keep your mind busy ... shoot hoops 24-7. go find some female friends. I guess this is bad, but concentrate on all the negative things on the relationship. Not recommended. Stay away from guns. ------------------ Nice guys finish last ... and im surely not going to finish last!
No sarcasm, but the best advice ever was given by Jerry Seinfeld... "You should do it in one motion, like a Band-Aid. RIGHT OFF!!!" Honestly, that is the best and least painful way to handle it. No way is easy. ------------------ "I swallowed a lot of agression...along with a lot of pizzas."
I always take the attitude that if if were meant to be broken up as it is, well then, that wasn't the right person and fortunately you aren't together anyhow. That at least is something to be glad about because you saved yourself alot of heartache in the future. Oh, and the same'ol saying "There are plenty of fishies in the sea!" ------------------ Whatever you want to do, you have to do something else first.
Exactly. Stay busy. Work out. Paint. Do something constructive with your time. Play Ball! But don't ever call her or email her. If she wants to come back to you she will do it on her own. It only gets messy when you talk. I've been down that road. Also, notice how much money you begin to save. It's the one major benefit! ------------------ humble, but hungry.
LOL Phi Slamma! Thanx for the help....2 1/2 years and its over ... helluva lot to deal with (given the severe circumstances that took place)....she had to move home
I'm out then ------------------ "Repression never did me any harm (I finally ceased to include "stop masturbating" as one of my guilt ridden New Year's resolutions, but that's a different topic)." Achebe - programmer by day, Mrs Palmers Husband by night
cliche, but time heels all wounds. I've had my heart broken before, and that has always done the trick. ------------------ "norm, would you like to buy an indian scalp ? This deal isn't gonna make or break me Norm, so don't jerk me around." Harry Carey "Norm, if I had a mohawk scalp, I wouldn't be sitting here talking to you."
I've only had to endure 1 hard breakup. Hopefully the last. Stay busy. Surround yourself with friends. Try to accept it and move on. I know that's hard. As gr8-1 says, "time heals all wounds". ------------------ "...just because a clever person can complicate the discussion about the truth doesn't necessarily mean he or she is making any progress in finding it."
well you should get really wasted hand start having meaningless sex. it will make you feel a little better when 3 months later she tells you that she has a new boyfriend. also, spend lots of time with your buddies. even though you probably continually blew them off over the last 2.5 years they will always take you back. when you feel the need to call her, hear her voice, e-mail, or whatever, DONT!! just write her a letter(on paper) and DONT SEND IT!. besides you will lose your momentum by page six, and when you re-read what you have written, you WONT want to send it. be realistic! if you spend 2.5 years with someone and dont have a kid, and a ring, than you were just going through the motions for the last year any way(most likely) you are finaslly free again. free of all the litle things that annoyed you. ok that should be sufficient. and seriously try thr meaningless sex rout, it is the MOST FUN way to keep busy, and get yer mind off her ------------------ Hanta-Force Paintball www.hanta-force.com [This message has been edited by The Voice of Reason (edited March 21, 2001).]
VOR, are you posting while drunk again? Advice, stay occupied as much as possible and do not go out of your way to talk to her. If she wants to talk, fine, but keep the conversation very general. Do not bring up the past. ------------------ "Clinton lied. A man might forget where he parks or where he lives, but he never forgets oral sex, no matter how bad it is." -- Barbara Bush
huked on foniks wurkd for hem LOL ------------------ Don't EVER underestimate the Heart of a CHAMPION!
smoke a spliff....catch a flick....get the large tub of corn. Actually, the best thing to do is to exercise. Get into circuit training or take a martial arts class - it will cleanse the mind and the body plus get your confidence up for the next go-round. After a good workout, you should then follow the first suggestion. ------------------
1) Give yourself a few days to be sad. I've heard it said that people react to a breakup in the same way they would with a death. If you give yourself a little time to grieve, you'll feel better. 2) Do some things that you enjoy -- preferably things that aren't tied to her. (Maybe things you liked to do, but she wouldn't let you. 3) Go on a trip by yourself somewhere you didn't go with her, and spend a few days with no plans -- doing whatever you feel like doing. Make some new, good memories, that aren't attached to her. 4) When you get ready (and it may be a while) get rid of all the stuff attached to her. (Keep some keepsakes/pictures if you want, but put them away for a few years.) There's no reason to keep that shirt she gave you or the hat you bought when you went on a special trip, if it only drags up memories every time you open your closet. You'll get new stuff that won't make you think of her. ------------------ Stay Cool...
Damn you guys are really coming through in the Clutch (no pun intended). Some of you guys should be licensed psychologists or social workers....thanx for the all the advice, even though VOR may be steering me off the road.
Drewdog, I went through the same thing last May. The best advice I have to give is give it time. It sucks hard, but that's really the only thing. It took 6 months, but then I met the girl I'm currently dating and I've never been happier in a relationship. ------------------ www.swirve.com...The reason Al Gore invented the internet.
After my old girlfriend and I broke up I held on to all of the b.s. momentos and keepsakes for the longest time. Even after I knew that she was wrong for me I still kept all that crap. I'm not really sure why. Maybe I was hanging on in a way. IMO, once you realize that your breakup was for the better you should toss whatever you've got that will remind you of her. Not doing this will impede progress in you finding Miss Right. ------------------ "...just because a clever person can complicate the discussion about the truth doesn't necessarily mean he or she is making any progress in finding it."
Not steerin you off the road, but rather giving you a lift towards happy town. my whole point is really not to dwell on it. find something(someone) fun to do and get to it. you only live once and its a shame to waste any of that time down in the dumps, or trying to live in the past. I also take a light hearted attitude to this, but you have to. Live it up buddy ------------------ Hanta-Force Paintball www.hanta-force.com
Nope, not drinking. but damn my dyslexia is getting worse!!??? oh well i will clean that baby up a bit. also I actually talked to my xlast night so this is kinda funny now. more advice dont screw her after the breakup. I usually have sex with my ex's and it usually causes problems. I know it is my problem, because it IS hard to turn down a woman asking for sex, especially one you cared so much about. I am gonna try to stop this practice myself. seriously DONT DO IT (literally) go to the anynonamous women they expext less emotionally. ok so I am kinda kidding. this brings up another point. dont hang with some other person who just broke up, or some depresed friend. hang with the fun ones. and back to those CDs BAD IDEA. inevitabl one of the songs/artists will remind you of her, or is her favorite. ok this is fun, but i will stop ------------------ Hanta-Force Paintball www.hanta-force.com
