January 2009- Basically, I meet this chick and we have good conversation and so forth. I never asked her out or had real interest at that time since we were both very busy. May 2009- I'm called out of the country on a weeks notice, and I leave. We suddenly takes more interest in each other and we start talking on the phone or AIM or text for like an hour or two per day while I am overseas. September 2009- I return back to the States, and we meet again. I go out with her on two dates and we hook up once (make out like teenagers for 4 hours, but nothing else). Oct 2009-- I don't hear much from her, thinking she is just busy with her dental school. It is a little strange in that we rarely talk at this point. Like maybe once every two weeks now, although we are located in same city. I ask her jokingly if she has a new boyfriend or something b/c we rarely ever talk and she emphatically says no. Oct/November 2009-I realize she has a boyfriend when she updates her Facebook status. But 3 weeks later they are broken up. Present- The chick suddenly starts talking to me again. Phone calls, AIM, texts, etc....I ask her how come we never really went out or pursued a serious relationship and she goes "I don't want to lose your friendship by making things weird with a relationship, etc" She says she still likes her boyfriend of three weeks, but is afraid she scared him off. So basically, am I friendzoned at this point? Or do you think the chick is still interested in me. I mean she only started to talk to me again when apparently she broke up with this boyfriend of 3 weeks. Our conversations go well, and she seems to flirt with me, but that line about "not wanting to mess up the friendship" makes me think otherwise. I don't know. It would be nice to go out with her, but I felt a little frustrated in thinking that I wasted all that time with nothing to show for it initially. I don't want to make the same mistake again. I know there are plenty of chicks around. I don't really like to be someone's second option. What do you think? Friendzoned, there is a chance, or move on?
if she talking to you about how much she likes a boyfriend of 3 weeks...yes. You are friended. Sorry. But i'd cut bait and run. After 3 weeks she "scared him off"?! Yall fool around and then nothing...??? Initially lies about a boyfriend...?
Hmmm... I say just let her know now you don't want to be friends...and don't ever let her talk to you about her ex-boyfriend. Once you have a conversation about another guy she's interested in...you're just a friend.
Seems like you're her second fiddle. When things don't work out with someone else, she comes back to you. Either be more aggressive about the situation, or move on from it. That is, if you don't see yourself just being her friend.
This is also important. Sounds like you'd be better off without her, dude. Even if you're not friendzoned.
I think she's just keeping you on the hook in case things don't work out in the end with Mr. 3 weeks. Sorry, but it looks like you're the back up plan. Move on.
Best advice. Remove your heart/feelings from the situation, get some nice rebound action (milk it as long as you can), then completely blow her off if she goes cold/crazy on you.
Brightside, Yea, man, you are better off if you move on. She probably would want to friendzone you but I wouldn't let her, if I was you. Tell her that you want a romantic relationship or none at all. Girls are hard to figure out because sometimes you have that window of opportunity and sounds like she met this other guy before she met you. Being immature (which is what she sounds like), she was probably afraid that things wouldn't work out with the other guy, so she is using you as the fall-back option. You don't deserve to be treated like that. Oh and if a girl really likes you, she would make more of an effort to contact you and talk to you. I know a lot of women are old-school and believe in all that horse**** about how they should NEVER call a guy, but believe me, if you call her and leave a message, she should call you back within a day. If she doesn't then she doesn't like you or she better have a damn good excuse.
Girls only say that when they're getting laid by someone else. Once Mr. 3 Weeks is done, she'll come back looking for some Brightside in her backside.
She probably enjoys the attention and sexual tension, but that's just a nice way of saying "I just want to be friends."
pwned in the friendzone....no girl who is interested in another guy will even mention to that guy anything about a boyfriend. And they definitely don't say crap like, "I don't want to lose your friendship by making things weird with a relationship."
