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Can't get a date? Take that damn smile off your face.

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by finalsbound, Jun 30, 2011.

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  1. finalsbound

    finalsbound Member

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    says science.

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/05/25/brooding-men-smiling-wome_n_866979.html

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    Guys, want to look sexy and get the girl? Don't smile too much. Look brooding or show a bit of shame instead. Women, ignore that advice.

    Women find happy men less sexually attractive than those with expressions that show pride or hint that they have done wrong and know it, according to Canadian researchers.

    The study published online Tuesday in the American Psychological Association journal Emotion showed pictures of the opposite sex to both men and women. Participants were then asked for their initial reactions on sexual attractiveness based the expressions they saw.

    "Men who smile were considered fairly unattractive by women," said Jessica Tracy, a University of British Columbia psychology professor who directed the study.

    "So to the extent that men think that smiling is a good thing to do if they want to be found sexually attractive our findings suggest that's not the case," Tracy said.

    The men's reaction was just the opposite.

    "Women who smile are absolutely very attractive. That was by far the most attractive expression women showed," Tracy said in an interview.

    The researchers admit they are not sure why men and women reacted differently to smiles. In a man, a big smile may make him appear too feminine or more desperate for sex.

    The study also adds fuel to the notion that women are attracted to bad boys.

    "Women are attracted to guys like James Dean, Edward the vampire. The guys who are flawed, but who know it and are tortured by it," Tracy said.

    A slightly downcast expression of shame is an appeasement gesture that hints at a need for sympathy.

    Men also found sexual attractiveness in women whose expressions and body language hinted at shame.

    The researchers stressed they looked only at initial reactions of sexual attractiveness, and were not recommending men adopt a no-smile policy for a long-term relationship.

    "When people want a long-term relationship they take much more into account than sexual attractiveness. How nice a person is, is a big thing," Tracy said.

    "So we're not saying, don't be a nice guy," she said.

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    I think most of the males I know have figured it out.

    Strange how this stuff works.
     
    #1 finalsbound, Jun 30, 2011
  2. BrieflySpeaking

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    duuuh
     
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  3. RKREBORN

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    LOL. Even female psychology professors still can't decide what they want.
     
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  4. RoxSqaud

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    I already knew this.

    ...b****es are crazy though. No doubt about that.
     
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  5. Jontro

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    Really though, who cares if you smile or not if you have a big bank account.

    I thought that's what women find most attractive in men.
     
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  6. DonnyMost

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    If you have a goofy, ugly, or insincere looking smile, then yes, it's a liability.
     
    #6 DonnyMost, Jun 30, 2011
  7. apollo33

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    If you are attractive, it doesn't really matter if you smile or not IMO.
     
    #7 apollo33, Jun 30, 2011
  8. RedRedemption

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    Turn that frown upside down! Unless you want to get some p***y...
     
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  9. DonnyMost

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    Bingo.
     
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  10. plutoblue11

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    It's in context.


    I don't think smiling or not smiling is going to help the creepy old guy down the street get a date.
     
    #10 plutoblue11, Jun 30, 2011
  11. thadeus

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    I love all these articles on "how to get girls."

    You want to know how to get girls? Have so many options that you never feel a need to impress one particular girl. That's it.

    Also: If girls knew you picked out your cologne, reshaped your personality, and selected your socks just to get attention from women then they think you're their b**** - and they don't want you to be their b****.

    In short: Stop worrying about it. Just keep yourself clean and be genuine.
     
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  12. rocketsjudoka

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    That article reminds me of when Stewie goes to high school to prove how easy it is to be popular and says "Its lame everything is lame.."
     
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  13. Rocket River

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    Relationships are taking on all the excitement of finding the next additive for cereal to stay crunchy in milk.

    once we find the magic formula . . . will everyone be happy?

    Rocket River
     
    #13 Rocket River, Jun 30, 2011
  14. Isabel

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    exactly, there is no magic formula, despite what the dating websites want you to believe.

    I like when guys smile, actually; I never found the brooding bad-boy look attractive. True that the "slightly guilty" look can get sympathy from women... for a while... as a female you eventually learn that it's not cute and quit falling for the guilty types, who usually have something to be guilty about.
     
    #14 Isabel, Jun 30, 2011
  15. Xerobull

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    Meh...
     
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  16. Rashmon

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    He ain't smillin'
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  17. Rocket River

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    Most of these type stories . . . I think they focus on how to get with
    women [girls] 15-22 at most.

    So for the youngsters . . Teenagers . . .these things may be of use
    and . .. they mainly about just 'hooking up'

    Rocket River
     
    #17 Rocket River, Jun 30, 2011
  18. CrazyDave

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    In other news, chicks also do not dig the "two thumbs up glamour shot pose."
     
    #18 CrazyDave, Jun 30, 2011
  19. HAYJON02

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    The kind of trophy girl you'd have to worry about acting differently for, it's not looks, sense of humor, money, intelligence, or any one of those particular things. It's about notoriety. Someone they can brag to their girlfriends and family about. Sounds shallow but it's strangely more comforting in that at least it depends on something you're responsible for actually doing.
     
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  20. HAYJON02

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    Ahhh, but do guys dig the kissy face in tandem with the hands on hips, chest stuck out out, one leg slightly forward and bent pose?
     
    #20 HAYJON02, Jun 30, 2011
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