It's been awhile since I last shared with CF the visitation situation with my son. The last time I brought up the subject was in March, and I had a court date in which the judge granted the visitation schedule my son and I were hoping for: http://bbs.clutchfans.net/showthread.php?t=163976&page=1&pp=20&highlight=visitation During the last two months, by my attorneys request and the judges order, my son's mom and I were to attend counseling/co-parenting classes to figure out a coparenting plan that was in my son's best interest. After 2 months of co-parenting sessions, I am pleased to say that we are about to submit the final corrections for our coparenting plan. In a nutshell, my son and I will see each other half of the days in the year. He will visit, Tuesday, Thursday, and every other weekend(thurs-sun). His mom and I will split holidays equally, and summers equally. This will replace the state's idea of visitation, and the "every other weekend dad" scenario is in the garbage where it belongs. This was made possible because we were able to forgive everything that happened in the past, and look to my what was best for our son. I have to admit, after the years of torment, and anger, and pain, leaving the past in the past was surprisingly easy when we put our it all in perspective of what we could do to our son. Things have been so much better as far as my son is concerned. Tara and my son's mother even greeted each other at my son's first communion and Tara invited her to a luncheon in honor of my son's 1st communion. Tara has been so understanding and supportive through all this, and I can only hope to be as supportive and understanding as she has been through all this. I strongly recommend co-parenting classes to anyone going through what I was going through. Even if it has to be court ordered, it is well worth it...or at least it was to my son.
Congrats on getting everything worked out. I hope that things stay positive, and don't revert to the past.
Wow. That's great news, FT. I know this has been a source of serious anguish for your for a while now, just based on your posts on the BBS. Nice to hear that cooler heads can prevail when it comes to your kids.
Awesome news....best of luck and may god bless you and your son and everyone involved....its great when things like that happen.
Amazing what moving energy away from a perspective of self to others does....I know you thought that was probably impossible for your ex, but I'm so glad she found that. Forgiveness is never easy....but your willingness to approach this whole mess from the mindset that you did is so awesome. I'm so happy for you, for her and for your son. I'd say, "God bless you", but He already has.
That's great to hear and it is also great to hear that a father wants to see their child more than every weekend or every other weekend or whatever. A lot of fathers don't fight those kind of things and that's sad but I'm glad you did and I am glad you're working or have worked things out.
i know plenty of families that have broken up many have issues that don't allow them to see past their adult issues, it is warming news to hear that people can act like adults and put the interets of their child/children first, your son will have positive outlook about how to put personal quarrelsome issue aside for the benefit of another
Congratulations, FT! That is some seriously awesome news! Bob Dylan has a new album out and one of the songs is called "Life Is Hard", which is so true. The last thing we need to do is make it even harder but there are situations and people that inevitably do just that. When you make the decision to have a child (or children), you always have to remember that it is not about you or your spouse but about them. I used to think that it would be better for 2 people to stay together in an unhappy marriage for the children's sake but now I don't think so. IMO, it seems like children are happier when they are not always witnessing their parents fighting even if that means they only see one of them half the time.
In before it goes to the D&D. Spoiler I kid! Good stuff, Falcons Mustang. Good times. Yes. It's good. Yes. Good. Good times.
Thanks for all the kind words guys, but more importantly, thanks for all the prayers, wishes, and strength sent while enduring this entire process. What a journey. On top of this, more good news. Even though my annulment was recognized by the church, I still was required to attend Catholic counseling so that I would be cleared to remarry in the church. As of yesterday, the Diocese lifted all holds on me an Tara pursuing marriage through the church.
woo woo, congrats!! hopefully, your ex won't go back to her old ways. Good luck with your future marriage!
Oh, I know, but in a worst case scenario, we can never go back to standard visitation. He is safe in that aspect.
Great. I finalized my custody and divorce last week as well. I got a pretty good deal. I have primary custody and my kids mom has supervised visitations and even has to pay me child support. I don't exspect to see a dime though. I am just happy with getting my kids.
