Isn't there some kind of "guy code" about giving your friend a heads up or asking if it is cool with him if you want to ask his little sister out? I have a real good friend who lives in the same city as my sister (about 2 hours away, but I visit often) and my sis told me last night that he has been being annoying and borderline mean some nights when they are at parties because every time he tries to ask her out, she turns him down. My sister has a good head on her shoulders and I trust her judgment, so her choices of dating have never been an issue for me. And honestly, if one of my good friends was a good match for my sister and wanted to date her, I'd have no problem with it. But in this situation, I feel a little disrespected because my friend didn't even try to give me a heads up before trying to put the moves on my sister. (There was even a time a couple years ago, the first time he met her, a bunch of my friends and I were passing through the city where my parents lived while on a roadtrip - she was a senior in high school then. We were all in the basement watching a movie and during that time he was on the couch with my sis laying up next to her and playing footsie and such. I thought that was kinda messed up at the time, but just chalked it up to him being drunk and decided not to make it an issue). Is this something I should just not worry about, especially since she doesn't even want to date him? Or should I mention something about it to him?
Your friend needs a good ass whopping. Under no circumstance should your best friend date your sister.
I'm sorry I won't do it again. But seriously, I think your friend is crossing the line. Should at least ask you if its ok to bang, errr I mean go out with your sister. Just talk to him about it and be the big brother since HE is annoying HER.
It is a code. You friend is being 'Uncool'. Dunno it just feels like . . .he going behind you back If my friends wanted to date my sister . .i'm like just say so I can't stop to grown folx from doing what they gonna do It ain't about Him and her. . it is about YOU AND HIM! Rocket River
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I find my BFF's little cousin hot. She's 20 though. I'll wait about a year before I move in for the kill. In the mean time I'll lay some groundwork.
I am thinking your BFF is checking out your sis, but she might be telling YOU she's rejecting him to lead you to believe something other than the truth. When you have them both present, ask something friendly like "You two datin' or what?" to see their reactions. They may be planning to murder you... (By murdering you, I mean play a joke on you. ) [yes, Miguel, I re-used your idea] Seriously, though, just tell him "Dude. I would have warned YOU if it was YOUR sister. WTF?" Friendly... stay friendly... don't let it get to ya.
First, he has to get your approval to ask her out. Second, his acting annoying/mean after getting rejected is making it even worse.
Yes if he's being mean to her you need to have a talk with him and tell him that he is crossing the line. How close are you and this so called friend?
Weird bro, weird. Talk to him, look at his intentions and hers. I wouldn't let it pass, it's a complicated situation
i have experience here. not too long ago my sister and a very-very good friend (best-friend in high school) dated for few months, and from what i understand she broke it off with him recently. this is literally all i know about it. i never wanted any part of it. i refused to acknowledge it mostly, because i knew that was the only way to deal with it that didn't involve meddling in the personal lives of two important people to me. the way i see it, the only problem is that people break up. things change and everybody has to live with that. the aftermath atmosphere in my scenario is very awkward from most directions, but i am so thankful i never made an issue of it. that attitude helped me maintain a valuable friendship through an interesting obstacle.
Let me clear some things up: I know they aren't dating because my sister has never been into him. She is also "kinda sorta" seeing someone else right now (she doesn't get into full-blown relationships often because she is picky when it comes to guys). This is part of the reason my sister said he would get kinda annoying/mean. He was kinda mean to the other guy one night after he found out they were seeing each other. He was one of my best friends in college. I guess I would still consider him one of my best friends, but it isn't like we hang out all the time now since he lives ~2 hrs away. The annoying/mean thing didn't really surprise me when she told me that. He is a kinda an emotional, girly guy when it comes to relationship stuff. Gets clingy and text messages girls non-stop. He's always argumentative with people even when sober, but it obviously is worse when he is drunk. He mostly just argues about stupid little stuff for the sake of arguing. I'm not really surprised that he would take the rejection in an immature manner. She's said that he has basically approached her/talked to her multiple times saying things like, "I don't understand why we can't go out", "I think we could be good together", and "I liked you from the first time I saw you in Virginia." (Virginia is where we stopped overnight on the road trip). She is 21, will be 22 in about a month and a half. She's a senior in college. He's 24 and still going to undergrad (he had to drop out for a while because he got a DUI).
