So I have an interesting dilemma that has bothered me for a quite a while. Say I meet a girl at a bar and we decided to go back to her place for 'hot coffee'. Who's car do we take? Or do we take separate cars to her place? Or do I take her car and come back in the morning to get my car?
Always, always, always separate cars.....unless she wants to ride with you. That way you can still leave whenever you want, and she can find a friend to take her to her car if it's really out of the way or something.
Disagree with the two cars. If you are driving separate cars, there may be some reflection time for 'buyer's remorse' to set in for whatever reason. The answer: the Wingman on standby to pick you up if there is anything funny going on at the house like an extra leg, etc.
not everyone cares if the other person is having buyers remorse. the only person i would care having buyers remorse would be myself.
Ok, so this is probably going to be a little longer reply than is necessary, but I pretty much have this kinda thing down to a science now after a few trial-and-error sessions. Now, I'm a 24-year old guy, so if you are older, this may not apply as much to you. I find that younger girls end up being more likely to waffle on their decision and/or change their mind as to if they want "hot coffee". For your situation, I would just go ahead and take your own car back to her place if you are unsure about anything (not sure if she is totally down to hook up, not sure about her living arrangement, etc). If you are sure that she is cool and you have the hot coffee green light, then feel free to go in her car. In my experience, the ideal situation is to go back to your own place with her. Taking her to your place in your car is good, and is obviously the most logical choice. However, I've had even better luck by having her take me in her own car back to my place, and then have her take me back to the bar/club in the morning or have a friend take me to get my car. It's a subtle distinction, and some would say inconsequential, but for whatever reason, it has worked best for me.
Throw your wingman your keys. Drive her car. What if she yacks on the drive out? You want to clean that out of your ride? p.s. Don't drink and drive... you midtowners, you.
Her car. Leave yours there, or....like most of my cases. I went with a wingman or bunch of other friends. I never drive to the Bars unless I have to. So if I don't go home with my buds, I go home in the chicks car (her home)....never had a prob with that in the past. (i'm in a relationship now....those days are over)
I tend to agree...time for reflection has to be eliminated...I would drive my car and take her to my place...if she'd rather drive and go to her place, call a cab...
