Debating whether to discuss private matters on a BBS...

Usually because you don't really know the people here is a good reason to get advice.

It's sometimes objective, and good to see things from other people's perspectives.

Friends sometimes tell you only what they think you want to hear.

 

I'm having a homosexual relationship with somebody that posted in this thread...

Take a guess, you might be suprised!

 

ROXRAN

if just by reading this thread you can see the people generally look out for others best intrest. ONLINE if we as complete strangers began talking about your impending divorce or whatever I would be compassionate, but not likely as open with sharing my experience or what not.

the anonymity provided by the internet makes discussing incredibly personal topics easier. it also never makes anyone else uncomfortable. all they have to do is stop reading.

I share alot of personal stuff on here. I should say that most of my threads that I start are personal, but I am in NY and never planned on meeting any of you...
now I will likely change that my meeting Smeggy in the city, but it still wouldnt change the reasons i post personal subjects.

Yesterday a good friend of mine was killed in a car accident. I was stuck at work. I have no idea how to express myself, so I kind of wrote a little tribute to him and posted it on this board. someone you guys will never know, and I wrote a thread about him. I would do the same after meeting Smeg and Co.. and will continue to write about personal experiences as long as I feel the need and they may entertain and touch others.

I am sure that for you that reading and writing about weather or not you should post about personal life is cathartic in a small way.

 

Smeg:


What's the exact date? I hadn't gotten an E-Mail on this lately, so I assumed it wasn't going down, and am pretty booked. Either way, I'll see what i can move around, but can you send me the particulars?


Thanks bud.

 

ROXRAN, sorry to hear about your current troubles. As most people know, I've never really had a problem airing my personal issues here, and I would consider at least three people on this board personal friends (not counting the personal friend I had before this BBS). I have found that 95% of the responses are completely genuine and from the heart and 4.9% of them make me laugh regardless. That being said, I understand the hesitancy.

 

Roxran:

You'ld be surprised how genuine the members of this board are. (expecially after reading some of their posts!) If you want to post, go for it. I found it helped tremendously.

I hope things work out for you and Rox...You've had a rough few months.

 

K, for the sake of getting this thing started. Here's a literal private matter that I suffered through last week. I'm throwing caution to the wind on the face of being laughed at. *phew* Here I go.

Don't use shampoo as lube when your all alone. It might feel good at first, but after an hour or so of stroking, the acidic substances in the shampoo will kick in, and you'll be left in a world of pain for about a week. But atleast it's nice and shiny the whole time, til it starts to peel in which it's very painful. It's even more painful when you get morning wood, or are simply aroused, because the hardened dead skin that hasn't peeled causes painful tightens that can induce light paper cut scratches around it, because the dead skin is so hard and jagged. You just may have to sleep in the silkiest or softest boxers in existance just to get by at night, without it rubbing up against any moderately soft fabric that will bring shrieks of pain in the middle of the night especially if your the kind of person that rolls around in bed at night. May I never go through such a painful experience again. It's worse then any sprained ankle I've ever experienced. Sweet Jesus, my eyes are just watering thinking about it. And to think this is the PG rated version of my story.

 

Oh s*it, that was funny....This post deserves some type of award or some thing.

p.s. Next time just use the cream rinse / conditioner

 

dude, AN HOUR OR SO?

 

IT BURNS.....

.....oh God it burnsssszzzzzzzzzzaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!...........

 

Quote:
Originally posted by London'sBurning
Don't use shampoo as lube when your all alone. It might feel good at first, but after an hour or so of stroking...



dude, AN HOUR OR SO?


Wow.....thats a long time......LIAR,LIAR,LIAR!!!

Did you rinse and re-apply?

 

Sorry buddy.

 

I'm really sorry to hear about this....From what it sounds like, my wife and I went through this acouple of years ago ( infidelity ).

Thank God we managed to work things out, and are closer for that today.

btw - We also have two girls 3 & 4 1/2, I couldn't live with out them.

If you want to get together or need someone to talk with that can relate, feel free to e-mail me at carstens@ev1.net.

Jack

 

Damn. Good luck, man.

 

Rox,

I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through, but man GET A LAWYER! I don't know how many times I've seen personal friends go through this. They always say "oh, she wants to work it out fairly" or "oh, we'll get equal custody." BS. Divorces rarely, if ever, work out so neatly.

It sounds cold man, but you need to ensure your own mental, financial, and physical health. It will be hard to achieve that if you barely ever get to see your girls, or you're broke.

Get a lawyer. Now.

 

Roxran,

Sorry to hear about that...its a painful thing to go thru

but, I agree with the Burrito...even if yall are tryin to keep it cordial....get a lawyer.
Dont leave yourself open to getting screwed around, monetarily or custody-wise.

My best wishes to you, I sincerly hope you can work everything out to you and your girls' best interests.

 

Rockets2K,

I think maybe you should turn off your signature temporarily when talking to a father about his 2 and 4 yr old daughters.

hehe

ROXRAN,

Glad to here you got over the Bells Palsy. I really thought about you a couple of times, and had been meaning to catch you in a thread to ask.

divorce really sucks for the kids, imo. I hope you can prevent it....if not, you'll snap outta the pain soon enough, but don't let the custody thing slip, and don't fight over it when around the kids. imo, that's what's best. I was in and out of courts multiple times per year from age 5-13. that's how long they fought....

I hope you can return to Nashville, too, to be closer to them....that would make you happier, i'm sure...and stop the worrying that might build up.


so, what do your girls say to you about going away, if you don't mind me asking.

 

Yes an hour. Listen when you're in a house that normally has atleast another person walking around the house, and your insured that no one will be in the house for a few good hours and you've got nothing better to do, you might as well enjoy it. It's like a skit in Chris Rock's comedy show. "Scream if you want to, because no one's going to hear it!"

 

That is a fact, that was the basis from which I was speaking..
I was imbroiled in a nasty divorce that went from when I was about 9-15. They didnt have the tact to keep it hidden, we were used as paawns in their divorce games...it does no good for the kids to be involved.

I have a couple of friends that have been thru it also...
and one of the things they came to learn from their experiences is..If it has to come to that, get everything laidout in writing so there can be no mistakes or misunderstandings.