Most of the women I know are from work, but I would like to meet women outside of work. Any guys here approach strangers? What works for you?
Get to be friends with the women at work. Go out to happy hours, movies, etc. Chances are, they have a friend they think you would be perfect for. That's how it worked for me, only I started dating the girl at work who was trying to set me up with her friend. :grin:
When i was in the "game" approach is everything. I used to and still speak to everyone. I also spark up alot of conversation with alot of people also,even women. Even if you're sparking general convo, you can still get info or a read on people. If you don't approach, how are you going to get to know them?
What are you talking about? Every man on here has a wife/girlfriend hotter than every celebrity who's ever been mentioned in the Hangout.
I will second approach is everything. Try to spark up a conversation and don't rely on lines and most importantly be relaxed and confident. Another thing is learning how to read people. Some women don't want to be approached some do, just look for clues like if they are smiling, seem at ease and are looking around themselves before approaching.
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Absolutely. One of the greatest things you can do is rationalize things by not necessarily saying to yourself that "I'm specifically going to start a conversation with the motive of picking up some girl, but rather start up a conversation just to have a conversation." I used to set up this rule for myself, where I would have to strike a conversation with at least 5 people a day that I had never met before, whether it be man woman child or elder making small talk while making eye contact. It has worked wonders. You start to become nearly fearless and are not afraid to approach anyone when it comes to going out. Although there is one rule you must follow: The Three Second Rule. When you see a girl that you want to approach or a girl in a group, don't wait more than three seconds as you will over-think things and psyche yourself out from doing it. Even the most hardened of us socialites can get anxiety from time to time. This is when going out, but a great thing to do is open up with something very broad and open-ended that gets the group or individual talking/thinking. "Hey I have a question of monumental importance, and need a women's opinion. How important do you find trust in a relationship?" or something like that. Get them to talk, get them to be comfortable around you and don't hang on that one topic too long. String it in with other topics, build comfort, and go in for the kill. Hope that info is useful my friend. -Sitch
i saw this on 'the pickup artist'. my thing is that i go up to a 'hot chick' and tell them that i have something really important i need to talk to them about later - then i walk away. that way they are curious about me like "i wonder what that totally hot dude wants to talk to me about - i better wait around and find out". or my other go-to move is to approach a 'hot chick', tell her a joke, get her to laugh, then walk away. that way i gots her thinking all night about how funny and cool i am. i wait about 2 or 3 hours and then go back and make my move. im so pimp.
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exactly. girls can smell and sense when youre being manipulative. Be yourself and act calm and cool. Especially around beautiful woman, who are accustomed to seeing men act nervous around them.
You're all making the deadly sin of putting that p*ssy on a pedestal. What works is honestly not giving a damn. Once you achieve this, the women will approach you. Also, you should read the most important piece of literature a single man can read: The Ladder Theory.
This is for dating purposes I assume? Have a couple drinks. It's really tough to not be friend-zoned immediately if you come off nervous or unsure of yourself. I think drinks help, at least from what my friends have said. I've seen some ugly/fat guys charm some girls who were WAY out of their league...because they had the right walk, had the right talk, and were so smooth. An old coworker comes to mind...he got SO MUCH p#ssy simply by saying something that he KNOWS will interest a girl or get her attention, and then acting like he's not that interested in talking to her...he said that works a ton of the time. Basically you just want to implant that desire to talk to you more...that desire which is opposite of the "friend zone," because you're not catering to her whims. You can't throw all of your attention on her. Just don't make it obvious you're looking for anything. Just be cool, collected, and talk about stuff that really interests you. That gets a girl's attention and will actually pique her interest.
Yet again FB shows that she's the most grounded woman on this BBS (And why FFB hates her- his bulsh doesn't work on her- she doesn't buy it).