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[couples question]Live with a significant other before marriage?

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by Lady_Di, May 13, 2008.

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  1. Lady_Di

    Lady_Di Member

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    Hi guys! :)

    I wanted to see some of your stories about living with a significant other before marriage. Did you live with your s/o before getting married? Are you living with a s/o with no marriage intentions anytime soon in the future?

    My bf is planning to buy a house and asked me to live with him. We have been together for almost 3 years with a long break last year so I guess you can say 2 years and 3 months. He says he wants to get married in the future but wants to see how we can handle living together first and I won't break up with him this time(I know, give me ***** for that but at that time, I was just really unhappy that time and now it's a lot better).

    Thoughts?
     
    #1 Lady_Di, May 13, 2008
  2. codell

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    Absolutely. Living in sin is the best.
     
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  3. emjohn

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    Do what's right for you. I didn't want to cohab with a GF before marriage, and didn't. My marriage has been going great and I'm extremely happy with my choice. That doesn't mean it's right for anyone else.

    Evan
     
    #3 emjohn, May 13, 2008
  4. RocketsPimp

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    NEVER trust a woman that says this.....EVER.
     
    #4 RocketsPimp, May 13, 2008
  5. Master Baiter

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    My wife and I lived together for a couple of years prior to getting married last year. I think it is a fantastic idea and I'm glad we did it.
     
    #5 Master Baiter, May 13, 2008
  6. pirc1

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    Was that you who posted about her boyfriend seeing another woman?
     
    #6 pirc1, May 13, 2008
  7. CharlieMurphy

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    You should move in with him and then invite us over to party.
     
    #7 CharlieMurphy, May 13, 2008
  8. ima_drummer2k

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    Should be interesting to see how this thread develops....

    Anyway, if I were a chick, I wouldn't move in with any guy on the promise that we will get married "in the future". I would need more than that. A lot of guys tend to dangle that marriage carrot in order to get what they want from women.

    Personally, I don't see anything wrong with living together if you're officially engaged. Otherwise, it just seems like you're playing house. I guess I'm old fashioned that way. BTW, this is just my flea bitten opinion. I'm not judging anyone, so save it...

    IF YOU CO-HABITATE, YOU MUST SET A DATE
     
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  9. kpsta

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    I've been playing house for nearly 10 years... wow. :)
     
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  10. Lady_Di

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    Yes, but that guy was someone I was dating during our long break, not this guy in particular.

    What is the guy getting out of a chick if they live together? I'm really not in rush to get married. I'm pondering if it's a good idea to live together.
     
    #10 Lady_Di, May 13, 2008
  11. MattM

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    as long as you pay him rent
     
    #11 MattM, May 13, 2008
  12. Jeremiah

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    Do it. You don't really know what someone is like until you live with them.

    And the hopes and dreams of thousands of clutchfans are dashed...
     
    #12 Jeremiah, May 13, 2008
  13. Hayesfan

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    I like that premise, however...

    if its for financial reasons I can see living together just because it makes sense to save money.

    I already own my own house, so having someone move in with me to help with the bills would help but isn't necessary. By the same token I don't want someone to live with me just because of money issues.
     
    #13 Hayesfan, May 13, 2008
  14. bladeage

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    He has to join CF and then we have to approve him, and then you may move in with him.

    The board of people who will be approving is as follows: Bladeage, Swoly, Apollo, Yaozer, Miguel, Dave, Moe, imadrummer, Raven Lunatic, finalsbound, and whoever returns first from RM95 or Fatty.

    First question he must answer: Is Tracy McGrady a Point-Forward? If so explain, and if not, explain.

    Pending his answer and approval of his answer, we can move on to the next question.
     
    #14 bladeage, May 13, 2008
  15. Lil Pun

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    Me and my girlfriend have been living with each other for about a year and a half now. I'm glad for the experience because I see a lot of things that I don't like about her and I am sure she is seeing the same with me.
     
    #15 Lil Pun, May 13, 2008
  16. bladeage

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    Starting with buying a PS3 instead of some new furniture. :D
     
    #16 bladeage, May 13, 2008
  17. ima_drummer2k

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    Steady poontang.

    And I say that with the greatest of respect.

    BTW, we will also need you to go ahead and re-post that Marilyn Monroe pic you posted a few months back. You know, in order to properly assess the situation. :)
     
    #17 ima_drummer2k, May 13, 2008
  18. DonnyMost

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    Isnt there some kind of study where 70% of couples who lived together before getting married get divored, where the rate of other couples is significantly lower?
     
    #18 DonnyMost, May 13, 2008
  19. russian88

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    LOL what's the point of losing half your stash in a few years??
     
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  20. gifford1967

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    My wife and I lived together before we were married and I've lived with other girlfriends. I strongly recommend living together before marriage. You learn a lot about your compatibility and I don't think any major problems that crop up while living together are going to magically go away after you say your vows.
     
    #20 gifford1967, May 13, 2008
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