Thought I'd piggyback off the marriage thread with this one: Is it bad the be the guy (or girl) that a person who is in a relationship (dating, bf/gf, or married) cheats on their significant other with? Technically, you wouldn't be the one cheating. Would you be considered an accomplice or just an innocent party?
If you do it knowingly, you're anything but innocent. Then again, having been burned in these situations before, I may just have a jaded view.
took me a minute to decode this question in the labs. to me, it's wrong either way. although, there's been this one chick that's been flirting with me, and i discover she has a boyfriend. obviously she's unhappy right? so grass on the field, play ball? or no? i'd say it's wrong, but i'll also need the counsel of the clutch bbs on this one.
so if i happen to be clubbed over the head but yet i only remember her and not her boyfriend, it's fine. gotcha.
Knowingly doing so makes you just as bad, IMHO...Can't be innocent as you are apart of the adultery... Women are b*tches...oh wait...
I don't think you're innocent. Unless you live in a vacuum you can't disregard what else might be going on in someone's life. If they're married you have to take that into account. You're not as bad as they are but you're contributing.
i think i have a way that we might save the bandwith associated with these threads....before posting it to ask, ask yourself..."how would i feel about it in someone else's shoes? how would i feel about it in the position of the husband who found his wife cheated on him with another man? do i really want to be party to causing someone else pain purposefully?" that might help out.
As long as you don't complain when the cheated-on comes at you with a 2X4....and you're OK being a cad. Have fun...she sounds like a great gal.
on the subject title of the thread. It's not ok, and especialy sux for the cheatee if you actually have very strong feelings for the cheater only to find out that they're already married, and especially when they tell you AFTER you've already had sex for the first time after months of waiting and talking and planning things. And it's even worse when the cheatee finds out that the cheater has a kid already that they've been lying aobut all this time by pretending that they're just the kid's nanny, especially when the unwitting cheatee's parents almost got divorced when he was younger because of infidelity. ... ok end of rant.
