smiles sarcastically) JERRY: Maybe they've all been faking.
Maybe it is genetic; not like most of us would figure that out on our own. It's not exactly something you want to compare notes with Mom about. While I feel sorry for that apparently significant percentage of women who just can't get there... look on the bright side. They will get a lot more work done than the rest of us and be more productive citizens because they're not spending their time on silly distractions (like chasing the next orgasm). And, ladies, faking isn't very nice, especially in such an intimate moment. Because of positioning, technique, whatever, it may not happen when he wants it to. Take charge of things yourself. Tell him what to do and move things around if need be.
Who are you talking to? You're the only lady here! practically I thought this is a pretty obvious piece of news. Why wouldn't it be heavily genetic?
JERRY: I really don't feel like seeing her. KRAMER: You know, I faked it. JERRY: What?! KRAMER: Yeah. JERRY: You faked it? Why would you do that? KRAMER: Well you know, if it's enough already and I just wanna get some sleep. JERRY: Yeah, but why would you...
One time, I had a girl with really bad hand technique, and I didn't have the heart to tell her, so I really had to work hard to end it. It was a real battle. It was the only time I was just glad to get something out for both of us. It was her first time as it turns out. Luckily she did some reading and figured out that you need to be a bit more gentle. I'm not a cow.
Ouch, band hand jobs. There was a girl one time who I thought was trying to remove and steal it. Only reason I could think she was tugging that hard. Some things aren't curable even with more beer. I had to go "Next" and move on.
I'm not sure if its bad luck or just me, but all of the girls I've been with either reach that point too quickly and then its all over or can't get to that point at all no matter what I do. Why is it so hard to find the perfect balance?
It shouldn't matter since men do all of the work anyway. If the girl orgasms early all they have to do is lay there with their legs open while we take care of our business.
She can still address the few others of us around here there are... And I'm quite happy with my orgasm situation. But I'm sure as hell not going to go to mom and dad and thank them for it!
Well, maybe. Often that's not quite enough, as the positioning may not be right. (you do have to push the button, you know) Let her do some of the moving for a change. Some women like to do that by being on top, but being on the bottom doesn't mean she can't move either. In a way, that might be better, as long as the man is OK with it and she's not unintentionally bending his tool into weird positions. Let her get where she's going because, if you go first, it will be a lot harder. (or, shall we say, it won't be hard enough. )
Actually, the easiest way is to let her be on top, aim for the back/left of the cervix, and let her manuever.
