My divorce is final today...Not sure how I feel...On one hand, I'm happy as being un-happy for so long sucked...On the other hand, I can't help but be nostalgic in a sense...I was married for about 10 years (10 yr. anniversary would have been this past April) and have 3 wonderful children...They didn't ask for this, but in the long-term, they'll benefit from both of us being happier... The finality of it all is weird as I think I need this closure to truly move on...I mean, i've met someone and she's wonderful, but being thru a nasty divorce has made me cautious/skeptical...I'm more aware of things I like and dislike and voice my opinion more, but it doesn't make it any easier... I believe things happen for a reason and there is someone special for me and everyone for that matter, its just takes time and it doesn't hurt in being in the right place and right time...I don't know if I'll ever get married, not that I don't like the concept, but just the committment is kinda scary...It's hard, IMO, to take that leap of faith again in love, but how will I or anyone find out if they don't try... As for divorce, I don't recommend it...I mean, if your truly unhappy, all I can say is exhaust all possible options before you go down that path...That way, you can say/feel you tried everything and it just wasn't meant to be...but if you feel you must, just use commone sense and be civil...Of course, having just been through it, here are some things to keep in mind: 1) Have credit card debt in both of your names separately...It makes it that much easier to have equity in this category...Same thing with cars...The house is what it is, but typically off-set by retirement... 2) Listen to your lawyer...as much I think they are overpaid and useless, when it counted, it was worth every penny... 3) Don't listen to family...As much as people want to help, don't as it only causes problems and animosity... 4) Be firm, but flexible...It's all a give and take, but in the end, it's only material things...Don't fight over a $5 lamp or $10 plate... Whew, I feel much better...Carry on...
Divorce? Never. Love the tax breaks. Love the furniture. Congratulations...? From Merriam-Webster: Divorce: (n.) see R-O-L-A-I-D-S.
I know what you've been through. If there is a second time for a relationship for you, I guarantee you will know what to watch out for.
Dude, I feel ya. It really, really, really, really, really, really sucks. I dont wish it on anyone and yes I agree with trying to do everything possible to make it work. There are a lot of things I wish I had done differently. I dont particulary care to talk much more about it than that. I hope everything works out for you.
No sh*t...I got most of the stuff I wanted, you know big screen, surround sound, etc...Tax time next year will suck, although I got 1 kid, but still...that and not gettjng a credit for Child support... Honestly, I do wish I did things differently, and I won't get into that, but in the end, it happened for a reason and I'm ready to move into the next chapter of my life...
Let go of the past and then you will never have to think about it. Just start enjoying your life now otherwise you waste a lot of time feeling bad about it.
sorry you had to go through something so rough; I can't imagine. It's got to be hard. (which is one thing that keeps me from trying it) At least you've gotten it finalized and can move on. Everything should look up from here. Just try not to let the past hurt you... you are where you are now and everything is ahead of you.
Sorry to hear that. Mine will be final the first of June. Our 10-year would have been this October. Of course, we have no kids. Never easy, but hopefully a positive change.
by the way, as far as kids, boys tend to shell up and never date, girls tend to become sexually active after a divorce. just something to be aware of. trend seems to hold true.
Thanks for the kind and smart ass words... I feel better after working out, and eating some fajitas for lunch...I think I'll be even better when I watch the Suns whoop up on the Mavs...
WHEW! I was married in 1977, divorced in 1991, re-married in 1996. Two kids by my first wife and two kids with my wife. Don't want to do that again, for sure...
Oh, man... you got here late, Jeffster... other people posted after Isabel... you missed your chance... anyway... she will post again... don't worry... I got your back... I will try NOT to post after her so you can... [see above] Jeff: Congratulations...?
