Ok, I need some help figuring out if a girl likes you or not. The situation is this... I went to a party last weekend with some of my buddies that I haven't seen in 2 years. Since I was new to a lot of people at the party, I was a little quiet then usual and I didn't speak out much other then drinking down on my Heinekin hoping to break the ice. Soon after, one of the attractive girl who own the place came up and introduce herself to me and I did the same. We didn't really say much other then the usual "how you doin" b/c she had to excuse herself to get ready for the club that we will he heading to in an hour or so. A couple of minutes later, another girl came up and introduces herself to me, but we had to leave for the club before any real conversation was started. So we arrived at the club and something unexpected happened...a bunch of fights broke out in front of us and we decided not to go in the club for safty reason and it was very late at 3:00 in the morning. We ended up splitting ways with the girls and went to eat before calling it a night...its not the way I wanted to end. I would like very much to hook up with one of the girls, especially the first one that came up to me. I could get her number if I wanted to, but the question is, is she interested in me? Sure she came up to me first, but maybe thats b/c I was just the guess and the new kid there? Then again, she didn't go up to any other guys that had came to the party, nor did she say anything to the out of towners that came with us. My main fear is getting rejected which happend to me once and I hated it...never wanted to experience that feeling again. I need to know positively if she's interested before I could get her number to call her. So, should I go for it, or maybe there's a better way of approaching this? You see, usually I'm the one that goes up to a girl first, or have my friends introduced her to me, but never, until last weekend had a girl come up to me first, and I'm not sure how to look at the situation or what signs to look for. I would greatly appreciate everyone's input on this...
Should we tell him he has to risk rejection, or should we just lie and say she's definitely interested?
Get used to rejection...it happens everywhere, not just in relationships. You should try to embrace it and learn from it rather than hide from it. You never know unless you try. Quite honestly, she might not know "positively" if she's interested or not either so it's hard to say she could even give you a Yes or No answer now. I don't understand something though...you say you are afraid of rejection yet you usually approach girls first? Everytime you've approached a girl, it has been good? I would question how many times you've actually approached a girl. Not trying to be critical or anything, but I just didn't understand that. You can explain if you'd like. Otherwise, I'd just see if there is another chance you could meet up with this girl through your friends and make your move then.
These 2 statements are incompatible. Get over your fear of rejection, no other useful advice can be given in this thread.
Its a tough call, because all she did was introduce herself. Its sort of like me thinking I'm gonna be called in for a tryout with the Rockets because JVG saw me make a 3 pointer, and said "nice shot kid."
The best way to save face in this situation is to ask a mutual friend of both you and her, if she is interested.
I wouldn't call to get the number. I would prefer to have everyone go out again together. Then you can start talking/flirting with the first girl....if she doesn't give the body signals (slight touches of hands shoulders etc) or isn't looking at you and into you then go flirt with girl #2.... This is a new group of friends and you don't want to go for the first available piece of a$$. If you make a blatant approach, its too serious. Just have fun out partying and let it happen... If it doesn't you aren't marked "the guy that asked whatshername out and was rejected". Girls don't like to be in second place to their friends even if they would want you. Besides..you hang out and party with them and you can probably eventually get them all. Reminds me of a story: A Bull and his son were on the top of a hill and saw a bunch of females at the bottom. The son said "daddy, daddy! Lets run down there and catch a female and f*ck her!"...the dad said "Son..lets WALK down there and f*ck them all."
Plan another event with some of your friends (another trip to the club, or to another club, or a trip to a sports bar to watch a game). Call her up and ask her if she would like to go with you to the event (be sure you say, "with me" - you don't want her making moves on other guys while you're there). Arrange to pick her up. Try BW3 - someplace where you can eat dinner and watch the game. It would be a quasi-date. You're picking her up and having dinner with her, but you'll have friends there having fun watching a game. If she enjoys herself, ask her out on a one-on-one date.
it was just an introduction. she owns the place and has to play the good hostess role. that's not to say she doesn't find you attractive, but "liking" you is going a bit overboard.
I recommend these actions as well... they make for great stories for us here... DO IT, DO IT, DO IT!!!
Dude, don't you have any balls? Just man up and have somebody who knows her secretly ask if she remembers you or is interested etc.....
Uh ... if you didn't have the balls to say more than "hell" - AFTER she approached you and introduced herself, mind you - she ain't interested. Nice gal and helluva good host, though.
