I wanted to get some input on something. I had a discussion with my ex about having two birthday parties for each child, one with each parent. She thinks we should still do them together and I said there are alot of divorced parents that do it seperate. I see my kids everyday and that means when I drop them off or she picks them up I have to see her, the less I see her the better we get along. Any ideas?
Let her give them a party and then take them out on a whole day of fun (park, zoo, etc.) finished off with a nice dinner with a cake.
I think 2 parties could be fine -- actually it may be exciting for the kids. Ecspecially if having a joint party involves tension and strife between the adults (happy birthday?).
You have your party with your child and let her worry about her party with your child. Now that you are divorced, what she thinks you should do should not matter one bit. It would be awkward to have a party where everyone has to act like nothing happened. If she wants to invite you to her party or you want to invite her to yours, that shouldn't be a problem. At least, that's what I think. I've been divorced for two years, and we have never had parties or celebrations together.
How old are your kids? When my two were younger, we had separate parties... but then we lived in different cities. When they got older and parties involved into nice dinners out, we did them together. We had very little tension, though. I think if you can pull back together, it will be best for the children... but you have to do it harmoniously.
Yeah, I forgot to put something on there, my ex and my fiancee aren't on the best of terms, that is alot of the problem I have with one party.
