I have found that whenever something has me baffled, asking the BBS can usually help me. My wife, IMO, has a great figure - she has curves and she can really dress to kill (when she wants to). This past Friday, she dressed in a way that I really liked but she later complained to me that 2 guys were checking her out when she was getting something to eat. That doesn't bother me because I know that guys (most of them) will always look at a woman if they find them attractive, especially if they are dressed in a way that shows off their figure. I told her that it didn't bother me because I am secure in our marriage and I know that she isn't leaving me for some random dude who happens to be hitting on her. Her point to me was that it made her feel uncomfortable to have some random dude "mentally undress" her. I saw her today and she had overalls on - she looked cute but not as sexy as she did on Friday. Of course, she made a comment to me - "I know you hate what I have on today." I didn't say anything. I have always told her that I want her to wear whatever but that she does have certain outfits that she wears that I like more than others. And I don't think it is a bad thing for me to want my wife to look good in public. So, my question is this: does your wife/girlfriend enjoy dressing up or wearing outfits that get your attention in public? And I am talking about things that are tasteful like a miniskirt that is not too short with boots or dress pants with a frilly blouse, etc. - no corsets or other things that would look more appropriate on a hooker. And you can spare me the obligatory "you are one weird perverted dude" - I already know that.
If you are going to ask your wife to dress up and go out in public, you should NEVER do it (IMO) if she is going out alone. What is the point of that? It's one thing if you are asking her to wear something only you know about that isn't visible to the general populace. But, the idea that you are parading your wife around in something that is meant to help stimulate other people's fantasies is bordering on pimping your wife out for objectification. If it make her feel uncomfortable, it isn't ok no matter how much you might like it. If you are with her, it's one thing. But, by herself? That's a bad idea.
Ok, I know Ive been pretty much MIA around here over the last 8 months to a year, but I do read this board on an almost regular basis, but..... When did Manny get married?????
I knew I would have a hard time explaining myself on this..let me see if I can re-phrase this question: do you have a problem with your wife or girlfriend looking sloppy in public?
I sorta have the same problem, my girlfriend doesn't usually dress up when we go out. Unless you call jeans and blouse dressing up. She knows what to wear to really get my attention and get me going, but she hardly does it. I honestly don't care if she wears it out in public or not, although it becomes a little stale that she only does it at home or when you are alone. I have this "thing" about her wearing pantyhose. I love it when she wears them. But since she hardly dresses up when going out, she doesnt even really get a chance to wear any. I don't think the "being mentally undressed by random men" really bothers her, or atleast she has never mentioned it. It doesn't REALLY bother me, although I prefer to just not think about it or ignore it. I feel proud of having a goodlooking girlfriend ( don't ask for pics) and I think its sexy when she dresses up and "shows off" not slutty, but classy. But I agree, with a previous poster, if she feels uncomfortable then don't push it. You could end up having problems later. Just enjoy the fact that you have an attractive woman, and as long as she dresses up for you and keeps you happy, thats all that matters.
Manny never said he wants guys to mentally undress his wife. He said he wants his wife to look good in public, and he accepts guys will look at her. Bottom line, guys will check out chicks if they're cute regardless of dress. What is he supposed to do, tell her to wear a burka?
Ditto. There's this girl I see on and off that is always in Business attire during the week. (And she's got humongous boobs, too) Lot's of fun undressing that one. Call me weird, but most of the time I'll just leave her underwear on. Now, if only she wasn't such a lushy drunk.
