Ok, check this out. I'm watching the national championship game with my girlfriend and all of a sudden she says "that emeka okafor guy is pretty hot" For a second i dont say anything, cause i am in shock at the brazen statement. And then i say "yea, he could be a model" Then she says again "damn, he's pretty hot" At this point i get kinda pissed but still in a joking manner say, "and i would like to do christina aguilera in the ***" She says "what did you just say" I say "you heard me, how about that" At this point she gets up and walks to the other room. I'm thinking maybe she is getting some food or something. Then like 10 minutes later i ask her something and she doesnt answer. I get the feeling that she is somewhat upset. I dont say anything more, and then she says, "I'm leaving" At this point she looks very angry. I dont know what to say so I say "Don't let the door hit you on the way out" She leaves. About an hour after the game I give her a call. She picks up and proceeds to berate me at the lack of respect I show her. I say, "what about what you said." She says that what she said was "just a mild compliment" I say, "I was just joking too" She says, "I dont believe you" and then gives me crap about having those type of thoughts. I get tired of this beratement and I just abruptly end the phone call. Later I try calling her again, but then this time she picks up the phone and then she just hangs up. This happens twice, so I give up. I'm kind of puzzled by what happened. I guess I'll give her a few days to cool off. I wasnt upset at all by what she said, but she was apparently upset by what I said. Who's at fault here?
You should probably have just told her that you are bothered by her saying that about other men. Then none of this would have happened. Or maybe you could have said that Okafor is hot, and if you were a gay man, you would be all over him. DD
Obviously she should see that Okafor is from Houston and she could one day see him on the street so that is a problem.. whereas you won't ever meet up with aguilera in houston
you're screwed man. to her, what you said does not equate to what she said. when a guy says a girl is good looking it means only one thing, but when a girl says a guy is hot, it does not always mean the same. once you get in that spiral with your woman (who seems uptight), you may never get back to your old relationship again. Better hope she is forgiving.
She's too uptight for her own good. You guys should probably break up sooner rather than later, it will spare you unnecessary headaches. (I'm an encouraging sort, eh?)
Sounds to me like she suffers from an ailment many a female seem to be stricken with: no sense of humor. Nuts to them.
you should have been more tactful and said jessica alba. maybe your girl feels aguilerra is too dirrty.
Yes Jessica Alba would have been better, but I think shes prolly more pissed off cuz you said "dont let the door hit you...." even though that **** was pretty funny
You have a lot to learn. Speaking as someone who has been married for 17 years, the best thing to do in a situation like that is file it away. Just take those comments she said, and store them in a file for later use. Six months down the road, when you are watching a Christina Aguilera video with drool on your chin...and your girlfriend notices...you just say "Well, she's no Emeka Okafor." Trust me, she'll know what you are talking about.
Okay, I'll take the whole "Women are from Mars, Men are from blah blah blah" crap; but what kind of person says crap like that to their significant other? Wouldn't you (or any reasonable person) consider yourself a complete jerk if you were to be watching a Christina Aguilera video and telling your girlfriend - just your girlfriend, mind you...not a group of people - that you thought she was "Hot"? And doing so more than once? At random? What girlfriend would want to hear that crap? Not one. Do unto others...Isn't that the first rule you learn in life, regardless of sex? So if she tries to pull the whole standard "You don't understand my perspective on things as I am a woman and you are an insensitive man-pig" spiel, tell her she thinks with her vagina all the time and never with her heart. Well, since I can't speak for others...from my personal standpoint, I would never do a thing like what she did. Even if I accidentally let something along those lines slip...even in a group full of people that included my girlfriend...there is no way you would ever catch me reiterating it. That would just be stupid. Stupid. And if my girlfriend then commenced to slap the living crap out of me, I would still consider the whole situation as my screwup. So my only advice to you is go slap the living crap out of her. It'll feel good when you're doing it and you won't have to be worried about your girlfriend riding Okafor's piece because she'll have a restraining order and you'll be legally bound to stay the hell away from her, as you damn well should.
...also, I'm pretty sure having anal sex with a woman makes you at least half gay. It may not be a guy's ass, but it's still an ass...
I think A-Train is onto something here. Maybe she's upset because now she thinks her boyfriend is gay, or at least half gay. Or maybe she just wants Emeka to do her in the pooper.
I agree with ttboy. If she is this asinine it's probably not a good relationship. Of course, you could have mellowed out a little too, but she engaged the conversation so.... Let her go and find someone a little more level-headed.
I saw an episode of the Jerry Springer show and the topic was "Tranvestites and the Men Who Love Them." And the guy who was on with his "girlfriend" was saying "To me, this is a beautiful woman. She's got a perfect body, beautiful blonde hair, everything. I love her, and I love making love to her. Now I ask you, does that make me gay?" Most of the audience thought so, and so did I, but it got me thinking about what is or isn't gay. Discussing sex with a guy is gay. Discussing sex with a woman is straight, even telling a woman "Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to **** a ****" is straight. Sports are gay, especially contact sports, unless you're the only guy on both teams, in which case it is straight. Gyms are always gay, because afterwords, in the locker room, you're showering with guys, and that is gay. Watching p*rnography alone is neutral, like eating a sandwich. It's neither straight nor gay. Watching pornos with one or more other guys in the room, no matter how many other women are also in the room, is gay. Watching p*rn, even gay p*rn, with one or more women ONLY is straight. Here's an interesting one: kissing a gay guy on the cheek, or having him kiss YOU on the cheek is neutral, as long as the guy is out of the closet. Hugging and/or kissing a straight guy . . . is gay. See, look, I . . . I know I'm homophobic, but not about gay guys. They don't bother me at all. It's straight guys who don't know they're gay. They **** my sh*t right up. Like a guy calls me up and says "A bunch of us guys are gonna sit around in our underwear and watch a football game and drink beer and eat chips, and, you know, maybe wrestle with each other a little, you know, just us guys! You wanna come over?" And I'm like "No." -REMOVED- Here's the most interesting one: Sucking a guy's ****, can, under certain rare circumstances, be straight. Let's say you've gotten into a betting game with a woman, and the bet is whoever loses has to be the other's sex slave for the night, the kind of thing that happens in Penthouse Forum all the time, and you lose, and the woman makes you have sex with another guy, that's not gay. I don't know exactly why, but it's not. -King Missile, "Gay/Not Gay"
