How do you deal with one of your most beloved family member passed away, I'm writing this almost in tears, and I don't know how to face it or look forward, my life will changed forever with this fact, and I also need advice to get my family going strong and restore the happiness and joy to them.
I will give you the honest truth, ever since my aunt was killed in 2004 I really have not been able to completely deal with it, there have been times I have deeply desired something mind-altering. The only solace I have is Jesus Christ and His infinite love. I'm not saying that my faith is as strong as ever, it was shaken deeply when I lost my family member, but if you're anchored to Him, you WILL find peace. I am so sorry this happened to you. Best advice to your family would be to make sure they do not hide or bury their emotions. Make sure everyone deals with it. Talk, have discussions about it, even though it'll be very hard. I am praying for you and your family.
To start with, you can accept a virtual hug from someone on the Internet who doesn't know you but cares and is sorry this happened to you. I've been there too. And it does hurt. Like finalsbound said, it helps a lot to have faith. I don't know what your personal situation is regarding that, but it can't hurt to say a few prayers in any case. Just face it one step at a time, as best you can, and believe you will see your loved one again. Even with my father gone for more than two years, I still feel like he has helped me and influenced me (no supernatural ghost stories, just under the surface type things). I know it helped me to write something nice and say it in front of everybody at his funeral, to pay tribute. But it depends how you feel. Don't hold back your grief - save it for your alone times if you need to, but don't deny it. That way you will be able to move on through it a lot faster. Best wishes and more hugs...
i feel and understand your pain. i just recently lost my mother in law a month ago, and my wife (along with myself) was extremely close to her mother. it was a very hard time and still is at times. and your life will definitely never be the same again. however, this is the way life is. every life must come to an end, some before others and some for reasons unknown. the pain is difficult and i know that it feels like it will never go away but the saying that time heals wounds is true. through time we are able to start to understand and comprehend why death happens. God has a very distinct plan for all of us and this is a part of his plan. we will grow as human beings and grow in faith from losses like this. i'm praying for you and hope that in the coming weeks you find solace and strength through the Lord.
My thoughts go out to you. I've lost relatives (quite a few in a small span of time) and it hurt more than anything I've ever felt before. I'm not really religious at all but religion can be a powerful and effective tool to help us overcome. Many times we are so lost after such an incident happens that we don't know who to turn to and consequently God comes into the picture. You and your family will naturally mourn for a little while. Don't fight it or waste time trying to be "normal." Its ok to mourn, cry, do whatever in thee wake of such an incident. Don't even try doing otherwise because you're just suppressing really powerful emotions that need to come out. Take a little time off to take everything in and if possible find someone close who you can talk to. Its always great to have a person who can understand what you are going to and who you can talk to openly about issues like this. Things may never go back to normal but sadly this is something many have to deal with. Good luck and my prayers will be with you.
I wish I could empathize with you, but I've never had a really close family member die. I think that might shortly, though. The only advice I can offer is not to let anybody tell you how to feel. Lots op people assume that others want to be cheered up when they're sad, but that's just how some people deal with it. If you want to be pissed off and lock yourself in a room, then go for it. Just remember that there's a fine line between being sad and being depressed...
Remember that grief looks differently for everyone but each person needs to take that journey their way. There is no "right" way to grieve. The best thing you can do for the rest of your family is make sure they find ways to express that grief (not bottle it in). I am a volunteer small group counselor (not a professional) who works with kids going through high-stress family situations. Two of the kids in our group are facing the death of a parent. The hardest thing was realizing that I didn't have any magic words or secret tactics to make everything "o.k.". The biggest realization was that I am not able to "fix" them but I can walk through it with them. But it is a journey they must take.
Think about the good times you had with that family member and share those stories with the rest of your family. Don't let all those good memories be spoiled by the sadness you feel now. Take as long as you need to mourn, and know that with your family, you are not going through it alone.
i'm not sure i can add much else but to say i'm sorry man lost my grandpa a few months ago and that was tough, about the only thing that didn't rip me apart was that i wasn't there when he died, i was working. i feel worse for working when he passed away when the rest of my family was there.
I'm sorry for your loss. My first wife died after 1 and a half year of marriage. Talking about it with people who will listen and won't give biased opions help me. But if you don't have any friends who will just listen - talk to God. I was a Christian before she died, so God and I had a lot of 1 on 1 time after that. It is hard but He will comfort you when you need it. I'll be praying for you.
