...or should they earn it? When it comes to my guy friends I never judge some based on someone else’s opinion of them, they absolutely must earn my respect before I will call them a friend. For women it's a little different. I think they deserve that respect that I would expect anyone to give my mother, wife or daughter. Problem is, some women are so wrapped up in their insecurities it’s hard for them to separate respect from some sort of attraction. Based on some recent threads and posts I wonder how some of you view disrespect to women. Are all women to you "just one of the guys" or is there a filter that separates your thought process from what you are willing to say in an open forum. I don't think there's a right or wrong answer, I'm just curious.
All people get a neutral level of respect from me by default. Where they go from there is entirely up to them. I don't care if it's a man or a woman.
I was brought up to respect women a little bit more, open doors for them, treat them like a lady, so I think they get it right out of the box and have to lose it a bit. Heck, the very fact that they can carry a baby, and give birth gives them a LOT of respect from me. DD
There is a respect due to any human being...which is different than someone earning your respect. I do an instant and involuntary assessment of a woman when I first meet her regarding if I find her sexually attractive or not, if so...I file it away until I know more about her but I try not to otherwise let it effect how I treat her as a person. Regardless I try to treat people with respect. Co-workers deserve cooperation to get our shared job done as well as possible, fellow students deserve cooperation as well, sharing notes, peer editing papers etc, waitstaff deserves courteous treatment and a gratuity, someone attending a play I am in deserves my best performance and a friendly handshake in the reception line. Some of these people eventually "earn" my respect (and hopefully I can earn theirs) and we have the option to become friends. I do sort of default to giving the elderly a measure of respect, because while it is possible to live to an advanced age without accumulating a little wisdom it is unlikely.
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80 degrees when I remark to a young lass to not take fancy upon me for I am emotionally unavailable and should rather procure financial security, so unless you desire to remain in my company as a courtesan who understands the nature of our relationship does not include emotional companionship then I should beg of you to make haste! - Calvin Broadus esquire.
It is complicated. I could come up with a set of guy/bro rules for all the men I deal with it. With women, it just more complicated. Depending of the type of relationship (wife, mother, sister-in-law, mother-in-law, co-worker, friend of a friend, dating one of friends, etc) women expect to be treated with a varying amount of respect.
How a woman carries herself, how she communicates goes a long way in judging how much respect I give her. First impression matters, how she dresses, what she talks about, all play factors. If I get a bad vibe I usually lose respect for her, but I generally try to give the person the benefit of doubt beforehand.
Regardless of if they earn it or not, I'll still treat them like I do with others with politeness. I think everybody starts on the same page. Now if they turn b****y or self-absorbed then things change, obviously.
I pretty much operate under the principle that everyone deserves respect equally until they "un-earn" it. Whether they're female or not is pretty irrelevant. Trust is earned and not granted, however.
I'm going with a Buddha type of way of thinking.. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Give and don't expect anything in return. Good deeds are as simple as kindness
I think everyone should be treated the same, and though I'm more respectful to women, it's purely a function of being taught to do it. I don't understand it at all, and I especially don't understand why they are not offended by it.
