OK, a few years ago my boss and I were shootin the breeze when he posed a question to me, a connundrum if you will. I'd like to see what yall would do in this situation. You've cheated on your spouse. It was a one time thing and you regret it and feel terribly guilty. You know for a fact (lets suppose GOD himself told you) that s/he would never find out unless you tell them. Would you tell them to release your guilt and perhaps destroy your family/relationship? Or would you suck it up and live with the guilt? My view is that I'd probably not tell. To me it would seem selfish to only tell to release my guilt and destroy the peacefulness of my wife's life. But I can certainly see why you would tell (relationship based on honesty). What do you guys think?
I'd tell right away. If I didn't, the secret would eat at my very soul and make me a bad husband / father.
Telling would be selfish. You should instead deal with the selfishness in you that lead you to make the choice to cheat on your wife, not take the easy way out by getting it off your chest.
You have to ask yourself. Will any good come out of it? And invariably the answer is no. Nothing good would come out of it. So by telling her you have accomplished nothing for yourself, and nothing for the other person. You may relieve one burden, but it will be replaced by several more. Instead, I think you have to take the opportunity to grow from the situation and repay the debt to your family. Relieve you conscious by telling your god what you've done and what your going to do in order to make up for it. Then keep your promise. Now if she was a writer or artist, telling her would riddle her with pain and anguish, and her career would thrive in it. So some good would come of it.
from what i'm seeing...your boss is trying to see if you'd cheat on the company or not...just put the company's name in there instead of your wives. then the perfect answer would be: codell's answer: i don't have to think because i wouldn't cheat on my wife in the first place. there...now your boss is off your back.
Relationships should be based on honesty. I don't like the "what he/she doesn't know can't hurt him/her" philosophy. There is still a secret between you. I would just cross my fingers and try to break it to him in the most gentle way possible, and hope for the best. Better than living a lie. In cases where people cheat, it seems that the lying that comes with it is even worse than the cheating... in terms of the consequences, and what it says about you as a person.
I would confess my sins to priest and ask god for forgiveness. Hopefully, my penance wouldn't be to confess to my wife but say 100 Hail Mary's.
You know you can get away with a freebie that your wife would never find out about? What's the problem again? Just kidding. Don't do it in the first place.
It's always easy to say what you would or wouldn't do when you're not actually in the situation. To know the reality of what you would really do, you aould have to actually experience it. -- droxford
I would tell her and then cash in on whatever money I could on my ability to have the future revealed to me by God.
I would break down and tell. Back in 94, I was married and a good friend of mine was having a bachlor party. My wife at the time told me not to get a lap dance. Well there was this nice looking woman at the Gold Cup, so my friend bought it for me and I thought no problem. I got home the next day and it got the best of me and I told.
