As I am typing this, I have just received 23 stitches over my left eye. I have a massive shiner and a long, jagged wound. I am drunk, and in rather heavy pain. Here's the story, as far as I recall: Tonight, I left a bar - completely drunk. At some point, I got into a fight with a guy in the parking lot. I don't recall the circumstances, though I'm sure it was a misunderstanding. But, I had to be a drunk tough guy - and I got hit in the face with something. The doctor at the emergency room said it looked like someone hit me with rings on their knuckles. It's painful, and ugly, but probably more embarrassing than anything else. When is it too much? I'm thinking I need to retire the bar-drinking/bar-fighting/b*stard persona. I'm thirty-one years old, in grad school, and maybe I don't need to be doing this type of thing anymore. What about you? Have you reached a point where you've said, "enough is enough," or do you see yourself reaching that point in the future? Do you just not have the habits and proclivities that would lead to the need to make such a renunciation? Have you always had common sense? Am I just a ****-up? Good lord, my head hurts.
The countdown until this thread turns into a "why I am so much better than you bc I dont drink" starts......now. Tick tick tick. But seriously, do you fight when you are not drunk? It hard to tell from this post if you have rage issues or if you just cant handle your liquor. If its #2, then lay off the booze. If its #1, you may want to talk to someone. Sorry to hear about your face. My sister's roommate, who is visiting us this week, says "scars are sexy" Hope that helps.
Jr. High is the time to stop fighting. College is the time to stop drinking more than you can handle. Now would be a good time to stop drinking more than you can handle AND fighting.
You seem to be on the right track questioning what you are doing. It's pretty obvious you have a problem or maybe one is developing. Just be happy that's all that happened to you. I'm not saying this to be a jerk, but it's time to grow up.
If half of your face is caved in and you can't remember what happend -- this might be the right time for a life change.
I don't want to sound unsympathetic because it sounds like you took a pretty good beating, but I imagine you have handed out a few of your own over the years and might have had this coming (just the law of averages - get in enough fights, you will eventually get your ass kicked). Seriously, though, you asking when it is time to stop getting in drunken brawls tells those that read this thread that you have some issues you need to address. Good luck, man.
I never know half the time if thadeus is being serious or not - very strange individual... Anyway, if you are being serious, you need to seek help if it is a drinking problem. You are too old to be getting into drunken fights.
I had a moment like this a few years ago. I even started a thread about it if I remember right. I wasn't fighting, but I blacked out and didn't remember driving home. That's scary. Oddly enough, I too was thirty-one when it happened and I asked myself the same questions you are, thadeus. I just decided not to drink hard liquor anymore. If I did, it would only be a few drinks. The rest of the time, it was just beer. I'm to the point now where, the moment I feel myself start to lose control, I just stop. That doesn't mean you immediatly go home, it just means you stop drinking for the night. It's easier said than done, I know, but when you learn to do this, it will make your life a whole lot easier.
I told my grandma to leave you alone but you kept on talking trash. She has every right to park in that handicap parking space.
Alcohol. The cause of and solution to all of lifes problems. - Homer It seems like most bad moments in my life have come from nights of getting too drunk. The problem is that there will always be some punks out there that are looking to get in a fight. Just try to cut back on the amount of alcohol you consume in a night so you'll still have your wits about you if this situation presents itself again.
Drinking irresponsibly kills, just be thankful that you're lucky enough to live another day...take this 'hit' (no pun intended), learn from it, and move on...nothing you can do about the past, but the future is yet to be had.
I don't understand how people cannot control their behavior, but perhaps it's cause I cut myself off before that point.
I had a few fights when I was around 21. Just try to be more responsible. If you can't then quit. I have been saying I should quite for quite some time. I'm 38 now and just try to drink responsibly. I have been arrested 3 times (no convictions). All because of alcohol.
While we're all waiting for our boy thadeus to wake up... I don't understand the mentality of the "angry" drunk. If I've had some drinks, everyone I come in contact with is the best friend I've ever had. Even total strangers. I've never had the urge to fight when I'm drunk.
