Do you get mad if friends show up at your house unannounced?

That used to bother me too, but that was back when I could have been smoggin' at any given time.

 

No, It never really has. In-laws are a different story though.

 

I freaking hate that, it's rude. Besides, with kick in robberies and such, you better know that if you come over unannounced, you run the risk of me not answering the door at all.

 

This is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves. In fact, if anyone dare arrive at my home unannounced, I refuse to open the door for them. (Unless of course I notice they are dripping with blood through my peephole)

Friends, family, anyone.

My privacy is sacred.

 

I miss having good friends randomly come over...

Esquire had an article last year that the art of stopping by had disappeared.

 

It doesn't bother me at all and if I don't feel like having company that day, I tell them.

I do have some friends who are like that. It's kind of funny because those friends who hate unannounced guest are usually the ones that show up at my house unannounced.

 

GEORGE: Jerry, I like being with her. Plus, I know where she is all the time. I have relatively no competition. And you know how you live in fear of the pop-in?

JERRY (shudders): The pop-in.

GEORGE: Yeah, no pop-in, no "in the neighborhood," no "I saw your light was on." And the best part is, if things go really well...

JERRY: Conjugal visit?

GEORGE (giddy): Don't jinx it!

 

Doesn't bother me at all, I got no friends

 

good friends no
girl friends . . yes *grin* [feels like they checking up on you]


Rocket River

 

Hey Harrisment...got any cheeeeese?

 

Man...I don't like this either. I guess it all started in college when I used to live close to campus. I had a friend who lived far from campus. Almost every day after classes, he would walk over cause he didn't have a car. He would come over like he just wants to hang out but then he would need a ride home. That made me so mad after a while that I ended up chewing him out and stopped answering the door.

I like to know when company is coming over so I can be prepared and be presentable. For one, I have indoor dogs and the place is hard to keep clean so I need time to clean up some usually, i.e. vacuum and change sofa slipcovers among other things.

Plus, I just don't like it. I also had someone once make a freaking road trip from a city over 4 hours away just show up at my door expecting to spend the next few days. It was just like..."Surprise". No phone call, no message, no warning, no nothing. If that's not rude to you, then I admire you . It didn't help the person's cause much that they just weren't good company, either.

A phone call is just a common courtesy. It especially applies nowadays where nearly everyone has a cellphone. Sometimes, I just won't go to the door cause I'm not expecting anyone and, when I do, it ends up being solicitation. ARGH!

 

My friends and I used to do this all the time a bazillion years ago.
Now, I wouldn't dream of it and wouldn't like it if someone else did.

I think Esquire may be on to something. Who does the Seinfeld drop-in anymore??

 

Would you rather have someone invite themselves to your house or show up unannounced.
Personally I would rather have them invite themselves, so that I could get ready.

 

As long as they bring beer or something.

 

Why? I agree with feeling like you're imposing on someone by just coming over, but I don't understand why it's even unacceptable if you're good friends. Here's what I always hear as reasons not to drop by (which make sense):

1. may not be home
2. may be unpresentable
3. may be busy with others

The stories from others about friends expecting rides, etc.... yeah, that's sucky, but just plain stopping by to say hi is a dead art. I remember doing that as a kid/teen, and then while in a dorm at college... but being an adult means it's unacceptable.

I guess you'd now just announce yourself using a cell phone, but it doesn't seem the same.

 

Hell, "Curb Your Enthusiasm" has a whole episode dedicated to the night time limit after which you can simply CALL a friend... let alone a freakin' pop in!

 

Waaayyy too late for that warning.....

 

One of my best friends once popped in. He came up and knocked on the door verrrrry quietly. I then came to answer and, as I opened the door, it pushed violently open and he fell right on me. Turns out he just died at my front door. Man!!! WTH!!! So, I was pissed! There's this stuff coming out of his mouth all over my carpet. So, I propped the carcass up and pushed the carcass out the door. I then rolled it down on to the street. I then went back inside to continue watching Seinfeld in peace and quiet. Some people. Sheesh!

If it is a really good friend you see often then it's not a big deal. It's once you are in the "real world" that it becomes a bigger deal. Pre-"real world" activities are pretty consistent with the pop-ins.