I'm not kidding. S/he changed gender at age 16. Apparently, I'm the last uncle to meet her/him. No there was no surgery. I'm from a huge family. I am uncle to 20 kids. We can rarely meet at once anymore, but this Thxgiving....4 of my brothers and sisters are meeting -- only 4 kids. But my brother says s/he wants to stay with the ex-wife and let her/his younger brother go without her/him. Dilemma: My brothers and sister who get together in the East for these Thxgivings regularly, seem like s/he can't be swayed to come. But I like her and I miss her and one brother (not dad) said I should call and try to get her there. stats: sister AA -- host of thxgiving (my best friend) has 2 boys brother A (divorced) has 1 son and s/he (but she wants to stay with ex-wife, maybe) brother B (married HS sweetheart) has 1 son and thought maybe I should call her/him to invite her I think thanksgiving will be glorious as ever at sister AA's house. But I've been told to try to get my niece to attend.
...that was really hard to follow. I got that you have a 16 year old sex changed relative. <iframe width="853" height="480" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/p2EA2nA2ar0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>
In terms of how you should treat her? Go on as before. Shes got a mental illness thats not much different than someones whos an aneroxic imo. Talk to her like the otherwise normal person she probably was before the years of being in the middle of two people who clearly did not want to stay married to each other.
I agree....but my [advice] question is how? What can I say. I'm not allowed to call her by name anymore. I think I can make this work, but I could f!ck up in my first sentence on the phone with her/him. He is a friend of mine on facebook apparently. I didn't notice at first, because he changed names.
Why wouldn't you want your daughters being lesbo. It's so much better than thinking about them having every hole destroyed by disgusting dudes. Just tell your sons to have like 10 kids and its all good. Girls can't even pass on your name so whats the point....
I wasn't able to follow which family members were welcoming or unwelcoming to your nephew. If you can't say his name, then I'd just keep it casual and say "hey, I just wanted to make sure you were going to be able to make it for the dinner." You can even ask if there are any dietary requests or something. Just call him by the new name if you can do that. If you do mess up and call him by the old name, just apologize and let him know that you are really trying, but you're so used to calling him by the old name that you messed up and you'll try not to do it again.
I actually noticed s/he changed names on facebook, and I thought emo. When I thought she was still she. Sorry, i keep up with them on cell phone mainly. but I know better, and we (my family) knows better, but let's just say s/he knew. Can you help me help my thxgiving? It's not that big of a deal. I could just say nothing to him, but I want to see him and supposedly have to persuade him to show with his other 4 nephews.
She is just looking for attention from her parents. Just ask her to come to thanksgiving like normal. If she brings up her gender issue, tell her the turkeys not gonna care who eats it.
