Ok, here's one for you. How young or old is too young or too old for you to date? You don't have to say ages so much as 10 years older or 10 years younger. The reason I ask is that I'm 35 and friend introduced me to some friends thinking I might hit it off with one of them. Ok, no problem. One of them was attractive and we seemed to get along ok and enjoy each others' company - really casual, but whatever. So, then I find out that she is 20! I mean, 20??? Nothing against you young-un's here, but I'd kinda like to stick to people who were born before I made it into high school. For me, I think my limit would be mid-20's, but a friend today brought up a good point. He said, "What if you were hanging out with a girl, you thought she was hot and you got along with her great. Then, after that, you find out she's only 21. What do you do?" I honestly had to think about it because I wondered what I would do in that situation. For that matter, what the hell would she do if she found out I was 14 years her senior? As for older, that all really depends on the person, but my guess is that I wouldn't want to date someone more than a year or two older than me. Maybe that's age bias and maybe it is just how I am, but I often find I get along better with people who are younger than me than those who are older unless they are musicians because something about music just keeps you from aging as quickly as normal people. Anyway, what is your age limit?
You didnt by chance meet her from her movie reccomendations at the local video store? The age range is a tough call, especially if it ever gets serious. Im almost 25 and id be fine with around 3-4 years younger or older.
Uh, is X your age? Kind of off topic here. But last semester I had a totally hot professor for my journalism class. I wanted to ask her out really bad, we had a ton of common interests, and she was really funny and smart.. but she was practically 30 years old.. almost a decade older than me.. plus she already had a career and everything. It just would have been obviously too hard/weird.. even though I think she dropped a few hints..
before my current.. i've always stuck to no one under 3 years... then i met her.. we where friends for awhile, i did not even think anything would happen because she was 8 years my junior... then one day, something clicked and we've been together for almost a year... we enjoy each others company and i love being with her... i dont know if its gonna last... but i dont really think about it, i guess time will tell... i guess you never really know, just enjoy the time you have if it works then it will.. if it doesn't then move on...
always dated with ladies my age. But have been trying to get with a friend who is older than me, by about 2 years.
I used to have the traditional limits, or so I thought... then there is the infamous story of Ferdinand and Isabel, who got together at ages 32 and 19, respectively. I can't believe I did that either. At the same time, age is just a number and shouldn't keep you from being with the right person (provided it's not statutory or there isn't a power imbalance in the relationship). He didn't have much experience and didn't seem old, so it wasn't much of a factor. It's only been an issue at the video store, when all the movies he wants to see came out before my time. Still, if I get back out on the market, I'd like to think "I'm not doing that again." It's nice to know that some of you are at least able to find women attractive who are older than yourselves... don't see why not, since it works the other way all the time. I'm not normally attracted to people who are older or anything. In terms of the fact that my social/personal life isn't quite straightened out yet... at least I'd like to think it can be straightened out... I'll just have to cross my fingers and hope that, as Jeff said, "something about music just keeps you from aging as quickly as normal people". Let's hope so. You know, if it could keep the gray hairs, weight gain, circles under eyes, etc. away for a few more years, that would be really cool... also, hopefully it makes up for unfortunate circumstances such as "being a professor". (Which makes you seem potentially old to anyone who's a student, whether they're 18 or not, whether they're ever going to take one of your classes or not.)
Honestly, I'm not sure it matters all that much. Funny enough, my dad has married the same age, much older, and much younger. My parents met in college and are within 1 year of age, divorced. My dad's second wife was like 15 years older, divorced. Now my dad is married to a chick 15 years younger. It depends on each individual person and their tastes and preferences. If having tons of things in common,like musical tastes are important, i would say date someone within a few years of your age. Otherwise...nah.
Dating Younger Women: Age divided by 2 + 6 35/2 + 6 = 23.5 Dating Older Women: Carefully examine the effects of gravity over time.
I have gone about 5 years or so usually lower and that's the max.... Im 26 now so i guess the 20 - 21 range would be me...
i'm 20. i tend to get along best (and date) chicks between 17-19. however my limit would be between 17 and 22 --- although i'm kind of intimidated if they are older than me...cuz i like to be in control.
Jeff, go for it, what harm could there possibly be? As for myself, I'm 22 and have not had any situation arise where I'd be dating somebody much younger or older than myself, so I don't really know yet how I feel about it. I have a friend though, who's a year older than me and he is always looking for older women, I mean women in their 30's. I guess dating this older woman when he was like 20 has given him this warped view that he is light years more mature than everybody else in College Station. One of his descriptions for the girls at A&M is that they are still children. The thing is I'm pretty sure the reason for that was because he'd hit on a lot of chicks and get turned down. Of course if he walks into a bar or club where single people in their 30's are hanging out, he's bound to attract the attention of a few older women. I think because of my friend, I myself am not too interested in dating older women. Of course I'd make an exception if I could by the Ashton Kutcher to a Demi Moore.
