I feel that I am at a crossroads with my life. I have had my share of personal disappointments (recovering from the latest one now) and I am really wondering if I will ever advance at my company (I have been doing the same job for the last 3 years plus I have gotten a master's in that time frame). I do feel that my life is good if I really focus on all the positives, but it is so easy for me to look at the things I don't have and I guess get discouraged by that. Maybe I am just a natural "glass half empty" type person instead of "glass half full", but I am tired of waking up every day like Bill Murray in "Groundhog Day" where everything seems like the same ol same ol and doesn't look to change anytime soon. I am going to talk to my HR director this Wednesday because I really like my company but maybe I need to go to another office that is in a bigger city, who knows? But I thought it would be interesting to see if there are other people out there that are somewhat disenchanted with their lives from time to time (the Rockets sucking this season sure hasn't helped things - I don't even want to venture into the GARM!). So, 3 choices for this question: yes, I'm happy with my life right now, no, I am not happy with my life, and the middle answer - sometimes I am happy with it and sometimes I am not. I guess my answer is the last one - the sometimes one. EDIT - Well, ****, I lost my poll option - oh well. Guess people need to state in their post, their answer.
I keep thinking about the entire same old thing as well... I only just started working but I really want to go back to University (need to save some money first!)... it's a bit depressing. I know we are lucky and that most people throughout history have struggled simply to survive, but is that really all that there is to it? Doing the same thing over and over? I'm guessing having a good family life and friends helps, but I really want to find something that I enjoy doing... I really don't care about the money, seeing it's something you do for most of your life. I AM happy as things are (I make a point of thanking God every day, and take 5-10 minutes a day just to reflect and breathe in the good life around me), but I am definitely hoping for more still.
You know, I actually feel that I'm in one of those rare stages in life in which I am perfectly content and happy with everything. I think I can attribute it to several things. I'm happily married, expecting my first child, happy with my job (and finished college a couple years ago), and content with my life spiritually. I think probably the era of about 1999-2002 may have been the darkest period of my life to date, but the light at the end of the tunnel has been great. I guess what I'm saying is, maybe things will turn around for you.
Congrats on the kid DH. I don't have anything to complain, but there's many parts I'd want to change about my life. More money, better health, more time, better relationship with the parents, etc... I think it's normal in our culture to feel disatisfied from time to time. It keeps us on our toes to make the next big move. I guess the question before making the move is whether we can see ourselves living the way we are 3 years from now.
Sounds like you need a change, Manny. Change can be good. We moved to Austin, from Houston, 25 years ago, and have never regretted it. Changed jobs... the whole nine yards. I almost had several wrecks while checking out the beautiful women walking around Town Lake, and other parts of the city. I survived.
Manny, I've always thought you'd enjoy a bigger city than where you are now. How was Greece, btw? I'm extremely happy with my life. I've got a wonderful wife, we're becoming more and more financially secure, all the problems I've had with my family in the past are gone, my sister (the one who lost her baby two years ago) is now pregnant with the second child since that awful day, and I have outstanding friends. Hell, I've even finally decided on my career track depending on how much longer Swirve lasts and if my other job doesn't pan out as far as promotions and what not go. Yeah, I'd venture to say this is the happiest I've ever been in my life. And UT winning it all was just extra icing, baby.
I'm content with what led up to now, if that makes sense. All the crap i've done and pulled and only be where I am now makes me feel a little better. But I'm going to have to try harder to meet some goals in the next leg of my life.
I'm really happy. I was really depressed about 3 years ago. Things changed really quick, without warning. Really. Change might be good for you. Come visit us in Houston! We'll at least get you to a Rockets game, and out for a few drinks. Shoot, some people here could even get you laid. . Anyway, maybe a move like that would shake up your life. You're not tied down. The world is your oyster, man. You just have to irritate it enough to make a pearl from a grain of sand.
manny, change can be a very good thing. sometimes change is necessary. i recently quit drinking after 20 plus years of abuse and it's made all the difference in the world. that was something that i personally had to do. but i'll tell what, nothing you ever accomplish will make you happy indefinately. life is a trip, things come and go. your goal should be to grow, spiritually, finacially, having a family, learning to paint, travel the world, whatever. i've fortunately gotten to a point in my life where i just do what i do. i don't know if this makes any sense, but i really don't let too many things i can't control bother me. my grandmother used to always say, life's not what you make it, it's how you take it. i think she was right. look, you're young, take a chance if that's what you want. afterall, there are plenty of things we have control over. you can always go back to doing the samo samo. have fun.
Thanks everybody, whether you think so or not, the posts helps. I guess the hardest thing for me in moving is that I have always been someone who has gotten used to a "comfort zone" and I like to stay in that zone. When I went to Greece, I found my "comfort zone" was not there until the 4th day or so, but I was able to start getting used to it. I know that to really be happy, I'll probably have to move but for some reason that scares the daylights out of me. Maybe things will come together real soon in the near future - who knows. RM95, Email me at jfyoung@charter.net and I can tell you more about my trip.
manny, life is a strange journey. i'm still pretty young but i've had some unbelievable highs and lows throughout. one thing you can't do is give up or just settle for what position you are in now. money isn't the key to happiness, peace of mind and faith in god is.
By nature, I'm not real happy, but lately I've been about as happy as I can get. A change in jobs is what did it. Now if I could lose some weight, I'd have nothing to complain about.
Ever since meeting my girl, I've been experiencing the happiest days of my life. It's amazing how good loving someone (and being loved) can make you feel.
I'm only 22, but I feel as if my life is unfulfilled. I know I have a long ass way to go, but it's not a good feeling. It feels like I won't get there. Am I happy with my life? No. but it's not bad. Could it better? Yeah. Definetly. I have a lot of dissapointments in my life. Are they my fault. Mostly, yes. Some aren't. So the ones that are, yeah I can fix it, no problem. I have no lady currently, I have no kids, (although it feels like I do have kids), i have a boring job, I'll be done with college when i'm 38. Life is not about suffering. Mr. Meowgi, were you born Buddhist, are did you think it was the cool thing to do, and jumped on the wagon. If you did jump on the wagon, you're nothing but a T-Shirt buddhist. Ride Ride is over T-Shirt smack is the new cool clutchfans term.
I am happy with my life. I am never really happy with myself, but I don't let it get in the way of enjoying life in general. I won the lottery with my wife so that makes up for most everything else. Speaking of...I have discovered that the best way to "pick up chicks" is to be in a happy and secure relationship. Seriously, it is like some kind of all-powerful aphrodisiac to women.
I have to say I am one of the happiest people I know. I b**** alot just to b**** but my life is just awesome. Whats funny is that I trully don't like where I work but it doesn't matter because I don't define my life by what I do to pay my bills. The reasons I am so happy I'm married to my soul mate and I don't love her as much the child we have together. I live in nice house in a nice town. I don't have to worry about food or how I'm going to take care of my family. I have 8 brothers and sisters and 15 nephews and nieces and I love and get along with all of them. We see each every chance we get and even go on vacation with each. Everytime I get down in the dumps, I remember the war torn country that I was born in and realize that could still be there worrying about how to feed my family. I remember when I got lost in the wilderness and thought I may not get back to my family or the time I jumped out of plane and how all wanted to do is get to the ground safely so I hug my wife again. Happiness is about perspective and expectations. I do have the luxury of being married to someone I trully don't think I deserve and have a daughter that is beyong my expectations and I spend every day appreciating it. I believe in god but don't consider myself religous. I am buddhist by philosophy and it allows me to put things in perspective.I enjoy life so much that I don't even care about the concept of heaven because I don't see how it could be drastically better than the life I am experiencing now.
