As my loyalty has been come into question with my boyfriend , I was just wondering how many of you here have ever cheated on your significant other? I'm talking about infidelity in serious relationships and marriages. Out of my 5 older sisters, all 5 have been cheated on by their husbands/ex-husbands. My 2 older brothers have cheated on their ex-wives. My mother has been cheated on by my father. Obviously there's a pattern here. For those that say you never have and never will, what makes you so sure?
There was a very comprehensive study done on this recently..i can't remember who did it. It said that while we all THINK everyone is cheating on their spouses, a much smaller percentage of people are. Like closer to 20-30% if I remember correctly. I would say there's a strange pattern in your family that it's happening so frequently. I obviously don't know you or your family...I'm not trying to pass judgment...but that seems like a whole lot of cheating.
Cheated once in college when my girlfriend was at home student teaching. I was also was cheated on later on. Also was the one a girl cheated on her boyfriend with. It all sucked. I'll never do it again. I'll never cheat, never stand for being cheated on, and never be the one someone else cheats with. I think it has something to do with me growing up...
I don't mean to be harsh, but if your dad cheated on your mom when ya'll were young, maybe he set a bad example for your brothers, plus they say women marry men that remind them of their fathers, so yeah.......
Yeah, I have a dysfunctional family that is in denial. Unfortunately for me, growing up hearing about all this cheating and seeing its consequences has me brainwashed into thinking that its not a matter of IF, but of WHEN. Like no matter what man I marry, he will cheat, atleast once. I see what you mean, and that is a big possibility. My parents have been married for 30+ years and sadly, my father hasn't been faithful for atleast half and everyones always known.
I'm sorry you feel that way. Our parents have gigantic roles in how we view the world and our ability to trust other people...as parents, we sometimes forget just how huge that role is. My wife is my best friend. We were very close friends before we started dating. The idea of a life without her makes me physically ill. I have no desire to risk that.
i'm human. i'm not beyond temptation. but a lot of it is keeping yourself away from situations where you would find yourself tempted, to begin with. given enough time...i would consider my wife...and my kids...and i wouldn't want to disappoint them. the idea of f'ing that up is horrible to me. regret is a b****.
My boyfriend and I were best friends for three years before dating and we've been together as a couple for four years now. That is exactly how I feel about risking it, and he usually believes me, but sometimes he just has a fit of jealousy and accuses me of things I could never do. Like I said, I believe its only a matter of when he will cheat, but I guess the saddest part is I'm not paranoid about it because it just seems so natural. It's nice to see that there are males capable of the thoughts you expressed. Thanks.
I have the same with my Girlfriend (we have been living thogeter for abot 3 years now). I have never cheated and i never will. I cannot stand hurting my girl, and IMHO cheating is the ultimate betrail, and i know if i ever would cheat she would be devasated(same goes for me if she would cheat on me). And i would rather cut my arm off than hurting my girl. I know for sure i will never cheat.
I've never cheated, but... i was the guy a girl cheats on her boyfriend with, does that make me a cheater ?
I can see both sides. I have been on a historical fiction reading kick for the last year or so. It is interesting to see how "cheating" has evolved. Back in the Rome Empire, a man with land would likely own slaves to obstensively to work the land and keep the house. The woman slaves had other purposes. Landed men may also had several concubines to go with the one wife. Back in medieval England, a wife expected her husband to provide for her and their children, but not to be 100% faithful. Back in Victorian England, a wife expected her husband to be discreet. But now most women demand more. It is just not fair
he has fits of jealousy and accuses you? that's not a good sign. just think of people who point their finger at others when they are telling the "truth" aka rafael palmiero or bill clinton.
lol I've considered this, but no, he's just really paranoid about EVERYTHING. I'm actually surprised it doesn't happen more often. Edit: Actually maybe he feels guilty about the things I've LET him do? I dunno.
Have you noticed on immigration forms for good moral character they ask have you ever practiced polygamy? That cracks me up. It's in the section with are you a Nazi? and are you a habitual drunkard?
