I've always lived on my own. Never really roomed with anyone. Next month, I will be moving in with two other girls (3 bedroom apt.). I'm mainly doing this to help them out, and at the same time, help me out. It'll allow me to save up some money. Granted, I could live on my own without any problems, but something about the idea of having more money to save/splurge is rather tempting. The way I see it, it's a win-win situation. I'll be helping some friends out and at the same time, save up some money. My only concern is that they'll have guys (or people in general) over all the time. They've never been on their own, so I'm afraid they'll take advantage of that liberty and want people over ALL the time. So that being said, what is there to expect? Is there anything in particular I should avoid (other than sleeping with them)? Thanks!
I lived with 2 chicks one year, my 2nd one in College Station. It was a fun year, was very attracted to one of the girls who I knew for a year before (was my sis' friend). Ended up having a bunch of fun drunk nights, etc. But man, it hurt my GPA sooooo badly.
how are you 'helping' them out? did they just need a 3rd roommate? if they are doable and they want guys around, and you have a problem with that due to your attraction to one or maybe both of them that they don't know about yet, you may have a problem. if you are just wanting peace and serenity rather than having a bunch of sausages over, you may want to voice your concern and discuss, and get out if you need to.
There is no way you get a serious answer now. (Except that I'll say that if they've never been on their own before, I'd expect other problems besides visitors like cleaning, sharing a fridge, etc.)
i have had female roommates in the past and while they were all nice people they werent the greatest people to live with. they had people over all the time and took a lot of liberties with my stuff and food and most of the time assumed it was fine. they're girls they are usually used to getting what they want. (of course not the case with all of them) it depends really on the girls themselves and you yourself. personally for me I have an easier time telling a guy roommate something like "dude you've left your dishes in the sink for 3 days now go clean that **** up!" than to a girl the same thing. it could be even worse if they out number you in the apt if there is ever a discussion on apt rules you'll more than likely could get overruled if anything is put to a vote. also have the girls lived with a guy before in the past? that could also be an issue for them if they dont know how to respect your stuff etc. i mean it never bothered me when they had their BFs over but I know of my friends said it would bother them when I was living there if they were in my position. thats another thing there is the whole "you shouldnt sleep with her/them" i guess it depends again on the girl but I would not recommend it in general you do not want to have a living situation go sour over sex especially when if you are all lock in for a year on a lease.
They are good looking girls, but I think it's obvious that sleeping with them would NOT be a very good idea.
Here is the problem that my friend told me about when he roomed with girls. Girls tend to assume that a guy is going to bend over backwards to allow them to get away with anything they want. Basically, ground rules have to be set. Girls can also be surprisingly nasty when it comes to keeping things clean as well.
