Can I get some advice on how to tell a lady that you are interested in her?

my girlfriend and i have a 2,5 year relationship.first i saw her at school and we talked when we went to home, because she lives near me, i also called her alot. but i saw her just as a friend, and she saw me the sae way i thought. but on a day it hit me that i realy liked her, so i just went to her at scol and asked if i could come over and talk to her after school, when i came to her house, i just tld her i realy liked her, but i didn't want to ruin our friendship.But she told me she was in love with me, and so we started our relationship.
my advise is just tel her how you feel, be honest.
good luck

 

I can understand the desire to make this memorable and hit a home run...but don't fall for it. This is real life...not a John Hughes film. Any grandiose scheme will ultimately leave you coming off like a dork. You don't sound like a dork...you sound like a reasonable guy.

Show your maturity here. I've been in the same situation...albeit a long time ago...and I have tried to make it memorable for her. It always comes out wrong. Just tell her how you feel...straight up. Don't tell her in a cheesy "I like you (giggle)" kind of way.

Tell her how you have valued her friendship and as time has gone by you have developed an interest in dating her. DON'T be long and dramatic about it. Just tell her.

Most importantly...good luck. Let us know how it turns out.

 

just say hi...im rocketteen...wanna ****?

 

Dude, you gotta be more subtle than that. Something along the lines of "Suck me, beautiful."

 

I would say just be honest with her. Let her know how you feel. Good Luck!

 

If you've been in the friendzone this long it's really hard to get out unless she is giving you some hints that she might be interested. My advise is to do exactly what Refman said and just come out and tell her at the right moment. rocketteen when you go to tell her think of Trent from the movie Swingers.

Trent: "I don't want you to be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone's *really* hoping makes it happen. I want you to be like the guy in the rated R movie, you know, the guy you're not sure whether or not you like yet. You're not sure where he's coming from. Okay? You're a bad man. You're a bad man. You're a bad man, bad man."

 

refman's right...follow his advice and you'll be riding the a-train to marital bliss before you know it!

 

Great advice from fellow Clutchcity-ites. Save the chocolates, etc. for when you do go out.

Good luck!

 

I cannot believe all this advice you are getting, my poor poor friend. Honesty?

Look, you have to show this woman that you are the hottest ticket in town. Simply pay other women (yes, $$$) at your school to come up and pay you lots of attention when your target is around. Also, make sure you stop flirting with your target -- remember, you have many irons in the fire, and she is not really so special. Also, become a rock star and start smoking. After all this, get back to me and let me know her exact velocity when she throws herself at you.

Sheesh. Hard to believe these other guys have ended up with anybody! Oh, by the way, to seduce Mrs. B-Bob I used the chump approach those guys advocate. But I'd do it right if I had the chance to do it over again!

 

"the chump approach" is my new favorite line from this board!

i think it even surpasses the always special, "ass clown" moniker that refman likes to throw around...

 

This is so simple. JUST TELL HER. Don't rehearse anything, don't set up anything lavish or pretentious, just speak your mind. So what if you bobble your words or say something silly (that has a tendency to be viewed as cute or adorabe anyway). Don't plan it, just say it when you get the feeling that it's the "right time." You'll know.

Just tell her. Simple.

 

Ref you always give good advice. You must be a pretty smart ****.

 

man...great approach! i love you, hoop-t!!! oooopppss!!! did i say too much? damn my loose tongue!!

 

do those **** stand for ass? if they do, you're right. he's a real smartass!

 

**** = Harry Potter's Assclown

 

Ref should change the "Senior Member" under his name to "Guidance Counselor".

 

Does she still flirt with you now?

Has she ever touched you in an indiscriminant way?

Does she always look you in the eye and smile at you when the 2 of you are talking?

If you answer yes to all of these questions, then I would definitely ask her out.

The worse she can say is no and that she wants to remain friends.

Of course, you can always try the old "let's say we are 2 friends out for a good time and not boyfriend and girlfriend." In other words, pretend you are not dating.

This works sometimes, but of course, not all the time.

Good luck.

 

Actually, why don't you try hanging out with the girl in a non-school setting? Just make sure to pick an activity that (1) allows you to talk to one another and (2) is fun. The idea of make a "big confession" may not be necessary - if she's interested in you, you'll know by the end of the date (just don't call it that unless she does). Also, if she can't find the time to hang out with you, then she probably isn't interested in you romantically either.

 

Just ask her out. Hey if she is really a friend she won't hold it against you. Most of the women friends I had prior to marriage I met while on the make.

Woman friends never hold it against you if you try to go out with them occasionally, as long as you can take "no" for an anwer.

Look, how would you feel if some platonic woman friend of yours said she was attracted to you or wanted to go out? Wouldn't you feel complemented and like it? Other things being equal, wouldn't you still be her friend?