So I'm at loss of objectivity here. Hoping to see what others thought and whether I'm losing it or not. Basically, I'm married for about a year now. Wife happens to have a twin sister (fraternal). The sister lives in another town. The sister is single and in no serious relationship but has had more than a handful of boyfriends in the past. Both are in the their mid 30s as am I. My wife and I have been married for about year now and lived together for two. Wife also has a brother and two living parents who call from time to time. But it's the fraternal sister who calls EVERY day! Every single day. Without fail, 6 pm weekdays, the phone's a ringing. Weekends? In the car, at a destination, during lunch, mid afternoon - it doesn't matter where we are or what we're doing, she's a calling. It's getting to the point where I just roll my eyes and wish I could throw out her cell phone. Every week, I can handle. Every other day, I can probably handle. But every day? Is it me, or is this excessive? theSAGE
What's wrong with her wanting to talk to your wife who is also her twin sister? Just be glad you're not in a hispanic family or they will drive you crazy too with their daily phone calls.
I don't know if I'd go so far as to call it "weird". Most twins have a really strong bond that you don't see in other siblings, so it sounds like her situation isn't that odd. However, I would nicely but firmly tell the wife that your life together comes first, and that if her sister's call is ever interrupting something, your wife needs to just let it go to voicemail.
lol LadyDi, Yeah so, I guess the deal is this. It would be one thing if this all happenned on the side without my hearing or knowing. But instead, I'm right there listening to it all b/c I'm stuck in the kitchen, or the car, or the restaurant, doing the cooking, driving, and eating respectively. (I do all the cooking for us). Even when I leave a room, she'll follow me with her phone. So I could be sitting in my computer and stuck listening to her conversation drone on. The thing is this too LadyDi. If it were about great new news or just shooting the breeze, it'd be one thing. But instead, the conversations are like something from the show "Sex and the City." It's like pure drama. Another boyfriend. Another strange date. Another bad job situation. 9 out of 10 times it's about her problems. And 9 out of 10 times my wife is comforting her like a personal therapist. Same stuff over and over again. I really don't want to listen in. But when you're cooking at the range minding the rice and she's standing there talking by the fridge, it's hard NOT to listen. And then when my wife wants to share stuff with me, I'm so resigned to these stories of her sis. If I want drama, I'll turn the channel to TNT instead. theSAGE
they must have a lot to say to each other....with probably three quarters of it being fluff that could have gone unspoken. on the one hand, i do find it weird. on the other hand, their women and their sisters...so it's not surprising. it would be more weird if it were two brothers IMO. i would totally get sick of talking to a sibling every day...so i can see how you would be bothered by it...especially since you are with your wife a lot of times when it happens and it probably feels it happens always at the most inopportune times.
At least it's a sister. My mother calls me every day and will continue to do so until one of us dies.
These two things would drive me bonkers. Not to be a smart ass, but have you tried asking her to go talk in another room?
The key to a happy marriage is knowing the appropriate times to completely tune out your spouse. This is one of them. Find your zen-like place, and ignore the trivial, annoying thing. Put it out of your mind. She's been doing this all her life, and it's never going to change.
It's not weird for women to talk so frequently on the phone, and I would expect twin sisters to top the list in frequency. But I can see the annoyance factor. Next time surf for p*rn while she's in the room. That's a pretty solid room-clearing move. And put some headphones while you're at it.
