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Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by chow_yun_fat, Feb 3, 2008.

  1. chow_yun_fat

    chow_yun_fat Member

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    when you ask someone if they want to join you for lunch/dinner, is that a invitation?

    i know if you invite someone, you should pay for the bill because you invited them. if you ask them to join you, the individual pays for their own bill?

    example, i'll ask my friend if she wants to eat lunch or dinner with me. is that a invitation? or is it assumed that i'll pay the bill because i'm the man?
     
  2. finalsbound

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    the other person should definitely "pay their own bill" and reciprocate.
     
  3. lost_elephant

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    Is it a friend or a friend?

    If the former, its iffy. If the latter, absolutely, you must cover her bill.
     
  4. bejezuz

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    I never feel obligated to pay for a friend's meal if I invite them to dinner. Never buy a woman who you aren't dating a meal (or anything for that matter) just because you are a man. Even if you are dating someone, I find it's best if you take turns paying for stuff.
     
  5. IROC it

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    hmmmmmm....

    "I'd like to take you to dinner" = you'll pay for all involved.

    "I'm going out to eat later, care to join me?" = dutch treat... but it could still be construed as you paying, especially if the precedent for that has been set.

    Just add "dutch treat" to the end of the proposal if you don't want to pay, I guess.

    It is a bit of a bad trend though... that even with "women's lib" or whatever you call it, often the "man" is still expected to pay.

    Tough call, unless you spell it out... and then, you run the risk of coming off as a jerk. :confused:

    Enjoy! ;)
     
  6. krnxsnoopy

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    Ummm if I say "You wanna grab lunch?" it doesn't mean I'm going to pay for their meal. It's understood we both chip in. Unless of course its a "date" with a girl. Then maybe I'll just go ahead and pay the bill bc I don't wanna look cheap :D
     
  7. moestavern19

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    I agree.

    when eating out there should always be reciprocation.
     
  8. TrailerMonkey

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    Did anyone enter this thread under the assumption that we were gonna talk about oral sex? No?
     
  9. Kam

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    EATING OUT.


    Think about this.


    THINK ABOUT IT.
     
  10. finalsbound

    finalsbound Member

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    *raises hand*
     
  11. dntrwl

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    There's still potential to change the direction of the thread.

    http://www.pandjtime.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/09/eat-p***y.jpg
     
  12. v3.0

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    just take her to taco bell and stick to the .99 cent meals, problem solved...
     
  13. meggoleggo

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    its understood between me and all my friends that if we go to eat, it's every man (woman) for herself. but of course there are exceptions.
     
  14. meh

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    I agree with this. Although there's something to be said about the financial situations of the friend. Basically, it's not a good idea to ask someone to share the bill if you're going to a place out of his/her price range. Most of the time, I usually just pick places we're both comfortable with in terms of spending for a casual meal.
     
  15. Shroopy2

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    Gonna sound whiney here. That this is even a small area of concern tells you women's lib been bs for a while.

    Is it THAT bad to just honestly state the intention? (Ex: Wanna go out for lunch? We both pay for our orders though, if thats okay) Without the worry of coming off like a cheapo? Why even have that concern put on you, would she be "offended" if she had to pay? No thanks and Yes I'll go and I'll pay should be the only 2 options. But I'm too idealist I guess... ;)
     
  16. Blake

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    Let's go grab lunch means you eat together somewhere. It doesn't mean that you pay for their meal.
     
  17. ima_drummer2k

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    :confused:

    I don't understand the connection.
     
  18. dskillz

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    I thought this thread would be about something completely different.


    But it all depends on the relationship you have with the person. Some girls I go out with will pay if they invite me, others it is every person for themselves. But only one time did a woman attempt to invite me out, then expect me to pay for the entire bill. That woman was insane anyway, she had no grasp of reality. I remember one night she stood me up, but then the next day she said, "Well, it doesn't count as a stand up because I didn't have a babysitter that night. See if you have a legit reason, then it isn't standing someone up". Totally insane chick.
     
  19. Royals Ego

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    if this thread was created during a weekday, the wit in this thread would be off the charts

    so much wasted potential :(
     
  20. boomboom

    boomboom I GOT '99 PROBLEMS

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    My wife is in favor of this!
     

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