My girl says that Im not really the romantic type, so Im looking for a way to show her that I can be. All kidding aside, I would like to know some ideas, tips, whatever..... Nothing ridiculously expensive would be ideal, as would be something creative. For some reason Im lacking in that department. Hopefully I can get some input from the few female members....
Listen to her. Really listen to her. To make sure you're doing it, be able, at least in your mind to repeat back what she just said. And if you use her own words in response to her, she'll know you're listening, too. That's not flowers or candy or candlelight...but it is intimacy.
You can always try the rose petal thing. with candels etc. I've done it before, and it was a great night.
Well, what do you guys normally do on any given day? I mean, maybe you just need to adjust some minor things in your daily (or weekly) routine... Going and doing something creative is great, but it tends to be a one time deal... You are romantic that one night, but what happens after that? Do you see what I'm saying? Is your girl into "the little things"? That might be a place to start. Try calling her just to say you were thinking about her and you hope she's had a wonderful day.... Or how about some small inexpensive gift that you saw her looking at the other day? Start with the basics, then you can work your way up to the grandiose romanti gestures.
Some here may tell you to buy flowers, or something like that, that's not really what she's after (and that's just a short-term fix). To be romantic, you must physically demonstrate (and SLIGHTLY exaggerate) the love you feel for her, and you must demonstrate it in ways that she would like to receive them. For example, you may think that cooking a brisket for someone is a great thing to do, but that may not be the way in which she likes to receive a demonstration of affection. (Though, some women may like it a LOT). Routinely do things that make a statement to her of, "I think of you, I know what you like, and I did this as a sign of love for you." Think of things she likes to do, things that you and she like to do together, and dedicate some time, money, or resources to that in a way that will surprise her.
Ok, seriously now. Go buy and read this book. The Five Love Languages Its the best relationship book I've ever read and will teach you how to show her how you feel. Actually tell her that you bought the book to learn more on how to be close to her and that you would like for the two of you to read it together and then discuss it. You'll be so golden.
You could always do this: "The plan is to have a trail of fortune cookies leading from her back door to her room where she will be met by a HUG PILE of fortune cookies. When I say huge I mean like cookies EVERYWHERE. One will be painted blue or some color and she will have to find it and open it. Inside it will say something like "hey I think you are a really cool gal, will you go to hc with me" Oh wait, that was DrewP, not Drewdog.
Kind of. I suck at stuff like jewelry and just little things like that. For some reason I think taking her out to dinner will suffice, but I think she wants me to do a little more than just a nice meal..... probably some kind of surprise or something like that.
Just tell her this line... "If I were to be reborn, I would be reborn a tear in your eye, to live on your cheek and to die on your lips" Works every time.
Sticky notes on the bathroom mirror saying "i love you" always works. Women love little things like that.
I think it all depends on the girl. Personally, to me the whole dinner, flower, schmoopy thing is not romantic - but that's me - just seems like the person is trying way too hard. It really has to be the little things that make her take a step back and think "that's MY guy." The silly stuff that just gets a smirk on her face. Just say what you're thinking when you think it. I'm sure the fact that you've even asked how to get better at it will impress her. Good luck!
OK...I hate greeting cards...I think they are big waste of money, BUT my wife loves it when I surprise her with a "just because" card for no reason. Here are some things my wife and I did when we were dating that we both enjoyed (may not be everybody's thing, but whatever) 1. Went to the art museum. We both like art, and had great dates to the museum to look at the paintings. Houstons updated building has a great permenant collection...she really loved it. (its cheap too) 2. Picnic...good old fashioned picnic. 3. Candlelit fastfood dinner picnic in the living room. This one actually has a little story behind it. My wife and I started dating in college and on the first Valentine's day together, she had a late class with an exam. By the time she got out of the exam and we tried to go out to eat, all the restaurants were full and she was too tired to wait...so we picked up some McDonalds, went back to the apartment, lit candles and had a romantic McDonalds meal in my living room on Valentines Day. We still do it every Valentines day 5 years later. 4. A big hit for my wife was she would always talk about he childhood and always wanting an Easy Bake Oven, but for some reason, she never got one. So I gave her one and she thought it was awesome. See if you can come up with that vintage toy she wanted but never got. They all get re-released in the stores every 10 years anyways. 5. Go see some theater...even some of the high schools put together decent plays. (cheap) 6. Go for an evening drive in the country. Get "lost" a little. 7. Impromptu weekend trip. There are many other ideas, just thought some of these might help out. Oh yeah...flowers and jewelry work as well.
Apparently, she is. Har har har. Seriously though, I think romance is different to each girl. It all depends on what kind of BS they were fed or found when they were younger. This may sound obvious, but look for things that trigger that response in her. Different scenarios will give you that answer; movies, things you guys randomly see, etc.. Like Max da pimp said, it's all about listening to her and understanding what the hell it is she wants.
Write her a poem once in a while. It doesn't have to be good as long as she is the subject. (Not you or your libido!)
